How can you move on from letting someone special go to marry someone else?

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   DDEposted 11 years ago

   How can you move on from letting someone special go to marry someone else?
   
   The married woman  has feelings for another he is going  to be married soon and she can't let him go  it is not easy  to get him out of her mind.

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   dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

   Accepting the facts is the first step to letting go of a fantasy.
   You have to replace one thought with another thought. If this woman focuses on her husband and their life together with time she will be mentally in another place. However the key to accomplishing this is for her to disconnect from the other man. You can't get to second base if you insist on keeping one foot on first base.

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      DDEposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for answering this question you said it best and I appreciate you taking part here

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   Madeposted 11 years ago

   It's hard. She needs to focus on something else that's important to her to be able to stop thinking about him. The time apart from each other will be hard, but she has to think that maybe they weren't meant to be together... Maybe he leaving her will lead to something even greater in her life.

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      dashingscorpioposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Made, She is the one that is married. He is now engaged to someone else. It's not clear if they ever actually had a relationship.

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      Madeposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Oh, she is married. I'm sorry. I read the question too fast and missed the important words "married woman"

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      DDEposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      It is fine thank for taking part in this question

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   CraftytotheCoreposted 11 years ago

   I've never been in this predicament.  But when I was in my early 20s, I met a man who I fell madly in love with.  I thought the feeling was reciprocated, but it wasn't.  Unfortunately, he was marrying someone else.  The only way I could get over it was to remove him completely from my thoughts and life as much as possible.  He made it difficult by showing up at my office and doing random things when I just wanted to be left alone.  I finally told him to just never see me again. 
   
   Eventually, I got over it.  Then, when my children were 1 and 2, I was in a public park and he was there with his wife and son.  He married someone completely different because the girl he cheated on when he was dating me cheated on him.  LOL

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      DDEposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Tough situations and tough love thank you very much for co-operating

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   MG Singhposted 11 years ago

   One has to face reality. Believe in yourself after all there are many pebbles on the beach. Best is to find solace in another partner. If not available then read the Gita and meditate

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      DDEposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you

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