Divorce - When do you call it quits?

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   collegedadposted 11 years ago

   Divorce - When do you call it quits?
   
   It's obvious to many when enough is enough and it's time for divorce. For others it's an impossible decision. I was raised believing that divorce was not an option and that families should stay together. My first wife gave me no option. She moved to Mexico and married someone else, but that's a story or hub for another day. Well convinced you to take that step and file for divorce?

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   peachpurpleposted 11 years ago

   in your case, obviously you are left for no choice but to file for a divorce. My family doesn't approve divorce either but my husband's side, there are 3 case of divorce and one being kept as a mistress! I think the only last line to step into divorce room is when there is no compromise for both parties. No point lingering on when the pain is still there even though are separated.

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      collegedadposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      There is very little divorce in my family tree, but in my wife's family it runs rampant. They seem to marry with the expectation that it is inevitable.

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   dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

   There is no amount of "communication" or "work" that can overcome being with someone who does not want what you want.
   The important thing to remember is life is a (personal) journey. Only (you) can decide if being in your marriage makes you happy. No one gets married to live in hell. In our society we tend to say: "Human beings make mistakes". However when it comes to marriage we want to try and (force) people to stay with a mistake they made.
   I personally believe the number one cause for divorce is and always has been choosing the (wrong) mate! It defies all logic to believe you can make a mistake in every area of your life with the "exception" of marriage. Awhile back I wrote a hub titled: DIVORCE: The upside http://dashingscorpio.hubpages.com/hub/ … The-Upside
   One of the reasons why we struggle with making the decision to break free from an unhappy marriage is we worry about what others will think about us, we don't want to be part of a growing statistic, and some people would rather stay with the devil they "know" then to step out into some "unknown" future. Ultimately YOU are responsible for your own happiness. If you choose to stay in an unhappy marriage then YOU are (choosing) to remain unhappy. I talk about this in my book:
   My Cat Won't Bark! (A Relationship Epiphany) http://www.amazon.com/Cat-Wont-Bark-Rel … 1468104721
   There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: we either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Best of luck!

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      collegedadposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      To often I hear the phrase "I think I settled" when it comes to marriage and I'm sure it's true. In our haste to fulfill societal norms we often rush into relationships. You must marry, you must produce offspring, family equals success.

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      dashingscorpioposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Very true. We often let society or "circumstances" dictate our actions. For many years my relationships came about through "happenstance". I spent more time planning a vacation than I did trying to determine if someone was "right" for me. :-)

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