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Does cheating on your cheating partner repair a broken relationship?

  1. moiponetsoka profile image71
    moiponetsokaposted 5 years ago

    Does cheating on your cheating partner repair a broken relationship?

  2. MickS profile image71
    MickSposted 5 years ago


  3. moiponetsoka profile image71
    moiponetsokaposted 5 years ago

    @MickS do i work on the relationship with the emotional cheating partner or i gather courage to leave him

    1. Moms-Secret profile image83
      Moms-Secretposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Why does leaving take courage?  I am having trouble understanding.

    2. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Mom-Secret, Making a major change in your life is always taking a leap of faith and requires courage. Some people stay in bad or unhappy relationships because they're afraid to leave and start over. "The devil I know is better than the unknown..etc"

  4. Alaina Smith Cain profile image60
    Alaina Smith Cainposted 5 years ago

    Obviously you don't watch the Maury show! Any day of the week you can see how two wrongs never make a right! Let me guess, he or she was supposed to be faithful to you and they weren't but you don't want to dump them, you just want to fight "fire with fire". Well here's what always happens when you play with fire, you get burned! You want revenge, teach that person a ''lesson'' that you can't and won't be treated that way, that's understandable but it's just not wise. Hypothetically speaking, let's say that you successfully cheat on your lover the exact same way your lover cheated on you, no harm done right..........wrong! All kinds of things can occur, you can get pregnant, catch a disease, or even worse you can develop a fatal attraction! Why do you think there are so many stalkers in the world and so many crimes of passion? Think! It happens because ''casual sex'' is never as ''casual'' as a couple ''thought'' it would be. And sadly enough, there have been times when cheating actually happened to strengthen a relationship, but that's only the exception......not the rule. If you really wanna make this person hurt without any repercussions what you do is dump him or her, tell them because they're not good enough for you, and make sure you look absolutely dazzling while you're doing it. Nothing makes a lover more mad at themselves than to see how stupid they were to let a good thing go.

  5. profile image0
    JThomp42posted 5 years ago

    No. Two wrongs do not make it right. For me, cheating is a deal breaker. C-ya. smile

  6. Moms-Secret profile image83
    Moms-Secretposted 5 years ago

    In rare occasions, I have seen a marriage come back stronger after infidelity but it takes a lot of work from both sides.  If you are not married and this is happening, I would not take it any farther.  Cheating on a cheater?  I would not change my character to get back at anyone and do you really want to invest precious time with someone that you want to get back at?

    Apply this same question in any other life situation and the answer is going to be no.
    If someone hit your car, would you backing into their car make it better?
    If some woman fought with you, would fighting with her the next time you saw her improve your relationship?  Could you ever be best friends?
    If a dog bit you, would biting it back fix the situation?
    Good Luck

  7. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago

    If you want to have sex with other people and remain together why not just have an "open relationship". If you think your cheating is going to stop your man from cheating, you are wrong! Either he will dump you or he will feel (more justified) in doing what he is already doing. We can control (our) actions but NOT the (consequences) of our actions!
    The only person you can control is yourself! If you want a boyfriend or husband who does not cheat then don't date or marry a cheater. If you discover your mate is cheating then dump him. Thankfully there are 7 billion people on this planet! You do have options!
    People change if and when (they) want to change! Believing otherwise is having "unrealistic expectations". I talk about this a great deal in my book. You are responsible for (your) own happiness!
    If you are unhappy in a relationship and (choose) to stay then (you) are choosing to be unhappy.
    My Cat Won't Bark! (A Relationship Epiphany) http://www.amazon.com/Cat-Wont-Bark-Rel … 1468104721
    Best of luck!

  8. duffsmom profile image59
    duffsmomposted 5 years ago

    No, then you would be a cheater as well - it doesn't cancel the other cheating out.  If your partner is cheating, step away. Cheating shows an incredible lack of respect and compassion for one's partner. If you know for sure your partner is cheating there are a lot of things to consider.  If he stops cheating, will you ever be able to trust him again...if he gets an odd phone call, of is 20 minutes late coming home - will you be twisting in agony wondering if he is seeing someone else.

    Do you want to live like that?  I would leave, as painful as it is...and find someone who will be faithful to me.

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    Justsilvieposted 5 years ago

    No! it just makes you a cheater too! Either discuss it and have an open relationship if you are both on that wave length or say good bye and get on with your own life.

  10. soconfident profile image85
    soconfidentposted 5 years ago

    In some cases for some people who has been cheating as well.