Can men really handle long distance relationships?

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   BlessedBellaposted 12 years ago

   Can men really handle long distance relationships?

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   MickSposted 12 years ago

   Can females?  Men are just as able to handle long distant relationships.  Unless there is an enforced, of some sort, parting, this sort of relationship is only Platonic at best, and so doesn't count for anything certainly not as far as any form of fidelity is concerned.

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   Stina Caxeposted 12 years ago

   I think it is difficult for anybody to be in a relationship with somebody they cannot see or hold.  Some people seem to be able to make it work though.

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      dashingscorpioposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I hear you! Sometimes it's easy to confuse (calendar) time with (actual) time together. A couple who sees each other one weekend per month will say they've dated for a "year" but in real time they've only been together 24 days! Some get engaged! :-)

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   The goal of any "long distance relationship" is to be temporary. Ideally a couple wants to be together on a regular basis. I don't believe it's any more difficult for one sex over the other. However in order to maintain a "quality" LDR certain things have to take place: lots of communication via phone, text, email, Skype, greeting cards, along with (taking turns) visiting one another.
   The biggest challenge with LDRs is when there is no "light at the end of the tunnel". There needs to be a (date) when the couple will be together period. To sail a ship without a destination eventually gets old. It's the having a "count down" date that keeps a LDR going.
   Odds are if two people are attending separate colleges for 4 years, they will most likely breakup. Teens and young people often get tired of being alone while surrounded by numerous social activities and parties that take place on campus.
   Another challenge with LDRs are the times when you have a fight or disagreement. It's much easier to ignore the person you are upset with and more difficult to "make up".
   Depending on how much time the couple had together (before) they were forced apart due to circumstances also effects their chances of staying together. The less time they had together the more likely the LDR won't last beyond 6 months to a year. The only reason for being in a LDR is because you believe you have found "the one". If it's simply a case of (dating) then you may as well do that locally.

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      Stina Caxeposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Tru Dat Dashingscorpio.    Seriously though I think ya pretty much covered it all right there.

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   lburmasterposted 12 years ago

   Can women really handle long distance relationships? It's a two way road that I don't think is easy. Never have I met a couple where it worked out.

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      Stina Caxeposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I was in one for 5 years until I finally moved in with him.   I regretted it shortly after, he changed from sweet and nice to mean, possessive and abusive.  It's so hard to really know someone you don't see on a regular basis.

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      dashingscorpioposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      It worked for me. After a year of taking turns flying back and forth from Orange County (California) to Chicago I moved to the Midwest after we got engaged.  We lived together for 1 year. We've now been married for almost 5 years. LDRs are not easy!

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      Stina Caxeposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      That is actually super awesome that it worked for you.  And even more awesome that you moved to Chicago, I want to move to Chicago almost as much as I want to move to Cleveland.  (I named my daughter Addison after Addison St in Chicago - cubs fan!)

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      lburmasterposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Now I know one person who it worked out for. Also, I love your name, dashingscorpio.

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   Mufaddal Masterposted 8 years ago

   Depends on person to person.
   Usually if you are in love a deep love than nothing is impossible for anyone.
   Long distance relationship requires a strong trust a loyal commitement from both sides. If a man gets it surely it can handle a long distance relationship.

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