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   jadam12posted 10 years ago

   Is women judging men on their monetary value the same as men judging women on their body image?
   
   Furthermore, why then is it socially far more acceptable for women to judge men on their monetary value than for for men to judge women on their body image?  If women and the modern feminist movement don't like men judging body image, they should look inward and realizer they are being far more sexist than most men.

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   ChristinSposted 10 years ago

   Well, I consider myself a feminist, yet I don't judge men by their monetary value. I think you are hanging out with the wrong women.  I make more money than my partner and he and I are both fine with that. I judge men on their character, intelligence, energy and emotional intelligence.  The fact my partner is very handsome in my eyes is just bonus
   
   Most of the women I know are similar to me.  There are a few out there that want to catch a man to take care of them and have them pay for everything.  In my opinion and experience these are women who have little to no self-esteem or pride in their own hard work, so they use their looks or whatever as a means to an end. 
   
   These women I would advise men to avoid, just as I would advise women to avoid men who only value them as arm ornaments.

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   Express10posted 10 years ago

   Each of these mistakes are wrong and stupid, but not equally in my mind. Each INDIVIDUAL has their own set of standards and beliefs. For example, there are plenty of fat, bald, sloppy looking, or otherwise unattractive men that insist that they are attractive to thin, well-groomed, and beautiful women. These same unattractive types often have nothing outside or inside to attract let alone keep the types of women they want interested in them. I am a woman and I can tell you that this is a common thing across many ages and backgrounds.
   
   You are very correct in saying that some women are gold diggers, but these are fools who place little value and self reliance on themselves to provide for themselves with the abundance that they prefer to leech off of a man. SAD! They are the bane of the existence for women who are married to or involved with men that have an excess of money or potential for it. Gold digging is their problem and should never be yours. A man (or anyone for that matter) who trusts his instincts and/or takes the time to really find out what that individual's motives and true beliefs are will likely run away from these types instead of towards them.
   
   Women judging men solely on their prospects of "taking care of" them are gold diggers, leeches, etc. Also, if they won't marry you because you want a pre-nup, lose them! Steer clear. Men who judge women solely on their body image are immature, not marriage or long term relationship material, etc. Steer clear. Both are wrong but whenever one of these types finally learns the error in their ways, it always seems that there are at least one or two others who are just as immature, selfish, and stupid to take their place. These types have always been around and with the way the modern world is, it likely won't change.

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   tsmogposted 10 years ago

   Hello jadam12. This question has been around with man and woman as genders since, well, a bit and a byte. It may never get answered. Personally, I say toss everything out the window and ponder they both are judging.
   
   Next, take a peek at any reputable site regarding the Myers-Briggs personality indicator. Maybe if interested grab a bit and a byte from a well versed site on archetypes from Jung's perspective. Next, take a snapshot of Maslow's Hierarchy of needs and need deficiencies. Sharing, I was a judgmental type until I learned I had that personality type. Then I sought change. I did not like being a judgmental type.
   
   In other words, I have not an answer for your question. Personally, what is natural is easiest for me today. Yet, when I was, say, in my early twenties natural was not what natural is for me today.  Kinda' like how water flows mostly downhill, usually, as a stream.
   
   I Ponder learning as the cause of dispositions. I Ponder the question stated foremost. The personal response I tender is "of course" that is natural as to common is to a hamburger today. Yet, fish and chicken is on the rise. Salads too. I ask sometimes when asked this question in the past using a familiar story of great debate. No religion intended. Only a bit and a byte of pondering.
   
   "Who was wealthiest, Adam or Eve?
   
   Who was richest, Adam or Eve?
   
   Who had more abundance, Adam or Eve?
   
   Were they ever equal?
   
   When did they become unequal?
   
   Why were they unequal?
   
   What was the cause of being unequal?
   
   Was that cause wealth, riches, or abundance?
   
   What is most abundant today?
   
   What wealth today is sought most?
   
   What is richer wealth or abundance?
   
   What abundance has the greatest wealth?
   
   What abundance of wealth offers riches beyond today's riches?
   
   Who said "an apple a day keeps the doctor away"?
   
   Who said "early to bed, early to rise, always makes a man healthy, wealthy, and wise"?
   
   Who said, "A penny saved is a penny earned?"
   
   What does the word Earn mean?
   
   Is a picture worth 1,000 words?
   
   Which is easiest reading words or looking at pictures?
   
   Is the word Earn within the word Learn?
   
   Which is greater value or worth?
   
   Is Why, "Y"?
   
   If Why and/or "Y" is removed, then there are 25 letters in the alphabet and that leaves who, where, when, what, how and how much.
   
   What does Return on Investment mean?
   
   I Ponder these from time to time, even though they may not make much sense . . .
   
   tim

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   Honestly there is no "right" or "wrong" here. Everyone is entitled to have their own "list" or requirments for whom they would consider dating or entering into a relationship with. The real judging is when one person tells another person there is something wrong with their (wants) or desires. Life is a personal journey.
   
   I've heard of people that won't date someone unless they have a college degree, or is a certain height, weight, race, religion, hair color, full head of hair, aligned with a certain political party, enjoys dancing, lives within a certain distance, has no children, has never been married, non-smoker, non-drinker and the lists go on and on.
   My point is for every one of those things that is "important" to one person may not matter to another. The reality is poor guys do find love and overweight women also find love. Just take a walk through any mall, Wal-mart, park, or beach and you'll see a wide variety of couples that managed to get together. It's also not uncommon for someone to throw away their list when they meet a certain person. Everyone is entitled to have their own preferences, desires, or goals.
   All of us are guilty of "excluding" people from being our potential friend, lover, or spouse for one reason or another.

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