Is asking someone for a date-more frightening than freefall parachuting-for you-

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   greenchaposted 12 years ago

   Is asking someone for a date-more frightening than freefall parachuting-for you-?
   
   In this age of hi tech-amazing communication systems etc, it seems more and more people finding it harder and harder to to look someone in their eyes and communicate their feelings--do you?

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   I never bought into the belief that people are “afraid” of rejection. I do believe people get (tired) of rejection and most people (hate) being rejected.  Jumping out of plane is far more likely to illicit (fear).

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   MissJamieDposted 12 years ago

   I'd rather communicate eye to eye with someone, especially in a dating/relationship situation. I get off on taking the initiative to ask a guy out. I was married for 16 years but awhile after I left my ex, I met someone. Neither him nor I were looking for a relationship at the time, we'd both been in 15/16 year relationships prior to this one so we weren't looking. It just happened. It was at the workplace so we were certainly careful but I knew we were into each other right away. So I went after him. Never once did I flinch about asking him out. Many girls think it's a guys job but what they don't realize is that men are just as afraid, if not moreso than we are, of asking a potential mate out for the first time. The first time we talked we were both on break at work together, only us, and he could tell I was a little distraught about something. I had just gotten off the phone after a short conversation about my jerk ex-husband, so this sexy guy scooted closer to me and asked if everything was ok and I just started spilling my guts. Only to find out he had almost the exact same thing going on in his life, exactly!! Down to the fact that we'd both been in our prior relationships for about 15 years, we both had 3 kids and our kids were with the other parent at the time because we were turning our lives completely around, starting from the ground up. Anyways, long story short, it was smooth and easy to speak with someone you have a feeling for right away. But if you're not sure, just walk up to them and ask them if they're available to go out for coffee sometime. If not, so what? If yes, good deal:)

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