Is it a good idea to trial moving in together before taking out a lease, or just jump in?
For example, either of you moving into the others family home to try living together before moving out together?
Of cause yes. The last thing you want to happen is to be stuck with a lease to a place that is falling apart
I believe that it is an important thing to do unless one of the people has lots of money. I say this because one has to know where the money is coming from and how to take care of the house. If one of the people in the settlement is rich than one can pay for a housekeeper, pay for the mortgage, and pay for counseling if times get rough. Otherwise, it is important to know the basic pattern of how it will all come together.
Is this an empty family house or is the whole family going to be there with the couple? I think that would probably not be a good indicator of living as a couple, but who knows? At least you would get to see if the other person helped clean up or not.
I don't think anyone should move a lover into their parent's home! Let's say the couple breaks up. Is that person going to keep using their family home as a "test ground" to allow future lovers to move in and out before they get their own place?
Ideally both people should be (independent) enough to have their own apartments before considering living together.
It also depends on how long the couple have been "seriously" dating. Odds are if you been dating 18 months to 2 years on a (regular) basis spending nights/weekends at each other's apartment you probably have some clothes, toothbrush, and other articles in both places. There should be an indication of whether you can live together and deal with each other's habits/ways over a period of time.
Last but not least (both) people must know (why) they are moving in together. Is it just to save money? Is it for convenience?
Too often couples move in together with one person believing it's a (step) towards marriage. Very often it is the woman who is frustrated when years go by without getting married. If (marriage) is the objective then get engaged first! (buy the ring and send out the "save the date" notices even if it is a year away to family and friends on or before the day you move in). If things don't work out you can always call off the engagement/wedding. The point is (both people) be serious enough about one another to publically announce their marriage intentions prior to moving in.
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