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How can a single man marry his arranged choice of partner if his heart is loving

  1. DDE profile image24
    DDEposted 4 years ago

    How can a single man marry his arranged choice of partner if his heart is loving someone else?

    A single man is not sure of the arranged choice of partner do you think he will marry and be happy with her if his heart is still seeking someone else?

  2. Thief12 profile image91
    Thief12posted 4 years ago

    The question should be "Why marry someone if he loves someone else?". If his heart is not with the person he is marrying, then either the marriage is destined to fail, or their lives are destined to misery.

    1. DDE profile image24
      DDEposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for you r feedback I appreciate you answering this question.

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    sheilamyersposted 4 years ago

    Thief is correct. It makes no sense to marry someone if you don't love them even if your family picked that person. It's only one of the reasons arranged marriages seem ridiculous to me. Yes, I know they're a cultural thing and who am I to put down other cultures? I'm just stating my opinion.

    1. DDE profile image24
      DDEposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you and you made a good point  of how ridiculous arranged marriages are.

  4. ktnptl profile image86
    ktnptlposted 4 years ago

    You have to think more aspects in this situations. If a man still seek someone but she may be not available to him, or she loves someone else and want to marry him. In this case, that single man can marry the arranged partner who loves him. Seeking someone and getting her are two different thing, we do not get what we want all the time. So it is good to accept the reality and live happily with your arranged partner.

    1. DDE profile image24
      DDEposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      A sensible thing to do is to marry and accept but without love that is different. Thank you.

  5. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    It really depends on how "married" he his to his culture and customs. If he respects them and does not want to disappoint or disrespect those who made the arrangement then he likely to go through with.
    Only time will tell if he cultivates a deep love for his mate. Odds are if they have children together it will make it that much more difficult for him to leave whether he is happy or not.  With divorce rates as high as they are odds are arranged marriages can't statistically be much worse than "choice" marriages. There are a lot of people who are unhappy after being married a few years. No guarantees in life!

    1. DDE profile image24
      DDEposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      You said it best  time will and love is special if one has it. Thank you for answering my question.

  6. fivesenses profile image77
    fivesensesposted 4 years ago

    Depends on so many factors....sometimes the person he loves maynot love him back and the arranged marriage he gets into might get him a great compatible partner....
    On the flip side, he can be miserable for life if he cannot forget his love, even after being married.

    1. DDE profile image24
      DDEposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for answering ''On the flip side, he can be miserable for life if he cannot forget his love, even after being married.'' surely makes sense here

 
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