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How guys can handle shopping for long periods of time with their wives, or girlf

  1. yankeeintexas profile image60
    yankeeintexasposted 5 years ago

    How guys can handle shopping for long periods of time with their wives, or girlfriends?

    I don't have a problem going to a store to buy something, and get out. But, when I shop with my wife (don't get me wrong I love her) I find myself getting bored, and frustrated. Am I the only one or are most males like this?

  2. duffsmom profile image60
    duffsmomposted 5 years ago

    Here's a question that goes with it.  I love my husband but I would not drag him around shopping because he hates it - why do women insist on taking their husbands shopping when it is so miserable for them?

    I think most men dislike shopping.  Women who drag their spouses or boyfriends around shopping need to explore some independence--leave the guy alone and shop by yourself or with a friend.

    I have to admit, as a woman, I hate shopping too so I have no idea how you can get used to it.  Good luck!

  3. Lisa HW profile image73
    Lisa HWposted 5 years ago

    Well, I'm not a guy but I can't stand being in stores if I'm not the one shopping, and I can't stand "shopping" if it isn't going to reasonably quickly result in actual buying.  When I'm with a companion of either sex who spends more time in the store than I'm interested in doing (and honestly, my kids would back me up when I say that their father should "win The Prize for how long he looks at stuff before actually buying anything, if, in fact, he ever does buy at all) I just go outside an do something like find stuff on my smart phone or find something to read on Kindle.  I sometimes get a coffee or tea to bring with me, and turn the outside wait into a nice, little, fresh-air "me alone" time.   I'll check my e.mail, call people, whatever...   Or, I dig out my GPS from purse and clean out unnecessary stuff, get phone numbers from local points of interest (I use the GPS as kind of phone book for businesses in the area that I don't call often enough to keep the number in my phone contacts).  Also, I'm not above taking pictures (either with my phone or the camera I keep in my bag) of things like the sky, any flowers near the stores, anything I might possibly use in a Hub or other online writing (a brick wall, a squirrel, a stop sign - whatever there may be).  I've also got a mini-radio in case I want to see what people are talking about on talk radio.

    See this is the difference between men and women:   Men need to learn to carry purses, and purses big enough to keep their electronic stuff with them at all times.    smile   smile   (If it's a wait that I see coming I make sure to add my little laptop to that purse.   smile  )   As you know, though, sometimes it's not possible to predict when one of those aggravating waits is going to happen.

    AND, the beauty of carrying a purse is that yet something else to do while on one of those unbearable waits is to straighten out one's wallet or purse, trim out any cash accumulated register receipts, make sure one's keys are where they ought to be (so they won't be lost when needed), etc. etc.

    So, GET A POCKETBOOK, YOU MEN!!!!!    smile   Fill it up with stuff to do and stop (forgive me, but a lot of you guys have it coming) WHINING and wasting valuable time that could be used for multi-tasking.  (I hope people see my attempt at humor here)  You aren't the only ones who ever have to wait for someone who takes too long to shop, and you're not the only ones who don't like making an hours-long affair out of buying stuff.

    1. yankeeintexas profile image60
      yankeeintexasposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I don't think I will go as far as carring a purse with me but having other thing to do is always good we are stuck shopping, or in other boring situations!

  4. FatFreddysCat profile image98
    FatFreddysCatposted 5 years ago

    I hate shopping unless it's for beer, movies, or CDs. So if my wife is going to a store where any of those items are available, I will gladly accompany her. If not, she goes by herself.

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    Deepes Mindposted 5 years ago

    I used to be like this as well. I would sometimes get bored and irritable when going shopping with my wife. Needless to say, this caused a strain on our relationship because for her it wasn't just about the shopping. Once I looked at things from her point of view, it became easier for me to go shopping with her. She wanted to shop, but she also wanted to spend that time with me because she loves me that much. Another reason she took me with her is because she values my opinion regarding what she wears because she wanted to make sure she kept looking good for me so my eyes don't wander.. Now I like going shopping for three reasons:

    1) I enjoy the time we spend with each other because I love her so much. The time we share is valuable to keeping the bond between us strong especially since time is one thing we can't get back once it's lost.

    2) I get to see her try on clothes and I get to help dress her as according to how I like to see her. She gauges my reactions to seeing her in certain things before making her decision.

    3) If I do what she likes at that point in time, she does what I like later on (if you catch my drift)

    So if I can give you any little bit of advice, It's this: Go with her because you love her and enjoy the time you are spending with her.. It will start to change your perception about shopping. Also, she will appreciate it and it will help her to feel that you still desire her because you are giving your input into how she looks in something (it shows you are paying attention to her)