Have you ever been placed in the "Friend Zone"? or Have you had a secret crush on a friend?
You felt the date went well. As your car approached her residence you wonder should you lean in for a kiss goodnight, a nice hug, or wait to see if she will invite you in. Your heart pounds as the two of you approach her door. She stops and turns towards you extending her hand. You are about to enter another dimension. A dimension not only of sight and sound, but of mind. A journey into a wondrous land of imagination. Next stop, the Friend Zone!
Been there...Done that...In the end, it's all about courage and respect. You need to have the guts to express your feelings. If she ends up dumping you, respect her decision and move on.
The Twilight Zone reference is funny. I would tell someone that I had a crush on them and then they assumed that meant that were going to sex and they actually called me a game player and said things like, "I'm tired of being played". I didn't know what they were talking about. Just because you have a crush on someone doesn't mean they can a free sex pass. Being blunt isn't always the way to go; it depends who you are talking to because people make assumptions and sex is a very sacred thing; it's not like shaking hands. That's why people should find one person to love instead of shopping for conquests.
The "Friend Zone" is a funny thing - we talk about avoiding it like the plaque, and in reality TRUE friendship is one of the greatest gifts we can have.
As Einstein himself said, "“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.”
It's the same thing we've done with holding romance as sacred and friendship as profane.
Over the years some of my best romantic relationships came out of friendship. Just recently I've started to go back and study how / why that is.
One of my main observations was that while attraction may fade; friendship can only get stronger. Yet, in order for the romance to take root it requires fanning the fires of attraction.
If you study any of David De Angelo's materials, his mantra is "attraction is not a choice." What that means in this context is that it doesn't happen spontaneously because you're such good friends.
Something has to change. Even when I stumbled along over the years, I managed to figure out that I needed to make the move. Just like the role of the leader in dancing tango is to initiate aka "lead," attraction is based on your role as the man and leading the relationship. This allows her to be the woman - to access her feminine side. And that - more precious than jewelry - is the greatest gift that you can give.
Hi I actually told her how I felt twice!!
First time we were both a little drunk(I know worst time ) but I never got an answer
Second time was the following day I asked her if she remembered our conversation from before she said only parts.
So I told
by akki 4 years ago
How do I stay out of friend-zone after confessing about my feelings.I was friend-zoned by this girl I love so much. She broke up with her ex and when I told her my feeling she said that she don't feels that way. I left and trying to move on but its so hard and I miss her a lot. I wanna talk to her...
by Abigayle Malchow 5 years ago
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by Michael Valencia 5 years ago
Can a man get out of the "friend zone"?
by pmorries 6 years ago
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by Steven Escareno 4 years ago
Okay folks. I'm bored again, and I'm having a bit of writer's block at the moment, so amuse me with your answers on this thread, and I'll gladly read it. Thanks for your time gang. Peace out.
by realtalk247 3 years ago
Can men and women be friends after initial attraction? Are men more offended when friend zoned?You meet someone and both express romantic interest in each other.He/She doesn't make an effort to date you but you still talk.You decide, hey, obviously this person isn't interested (that way) so...
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