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  1. TammyK profile image59
    TammyKposted 8 years ago

    What about when he's ready for commitment, marriage, family (children) and you aren't quite their yet.  Because of past hurts?

    1. Cagsil profile image81
      Cagsilposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Requirements for long lasting relationship:

      (a) Trust in all aspects.
      (b) Honesty in your actions toward yourself and partner.
      (c) Communication must be completely open for any topic and must be both ways.

      One-way relationships are NOT beneficial nor does it help a person's well being. When any of the three I've pointed out is missing, then your actions should be in your own self-interest and your well being.

      Make NO decisions based on emotions, otherwise the foundation won't survive.

      Thank you. Hope I gave some insight to the topic.

    2. Drew Breezzy profile image69
      Drew Breezzyposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      no need to rush into things

    3. Lady_E profile image68
      Lady_Eposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Well, if he truly loves you, he'll be patient and maybe even help you find ways to get over the past. smile

    4. Cagsil profile image81
      Cagsilposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Here is another piece of insight and believe it or not, it's the hardest thing to do- STOP living in the past. If you got hurt, realize why? or how? it happened, learn from it and move on.

      If you dwell on past actions, which trust, honesty or communications has been damaged, it is for you to consider if it really matter and how much. If you can't move on, then the relationship will not move on either.

      1. profile image0
        lyricsingrayposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        Cagsil, great observation and effort to inform but people want to hang on, it's too painful to let go and familiar territory is what creates security, or at least the perception of it.  Living in the past is what most of us do.  Fear of the future and confusion of the now are much more difficult that holding th past.

        I do really appreciate your view on relationships though.  It's very smart.

  2. prettydarkhorse profile image62
    prettydarkhorseposted 8 years ago

    Dont plunge into anything if youre not ready yet! You need to get over fully with your ex first..

  3. Dame Scribe profile image61
    Dame Scribeposted 8 years ago

    Relationships won't work if there's no trust hmm

  4. Richard Craig profile image76
    Richard Craigposted 8 years ago

    If he realy cares for you then he would understand.  You just need to talk.  Take it from me, there is nothing worse than being with a girl that keeps everything to herself.


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