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Forget or forgive - which is easier for you and why ?

  1. dghbrh profile image78
    dghbrhposted 5 years ago

    Forget or forgive - which is easier for you and why ?

  2. ii3rittles profile image81
    ii3rittlesposted 5 years ago

    Forgetting is sometimes hard, but when your heart knows real love, forgiving is an easy thing to do.

    1. dghbrh profile image78
      dghbrhposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Many thanks for your view here.

    2. svennyg profile image60
      svennygposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Having 1st hand experience and dealing and counselling people I don't think one can ever forget, as it is in our memory bank forever, but once true' forgiveness has taken place, the memory of the incidence bares no longer relevance and hurt.

    3. dghbrh profile image78
      dghbrhposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Many thanks for your kind response @svennyg.....i agree with you here.

  3. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago

    I choose never to forget any "life lesson" that comes my way whether it made me happy, angry, or sad. People who (forget) tend to repeat the same mistakes.
    Forgiveness is simply deciding not to mentally (dwell) on an issue anymore. It's about moving on. Very often you are (forgiving yourself) for putting yourself in a particular situation, overlooking clues, or not evaluating your decision in depth.
    Forgiveness doesn't mean you have to remain in contact with someone. It just means you are freeing up your mind and heart to focus on other things.

    1. dghbrh profile image78
      dghbrhposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Your response is much appreciated here.

  4. MissJamieD profile image72
    MissJamieDposted 5 years ago

    I'm an extremely forgiving person and I do it constantly. To me, that's easy. Forgetting is not easy, you don't have a whole lot of control over your brain but time does begin to make certain things fade, thankfully. Forgiveness is supposed to be for yourself mainly. Hanging onto anger and bitterness and sadness doesn't do anybody any good. Therefore I choose to let things go and move on with my life.

    1. dghbrh profile image78
      dghbrhposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      That is great really. Thanks.

  5. shwetha123 profile image71
    shwetha123posted 5 years ago

    Its very hard to forgive some one. And until and unless you did not forgive you are not able to forget.

    So in my opinion forget and forgive both are difficult things. But once you forgive some one you can easily forget it.

    1. dghbrh profile image78
      dghbrhposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks you for replying here and hope you have a great day ahead.

  6. Tonipet profile image84
    Tonipetposted 5 years ago

    To forgive is easier. When we give forgiveness, it allows us let go of whatever pains and hurts that helps us forget. While it's not easy to forget (I don't easily forget) but  letting go of anything the heart and mind resents at least makes it easier to move on and treat life much better.

    1. dghbrh profile image78
      dghbrhposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for your reply here.

  7. Lanzskie profile image75
    Lanzskieposted 5 years ago

    It's easier for me to forgive than to forget. Knowing and accepting the fact that everyone has flaws is invaluable, because it makes it more easier to forgive them. However, consistent mistakes is entirely a different story! Although that I don't hold grudges and can forgive them quite easily, forgetting their mistakes is a bit 'tricky'.  The argument would be, 'to forgive others is to forget their mistakes' this is not entirely the case like most of here have pointed it out.

    Through the mistakes of others we are able to pick it up and ensure that we won't make the same mistakes as them. I would like to add that forgiving is more or less about attitude and personality whilst forgetting is simply related to mentalality, if you like.

  8. Sphinxs Sanctum profile image61
    Sphinxs Sanctumposted 5 years ago

    Forgetting & forgiving walk hand-in-hand, especially when the offending individual is really close to your life or "in your face" every day.  I've had family members do some truly, unforgiveable things that are burned into my memory.  Letting go of the pain they've caused is made so much more difficult when I have no way of putting space, distance & time between myself & the act that caused the pain because of seeing the person that did it, every day or even weekly.  So, finding a way to "let go," forget the specifics of the misdeed & forgive has only been possible for me when I'm not confronted by that individual on a regular basis.  Anyone else find this predicament?

 
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