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What are the 10 reasons why people should wait until their mid-30s to marry and

  1. gmwilliams profile image86
    gmwilliamsposted 4 years ago

    What are the 10 reasons why people should wait until their mid-30s to marry and use their 20s

    as a relationship exploration period?
    The 20s are a time of relationship exploration.  The 20s are not for marriage. The 20s are a time for self, career, and/or relationship exploration.  Furthermore, it is the 20s that should be a time for dating, NEVER the teens as the teenage years are too young to be in a relationship.  The mid-30s is the proper time for marriage as at that time, a person is self-assured/mature, lived life, and has career and financial stability.


  2. DDE profile image24
    DDEposted 4 years ago

    Commitment is not for the 20s
    Explore and enjoy life in the 20s
    Learn more about oneself
    Find the true self
    Show more responsibility
    Be able to meet different people
    Too early for a permanent relationship
    The 20s is for showing your  all sides in life
    Use the 20s for personality improvement
    Learn more about the needs of a  permanent relationship

    1. gmwilliams profile image86
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Definitely!  Good answer!

  3. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    I whole heartily agree with you gmwilliams.
    The teens and 20s are a period of self-discovery. The focus should be on learning about ourselves: our wants, needs, and finding out what it is we like and dislike when it comes to relationships. Odds are whatever we consider to be an "ideal mate" at age 18 will be something completely different at age 28 or 35.
    Having said that there will always be those who hit "the relationship lottery" early in life. "We met in Jr. High and have been together ever since...etc" However the vast majority of us tend to "fail our way to success" when it comes to relationships.
    Oftentimes the advice given to our youth is ignored for many reasons. Chief among them is our hormones are raging during our teens and early 20s. Every teen or person in their early 20s believes they're smarter than their parents or elders when it comes to love, sex, and relationships. Teens want to be seen as  being adults and have their relationships viewed as such.
    It is not until we have (personally) experienced heartache and disappointment that we start to do some introspective thinking to examine our (choices) we have made with regard to selecting our mates.
    Each of us chooses our own friends, lovers, and spouse. There is no getting around that. If we are unhappy with the choices we've made we can (learn) from our mistakes and make better choices for ourselves in the future. It's important to know yourself, love yourself, and trust yourself BEFORE you choose a mate. Too many people however would rather blame their exes for their bad relationship experiences instead of acknowledging (they) selected that person!
    I made this the central theme in my book: My Cat Won't Bark! (A Relationship Epiphany). Our lives for the most part are the end result of the decisions and choices (we) have made along the way. Whenever we "blame" others or outside forces we negate our own power of choice. Self-empowerment comes from realizing we always have "options" and being willing to take responsibility for our own happiness!

    1. gmwilliams profile image86
      gmwilliamsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Totally agree, the 20s should be FUN, FUN.  The 20s are THE TIME to have fun and freedom.  I believe that NO ONE should marry before 35.  Great answer as always.