How would YOU feel ......
Your husband/wife has a new coworker who is also an old ex gf/bf who you know would like to have him/her back. How would you feel? Would you be suspicious? Would you trust your mate and your relationship? Would you feel safe letting him/her go to work or would it drive you slowly crazy ?
It would drive me crazy. I would try to have trust for the spouse, but it would slowly drive me crazier and crazier.
I would not like it. After all your "enemy" gets to spend far more waking hours with your spouse at work then you do at home. Since you clearly stated that you (KNOW) the ex wants to get back with your spouse then it's not a matter of being suspicious or trust (on the part of the ex) in my opinion. You already know (they) have a plan in place.
It's now up to you to create (your) plan. First of all you have to look at the (big) picture and ask some important questions.
1. Does your spouse love his or her job?
2. Is it a great company with lots of good benefits (high salary and growth potential)?
3. Is this a large or small company? Will they be working in the same building/department?
4. What led to their breakup? Who dumped whom?
5. Does it bother your spouse that they have to work at the same company?
6. Are the exes "friends" now?
7. Do you (REALLY) trust your spouse to "forsake all others"?
If the answer to number 7 is "yes" then you have nothing to worry about. If the answer is (no) then you have a lot to worry about because even if their ex were not working with him or her your spouse would probably cheat with someone else!
In the "Godfather" movie Marlon Brando advised "keep your friends close but keep your enemies (closer)." In this case you might choose to befriend the ex and invite them to parties and gatherings at your house. Some people go as far as trying to play matchmaker by seeking to hook them up with singles they know of.
The absolute WORSE thing you can do is blame or take it out on your spouse. It's not their fault that the company hired one of their exes! Therefore keep your plans to yourself and don't ever accuse him or her unless you don't trust your (spouse).
Call me crazy but I'm in a relationship where we feel comfortable telling each other anything and everything and we have both agreed that if we're ever in a situation we're feeling like cheating we'd tell each other first and work it out from there. I trust him as much as he trusts me - completely. Besides I am secure in the fact he loves me and the relationship we're in is far stronger than his exes (after all she's an ex for a reason.) I guess this comes down to confidence in self, something many women seem not to have.
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