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Confessions - Secret crushes and fantasies

  1. Cardisa profile image94
    Cardisaposted 5 years ago

    If you don't have a secret crush or a secret fantasy then scoot! You are in the wrong forum. If you are a prude then sorry, you hit the wrong button.

    Let me start.

    I have a secret crush whom I fantasize about quite often, even during sex with my partner. There!

    1. Emmelk profile image61
      Emmelkposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Oh goody!  Finally someone talks about something "taboo". 
      Unfortunately, fantasied are usually left as fantasies.  It's difficult to re-create one.  It can be done, but the fantasy must be discussed by all concerned.  One persons' fantasy can be a nightmare for the partner (s).
      The other day I was thinking about why humans are expected to grow naturally from birth to adult in a specific way.  Here's what I mean.  As we grow from an infant, we are expect to play with certain kinds of toys, and as we grow older, those toys change to other toys we prefer.  This process continues throughout life, right?  Sure, we'll find a hobby we stick with, sometimes for life, but over all, our tastes and desired change as we get used to them, get bored with them.  So why can't we change our sexual desires/fantasies as we get used to the old ones?  There will always be things that disgust us that we will never try, that our partners should know about.  It could be THEIR fantasy.  So take care in fulfilling your fantasy.  Get permission from the one (s) you are involving in it.  It can be very satisfying to actually re-create one, and maybe the others involved in it may add a new, interesting twist that you haven't thought of.
      Try it, you might just be surprised.

      1. gmwilliams profile image86
        gmwilliamsposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        NOTHING is wrong with fantasy.  Fantasy add spice to the sexual relationship.   If the fantasy is not about another, more exotic person, it is about an exotic place or a far out scenario.   The fantasy can even be a chocolate scenario.  By chocolate, I do not mean candy and/or other confections, that is ALL I have to say.

    2. Alastar Packer profile image86
      Alastar Packerposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Your alright with your fantasies Cardisa! When men and women cohabitate, their thoughts should be fanciful with lots of mental charms to fill the body with desire, right!

      1. Cardisa profile image94
        Cardisaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        Fantasies are wonderful, I feel alive when I fantasize about anything. Sometimes it's about someone. At other times it's about someplace I would love to be or something I would love to do.

    3. A Troubled Man profile image60
      A Troubled Manposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I thought that was going to remain our little secret? big_smile

      1. Cardisa profile image94
        Cardisaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        I just couldn't keep it to myself, the feelings are too great to hide! tongue

  2. SubRon7 profile image59
    SubRon7posted 5 years ago

    Every time I go out in the world a brand new secret crush/fantasy happens to me, and there it stays: A secret. It's a good feeling, though, to admire someone.

    1. Cardisa profile image94
      Cardisaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      You are right James. Having a crush or fantasizing about someone is good, shows how emotionally and sexually healthy you are.

  3. Dame Scribe profile image60
    Dame Scribeposted 5 years ago

    I have to watch my heart rate lol I might get too excited and pass out thinking of my crush wink

    1. Cardisa profile image94
      Cardisaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      That mus be a very strong chemistry you are feeling smile

  4. vocalcoach profile image99
    vocalcoachposted 5 years ago

    Gosh, I have had secret crushes all my life:)  I'd even have a crush on a stop sign if it paid attention to me!

    Johnny Depp is no secret to anyone who knows me.  I even wrote a funny poem about him.  He will always be my fantasy...sigh.

    1. gmwilliams profile image86
      gmwilliamsposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      There are Thomas Kretschmann, Denzel Washington, Curtis Chestnut, Sean Connery, Grant Bowler, and Frank Langella.   I just melt when I hear Mr. Langella's devilish voice.

  5. profile image66
    logic,commonsenseposted 5 years ago

    I have several secret crushes, including one here on HP!
    I just rotate them depending on the situation at the time of lovemaking.

    1. tussin profile image60
      tussinposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I'm wearing a bowtie and that's all I'm wearing.

      1. gmwilliams profile image86
        gmwilliamsposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        You VERY, VERY bad boy!   Punishment time!

        1. Cardisa profile image94
          Cardisaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

          Gmwilliams is wearing nothing...ooooops, I let out that secret. lol

    2. mdavis1984 profile image60
      mdavis1984posted 5 years ago

      What sucks is when you find out someone that fantasizes about you is like “too” serious. Ah, and then, they will do anything to make their fantasy come true. Yeah, they’re like obsessed and might be in a position of power to force you to do what they want...

    3. Moms-Secret profile image83
      Moms-Secretposted 5 years ago

      If I didn't love myself so much, I would say that I was defective now.  I don't think I have fantasies.  I have had crushes, I think.  Tho they don't seem like what you guys talk about here.  Just interests.  I was made without that initial attraction gene.  I start crushing after I know something about someone or I feel I can see into them.  Then attraction is overwhelming but I still don't fantasize about them.  As far as fantasies go, it is always about the person I'm already sleeping with...  Does that even count? 

      Oh well, I have always liked my weirdness...
      As far as Hub writers are concerned, there are 2 that I get a little too excited to hear from...  My always faithful Frank and my sweet sporadic Brian. 

      Love interesting thoughts that make you think...  hahaha.  Thanks Cardisa.

    4. habee profile image94
      habeeposted 5 years ago

      I have lots of fleeting crushes, which I think are harmless. I do, however, have one "serious" crush, and the guy feels the same way about me. We're both married and are committed to our spouses, however, so nothing has really ever happened, if you know what I mean. I've known this man for years, and we have a powerful physical attraction, as well as a strong emotional bond. He's smart, interesting, and funny, and we've had tons of in-depth one-on-one discussions. I don't see him much anymore, as cicumstances have separated us, but I think about him often. He still calls me once in a while to let me know he's thinking about me and that he still loves me. I will never get "involved" with this guy as long as we're both married, and I don't foresee a divorce in my future. I have a wonderful husband, and I love him.

      As for fantasies, practically all mine involve this "secret love." If I had to choose one person with whom to be stranded on an island (other than my hubby), it would be him.

      Wow. I can't believe I "spilled my guts" to you guys! Maybe I just needed to get it off my chest. Thanks for listening! lol

      1. Cardisa profile image94
        Cardisaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        I am in a similar situation Habee, there is someone a million miles away. We flirt but I don't know if he feels the same though. I am soooooo darn attracted to him!

    5. That Grrl profile image71
      That Grrlposted 5 years ago

      Keanu Reeves, we're the same age, grew up in the same city and have other assorted things in common. I've had a mad affair, a secret romance, with him since I was in my early 20's. Of course, he doesn't know anything about it. I've heard he is a really great kisser. Of course, I've never had a good kiss so this just keeps the whole spark burning. If I had more money and was just a bit crazier I'd probably stalk him.

    6. donotfear profile image90
      donotfearposted 5 years ago

      I've got a thing for bad boys; my age.


    7. ahorseback profile image81
      ahorsebackposted 5 years ago

      Cardisa My Love !.....I didn't know you cared !...lol , What would be the use of having a beautiful imagination be ?  fantasy ....Ummmm.  I always fantasize !