Do you have more communication issues with member of the same or opposite gender

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  1. Seek-n-Find profile image74
    Seek-n-Findposted 12 years ago

    Do you have more communication issues with member of the same or opposite gender?

    Who do you have most communication issues with?  Do you think gender is a factor?  If not, what factors do you think impact communication misunderstandings most?

  2. ChristinS profile image37
    ChristinSposted 12 years ago

    I enjoy all types of people, but I feel I communicate better with men.  I've always had more male than female friends and the female friends I do have tend to not be gossipy or competitive etc.  Any friend I keep close it's typically because they have a great sense of humor, a sharp mind and they don't trip over the trivial.  I don't deal well with gossips, jealousy, the need to one up the other person etc.   I value true equality and give and take in any friendship. 

    One thing I really can't deal with are chronic whiners and victims.  I don't mean the people who have a genuine problem as I am there for those I love in times of true struggle.  I'm talking about the people that turn every tiny thing into an epic saga of woe is me (and typically it's the women I've known more than men that feel compelled to do this. -  sadly)

    1. Seek-n-Find profile image74
      Seek-n-Findposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I have some similar views!  Especially regarding the victim mentality-I try to acknowledge people's pain but not get tangled in to the victim "feel sorry for me" power struggle.  I actually think it is a form of manipulation.Thanks for sharing!

  3. lburmaster profile image71
    lburmasterposted 12 years ago

    Same gender. Guys I can talk to all day long. Music + games + movies = easy. Females on the other hand speak of makeup which I didn't touch until college, other women whom I never know, hobbies (as if I can cook or have time for scrapbooking), etc. Few women I actually get along with. With those few, we talk about guys, movies, books, weapons, and how to get back at individuals. Kind of limits the friend list.

    1. Seek-n-Find profile image74
      Seek-n-Findposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for your answer!  Simplicity for sure has a place in our daily lives.  :-)

  4. Michael-Milec profile image60
    Michael-Milecposted 12 years ago

    Hello seek-n-find.
    Hm. Gender might not be a factor; rather a theme or subject. Listening in communication is very important, also to hear in order to carry on an intelligent conversation. Coming to a point, if in agreement it's worthwhile to continue, especially the things pertaining of eternal value...( we are running out of subjects where the objectivity and truth might lead to a better conclusion). Misunderstanding will bring either to change of subject or parting with " smile " while one party might leave in disappointment. " Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?"
    ( Amos 3:3)

    1. Seek-n-Find profile image74
      Seek-n-Findposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you!  Very good verse--much wisdom there!

  5. dashingscorpio profile image71
    dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

    I honestly think there are very few "communication issues" between people. Too often a person doesn't get what she or he wants and they claim their is a "communication problem". 
    Don't expect communication to lead to action! Just because you didn't get what you wanted doesn't mean you were not heard or understood. Communication is not an "ask and it shall be given" proposition. Communication is nothing more than one person expressing an idea/thought and another person acknowledging they heard and understood what was said. 
    Saying, "I love when you bake me chocolate cake" is not the same as saying, "Will you bake me a chocolate cake this weekend?"
    Unless you are talking to someone who does not speak your native language odds are they (heard) what you said and (understood) the meaning of the words you used. If there is a problem with communication the onus is on the person expressing the idea to articulate their message (clearly) and in a way that makes sense.

    1. Seek-n-Find profile image74
      Seek-n-Findposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Some good points! I fully believe the best communication is when both people take responsibility for their part--the speaker should try to be clear and direct when needed and the listener should check for understanding and ask follow-up questions

  6. bangell08 profile image74
    bangell08posted 12 years ago

    I seem to communicate better with members of the opposite gender (males).  Although, I'm not quite sure if it really has to do with gender or if it's just the kind of guys and kind of girls I hang around with.  It seems weird, because guys are typically thought of as not being sensitive and not having deep, emotional conversations - but I think the deepest conversations I've had have been with guys, not girls. Maybe it's just because guys are "simpler" so to speak - they typically don't play games, and they tend to get right to the point. Maybe I just appreciate that different view when talking about my life to guys, or maybe I somehow feel like I can trust guys more because there is less "drama" than with girls. I'm not sure.

    1. Seek-n-Find profile image74
      Seek-n-Findposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for your answer!  I think I'm starting to see a trend here--many of the women have shared your view.  I wonder if once a girl is married, if she maintains that same "easy" communication with her spouse?

 
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