Confessions - Secret crushes and fantasies

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   Cardisaposted 12 years ago

   If you don't have a secret crush or a secret fantasy then scoot! You are in the wrong forum. If you are a prude then sorry, you hit the wrong button.
   
   Let me start.
   
   I have a secret crush whom I fantasize about quite often, even during sex with my partner. There!

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      Emmelkposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Oh goody!  Finally someone talks about something "taboo". 
      Unfortunately, fantasied are usually left as fantasies.  It's difficult to re-create one.  It can be done, but the fantasy must be discussed by all concerned.  One persons' fantasy can be a nightmare for the partner (s).
      The other day I was thinking about why humans are expected to grow naturally from birth to adult in a specific way.  Here's what I mean.  As we grow from an infant, we are expect to play with certain kinds of toys, and as we grow older, those toys change to other toys we prefer.  This process continues throughout life, right?  Sure, we'll find a hobby we stick with, sometimes for life, but over all, our tastes and desired change as we get used to them, get bored with them.  So why can't we change our sexual desires/fantasies as we get used to the old ones?  There will always be things that disgust us that we will never try, that our partners should know about.  It could be THEIR fantasy.  So take care in fulfilling your fantasy.  Get permission from the one (s) you are involving in it.  It can be very satisfying to actually re-create one, and maybe the others involved in it may add a new, interesting twist that you haven't thought of.
      Try it, you might just be surprised.

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         gmwilliamsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         NOTHING is wrong with fantasy.  Fantasy add spice to the sexual relationship.   If the fantasy is not about another, more exotic person, it is about an exotic place or a far out scenario.   The fantasy can even be a chocolate scenario.  By chocolate, I do not mean candy and/or other confections, that is ALL I have to say.

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      Alastar Packerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Your alright with your fantasies Cardisa! When men and women cohabitate, their thoughts should be fanciful with lots of mental charms to fill the body with desire, right!

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         Cardisaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Fantasies are wonderful, I feel alive when I fantasize about anything. Sometimes it's about someone. At other times it's about someplace I would love to be or something I would love to do.

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      A Troubled Manposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I thought that was going to remain our little secret?

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         Cardisaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         I just couldn't keep it to myself, the feelings are too great to hide!

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   SubRon7posted 12 years ago

   Every time I go out in the world a brand new secret crush/fantasy happens to me, and there it stays: A secret. It's a good feeling, though, to admire someone.

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      Cardisaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      You are right James. Having a crush or fantasizing about someone is good, shows how emotionally and sexually healthy you are.

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   Dame Scribeposted 12 years ago

   I have to watch my heart rate I might get too excited and pass out thinking of my crush

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      Cardisaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      That mus be a very strong chemistry you are feeling

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   vocalcoachposted 12 years ago

   Gosh, I have had secret crushes all my life:)  I'd even have a crush on a stop sign if it paid attention to me!
   
   Johnny Depp is no secret to anyone who knows me.  I even wrote a funny poem about him.  He will always be my fantasy...sigh.

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      gmwilliamsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      There are Thomas Kretschmann, Denzel Washington, Curtis Chestnut, Sean Connery, Grant Bowler, and Frank Langella.   I just melt when I hear Mr. Langella's devilish voice.

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   logic,commonsenseposted 12 years ago

   I have several secret crushes, including one here on HP!
   I just rotate them depending on the situation at the time of lovemaking.

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      tussinposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I'm wearing a bowtie and that's all I'm wearing.

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         gmwilliamsposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         You VERY, VERY bad boy!   Punishment time!

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            Cardisaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            Gmwilliams is wearing nothing...ooooops, I let out that secret.

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   mdavis1984posted 12 years ago

   What sucks is when you find out someone that fantasizes about you is like “too” serious. Ah, and then, they will do anything to make their fantasy come true. Yeah, they’re like obsessed and might be in a position of power to force you to do what they want...

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   Moms-Secretposted 12 years ago

   If I didn't love myself so much, I would say that I was defective now.  I don't think I have fantasies.  I have had crushes, I think.  Tho they don't seem like what you guys talk about here.  Just interests.  I was made without that initial attraction gene.  I start crushing after I know something about someone or I feel I can see into them.  Then attraction is overwhelming but I still don't fantasize about them.  As far as fantasies go, it is always about the person I'm already sleeping with...  Does that even count? 
   
   Oh well, I have always liked my weirdness...
   As far as Hub writers are concerned, there are 2 that I get a little too excited to hear from...  My always faithful Frank and my sweet sporadic Brian. 
   
   Love interesting thoughts that make you think...  hahaha.  Thanks Cardisa.

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   habeeposted 12 years ago

   I have lots of fleeting crushes, which I think are harmless. I do, however, have one "serious" crush, and the guy feels the same way about me. We're both married and are committed to our spouses, however, so nothing has really ever happened, if you know what I mean. I've known this man for years, and we have a powerful physical attraction, as well as a strong emotional bond. He's smart, interesting, and funny, and we've had tons of in-depth one-on-one discussions. I don't see him much anymore, as cicumstances have separated us, but I think about him often. He still calls me once in a while to let me know he's thinking about me and that he still loves me. I will never get "involved" with this guy as long as we're both married, and I don't foresee a divorce in my future. I have a wonderful husband, and I love him.
   
   As for fantasies, practically all mine involve this "secret love." If I had to choose one person with whom to be stranded on an island (other than my hubby), it would be him.
   
   Wow. I can't believe I "spilled my guts" to you guys! Maybe I just needed to get it off my chest. Thanks for listening! lol

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      Cardisaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I am in a similar situation Habee, there is someone a million miles away. We flirt but I don't know if he feels the same though. I am soooooo darn attracted to him!

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   That Grrlposted 12 years ago

   Keanu Reeves, we're the same age, grew up in the same city and have other assorted things in common. I've had a mad affair, a secret romance, with him since I was in my early 20's. Of course, he doesn't know anything about it. I've heard he is a really great kisser. Of course, I've never had a good kiss so this just keeps the whole spark burning. If I had more money and was just a bit crazier I'd probably stalk him.

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    donotfearposted 12 years ago

    I've got a thing for bad boys; my age.
    
    

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    ahorsebackposted 12 years ago

    Cardisa My Love !.....I didn't know you cared !...lol , What would be the use of having a beautiful imagination be ?  fantasy ....Ummmm.  I always fantasize !

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