How can I maintain my relationship?

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  1. boby325 profile image46
    boby325posted 6 years ago

    My GF's family is against our relationship. They even closed all the ways of our communication. We can't even send a SMS in her birthday! But the main factor is that "We love each other". So what should we do now to run our relationship?

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      ThomasRydderposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Hi...you don't really give much info about your relationship or the family's stand. Why are they against it? Have they met you, do they know you? I guess I'm asking what is the overall dynamic? Is she divorced? kids? Is the family protective, and no one will meet their criteria? Give us some clues....:)TR

    2. Daniella Lopez profile image93
      Daniella Lopezposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      I'm with Thomas... not enough info has been provided. The main thing is, why is her family against the relationship? Discovering this will help paint a clearer picture of the overall dynamic.

  2. boby325 profile image46
    boby325posted 6 years ago

    Thanks ThomasRydder and lopez for your interest. Ok I'm describing. The main difference is that her family is richer than mine. I'm just studying BBA. She is in 11th class.

  3. LookingForWalden profile image58
    LookingForWaldenposted 6 years ago

    Love is powerful. If you really love eachother don't despair you will find a way.
    But my curiousity piques me. What is the story behind all this. It sounds like you guys are young.

  4. boby325 profile image46
    boby325posted 6 years ago

    I'm 23. She is 16. But her family tries to enforce her to get marry with the man they chose.

    1. couturepopcafe profile image60
      couturepopcafeposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      There's your answer right there.  You're a 23 year old male, she's a 16 year old female.  If I were her parent, I'd do the same thing.  Forget trying to be with a child no matter how mature she tries to be or you think she is.  She doesn't know what love is yet and is just too young for 'love' relationships - especially with a 23 year old.   With all due respect for your feelings, son, this should be (from an adult view) out of the question..

      1. couturepopcafe profile image60
        couturepopcafeposted 6 years agoin reply to this

        If you are sincere about 'maintaining your relationship', write her a handwritten letter whenever you get the time.  Don't mail them as they are likely not to reach her through the parents.  Keep them until such time as you may see her and give them to her.  If this relationship lasts another 2-3 years when she is of age take it from there.

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    ThomasRydderposted 6 years ago

    What is "11th class"? and what nationality and culture are we dealing with? are we talking arranged marriage?

    1. couturepopcafe profile image60
      couturepopcafeposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Can't be arranged if her parents are not allowing it.

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    ThomasRydderposted 6 years ago

    Sure, couture, lets forget about the fact that some eastern cultures allow and encourage their women to marry by age 16. Do you know where they are from? No...and by the way, the arranged marriage I was speaking of was in the text further up, where he stated that the parents wanted her to marry someone else that they preferred or arranged for. Stop being so full of yourself and pay attention.

    1. couturepopcafe profile image60
      couturepopcafeposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Pardon my mistake and thank you for pointing out my overbearance.  I will make an effort in future to be more careful.

      I stand, however, on my comment about age difference, culture aside.  Even in cultures where tradition dictates this, IMO a 16 year old is not mature enough for this type of relationship.

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    ThomasRydderposted 6 years ago

    I agree....even though some cultures allow it, conventional wisdom would probably encourage a bit of patience. But...it would still be interesting to find out the why's and wherefore's...nothing says they can't "date" and perhaps marry in the future. And apologies for being so abrupt.

    1. couturepopcafe profile image60
      couturepopcafeposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      smile  Thanks.

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    ThomasRydderposted 6 years ago

    Absolutely...I don't believe the present "issue" is a reason for war...

  9. boby325 profile image46
    boby325posted 6 years ago

    Ok it is not the perfect time to marry her. But her parents try to enforce her to get marry with a 27 y old man just now. I want to wait for her maturity but her family will not give us such time. By the way, I'll give all of this to my fate and look forward. Thanks to all for cooperating me with your warm hearts.

    1. couturepopcafe profile image60
      couturepopcafeposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      In Bangladesh, is there a legal age for consent by the woman?  Or can she be forced to marry by the parents?

    2. Captain Redbeard profile image59
      Captain Redbeardposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      At the very top you said that you two love each other and her parents are trying to keep you two apart, you did not say that you are trying to wait for her to mature so you can pursue and that her parents are trying to marry her off to someone else. So which is it?

  10. Captain Redbeard profile image59
    Captain Redbeardposted 6 years ago

    With parents that are about marrying her off to a certain person, money factors and you being 23 says you need to walk a way. Period. If she isn't being abused, walk away. If she is being abused report it to the proper authorities AS LONG as you have sufficiant evidence. Don't cause trouble for people if there isn't anything to cause trouble about.

    When I was a teenager I tried dating a girl of a different race and her parents about skinned me alive. Somethings are out of your control. This is one of them. She is a minor and you are well over the legal age gap of consent for anything proper. Give it two or three years and see where she is then and then go about your business. Until then, as far as I see her dad has the right to contact authorities on you! I have three daughers and I'll be damned buring in hell if I let some 23 year old come near any of them when their 16. Just say'n dude. You should back up.

 
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