How do you tell your partner/spouse or gf/bf that you don't love them anymore?

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   alexandriaruthkposted 12 years ago

   How do you tell your partner/spouse or gf/bf that you don't love them anymore?
   
   Anyway you look at it, this is difficult mainly because you don't want them to be hurt. But it is more painful if it is just pity that you are feeling for them. Most just cheat because they don't want to hurt the partners feeling.
   
   What is the best way to tell them that you don't care or you have lost the love you once had for them? "I did truly love you, but not anymore" is painful.

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   duffsmomposted 12 years ago

   There is no easy way for a talk like that.  I think the best way to proceed is to first and foremost be sure of your own feelings--and be sure that what you are experiencing is not some transient emotional upheaval.
   
   If you are positive that it is over and you want out, sit down with them and be gentle and kind. Tell them you have thought about it for a long time and your feelings have changed and that you can't go on with the current relationship. Yes, it is going to hurt the other person terribly, but being gentle and honest is the only way to do it properly.

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   abbykorinneleeposted 12 years ago

   You tell the truth.  It is painful to hear but in the long run, lies hurt a whole lot more.  People take the truth a lot better than they do when they have been lied to.  Cheating so they don't hurt their feelings?  Rather cheating destroys their self-image and self-esteem and self-confidence.  If you are going to cheat than there is no reason you can't just say why you want out of the relationship.  All cheating is going to do is hurt them even more...this line of thinking makes no sense to me...truth sets you free...but when you lie you get all tangled up in your lies because you have to keep telling them to cover up the last one...eventually you have so many lies you can't keep them straight and the truth comes out anyway.

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   vashttii1posted 12 years ago

   Love has meaning, so when someone says i did love you but i dont now its showing this person your love was never strong enough to keep a bond. People think they can brake someones heart and go find happiness, but it does not work that way. In the end your setting yourself up to eventully have a broken heart.

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