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Do you hesitate to date an older man that never married?

  1. Stacie L profile image90
    Stacie Lposted 18 months ago

    Do you hesitate to date an older man that never married?

    Is an older bachelor someone to stay clear of if you are looking for a husband? Does this turn off women?

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    Cissy1946posted 18 months ago

    It never bothered me if an older man had ever been married or not if all I was doing was going out occasionally with him but for anything more serious or longer lasting then yes, I would hesitate. On the other hand, I married when I was 46 to a man who had previously been married and for the first year of our marriage my most used statement was "I'm not Alice." Alice being the first wife. So I guess both types of men have problems--unlike women who have no problems at all, ha ha ha...

    1. Stacie L profile image90
      Stacie Lposted 18 months agoin reply to this

      I had similar experiences when dating a widower...LOL

  3. LoisRyan13903 profile image81
    LoisRyan13903posted 18 months ago

    I married my husband who is 12 years older.  He was 39 when we got married.  He had been in a couple relationships that didn't work out.  Maybe if an older man explains why he didn't marry right away may make the woman understanding

  4. Aime F profile image84
    Aime Fposted 18 months ago

    Wouldn't bother me at all.  I don't think it's fair to assume that he's stayed unmarried because there's something wrong with him.  It could be that he was highly career/school driven for a good chunk of his adult life and didn't make relationships a priority until recently.  It could be that he invested his time in a long-term relationship with someone that didn't work out in the end through no fault of his own.  Who knows?  I think I can actually respect someone for not getting married because society expects them to by a certain age or point in life.  I could never fault someone for holding out until it's right, even if they don't find what's right for them as quickly as some others.

    1. Stacie L profile image90
      Stacie Lposted 18 months agoin reply to this

      Many men (and women) enjoy solitude and don't want to give into society or family pressures.

  5. ladyguitarpicker profile image75
    ladyguitarpickerposted 18 months ago

    I can answer this question easy, and very truthful. I would stay away from him if I were looking to get married. It would seem to me he would be too set in his ways, and would never be able to change anything. I have known a few men like this and never went out with them again. I think if you have kids and a family forget it they never understand anything.

    1. Stacie L profile image90
      Stacie Lposted 18 months agoin reply to this

      I think many women feel the way you do Stella. They get used to living alone and living on their own terms.Change may be difficult for these longtime bachelors.

  6. word55 profile image73
    word55posted 18 months ago

    An older man that's never been married is many times wiser and knows better of how to treat a woman even if he is 50 and above, 10, 20 or even 30 years older than she. The main thing is that he knows what he wants in a woman and believe it or not, he could make adjustments to allow the relationship to work and last for him and his mate to be happy. People think that older men are set in their ways and don't want to adjust/change but that is not true. Many older men know that their objective is to do what it takes to please that woman regardless of the age or age difference.

    1. Stacie L profile image90
      Stacie Lposted 18 months agoin reply to this

      So maybe he needed time to mature?

  7. Aliya Naaz profile image61
    Aliya Naazposted 18 months ago

    That older man only focused on his goal or achievement and now he realized and want to start date. One more reason not sure and its ratio is very low he could't get his reliable partner.

  8. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 18 months ago


    Personally speaking I don't believe a "never married" person is "damaged goods". Maybe the "right person" hadn't come along.
    There could be a number of reasons why someone has never gotten married including loving being single, refusing to settle, or spent their early years focused on other things like career.
    The reality is most people a woman or man dates are not going to be "marriage material" in their eyes.
    Dating is a process of getting to know someone.
    Each of has two belief options about ourselves:
    We can believe (we) are unique or believe we're like everyone else.
    If a woman believes she's like (every other woman) she's more likely to think if he won't marry her either. On the other hand if she believes she is (unique) then the women he has dated before her doesn't have a bearing on where their relationship might go in her eyes.
    Believe it or not lots of men have proclaimed they would "Never get married" or would "Never get married again!" and yet they did.
    Actor Warren Beatty was age 55 when he married Annette Bening .
    That was over 24 years ago. (A lifetime by Hollywood standards)
    George Clooney had openly stated he'd never remarry and yet he has. Most men don't "pursue marriage". They pursue women.
    The "right woman" changes a man's mind about marriage.
    He suddenly realizes she's "the one" he wants for life!

    1. Stacie L profile image90
      Stacie Lposted 18 months agoin reply to this

      These two celebrities may be an exception,according to others opinions.
      They may be getting married to please their fans.

    2. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 18 months agoin reply to this

      I can't imagine too many celebrities getting married, having children, and risking finances just for the sake of their fans. It may be a situation where an older bachelor simply decides he doesn't want to die alone.

    3. LoisRyan13903 profile image81
      LoisRyan13903posted 18 months agoin reply to this

      Another example is Alan Rickman.  He was with the same woman since his early 20s though they didn't get married until shortly before his death

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    frumpletonposted 18 months ago

    Dating would be o.k. I would wonder why he never had a close relationship, (marriage) unless he had a live-in partner.  He would be used to having things done the way he has always had them done.  That would be because he has lived alone.  If you married and lived in his home afterwards, he wouldn't probably want you to redecorate.  The cupboards would have everything stored the way he always had them.  But, on the other hand, he wouldn't be paying alimony or child-support, either, or having an ex-wife bothering you.  An older man can be more possessive and jealous of a young woman.  He might not show that trait in the beginning, but he probably will, eventually.  He will be afraid that a younger man might attract you.  I think you should get to know this person for at least a year or even two, before tying the knot.