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How long do you think you need to be courting or in a relationship before gettin

  1. Dviews profile image58
    Dviewsposted 4 years ago

    How long do you think you need to be courting or in a relationship before getting a proposal?


  2. David Carl profile image70
    David Carlposted 4 years ago

    I don't think there is any specific time frame required. In order to accept a proposal from someone, you would need to know them long enough that they are really the person and the type of person that you would want to spend the rest of your life with and to be the father or mother of your children.

    To answer those questions you would need to understand what kind of person that would be in terms of character, faith, morals, family, etc....

    1. Dviews profile image58
      Dviewsposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks David for taking the time to read and comment.  I also agree with your answer.

  3. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    It's up to the individuals involved. It's more important to believe you have found "the one" then it is to have spent a certain amount of time with someone. Not long ago a study was done which revealed by age 44 that 84% of men have been married at least once.
    This would suggest that the two leading reasons that keep men from proposing are: 1. Timing (He's not ready to be married) 2. He does not believe he's met "the one".
    It's not uncommon to hear about a guy dating a woman for 4-5 years and when the relationship comes to an end he marries the next woman after only dating her for a year or so. Clearly he was either ready or felt the new woman was "the one".
    On average I'd say if a man is in his early 30s and has been dating a woman for 18 months or so he should know whether or not she is "the one". Most guys in their 20s are in no rush to become their parents! (Getting married, taking on a 30 year mortgage, having children) is like watching their lives flash before their eyes! :-)

  4. Tusitala Tom profile image62
    Tusitala Tomposted 4 years ago

    This not an easy question to answer because it is possible for people to meet only a few times and 'live happily ever after'  By this, I'm being facetious.  I mean, having a reasonable loving and life long relationship.  This happened to War Brides in World War Two.  Some were successful in the long term.  I expect the majority were not.  One would have to get hold of the statistics.

    Then there are the cases of couples going out together - or even living together - for years.   But once it came to their getting married and the days 'of beer and skittles' were over and that dreaded sense of responsibility and having to actually make a life together, is too much and they separate.

    This business about the 'right one' is a bit of a misnomer, too.  I'm of the opinion that any reasonable well adjusted and mature male could marry just about any woman in the world if she, too, was reasonably well adjusted and mature.   I'd say compatibility rates far wider than is often believed when it comes to finding a partner for life.

    But how few of us don't have our hang-ups and idiosyncrasies and are really world-wise and loving human beings.   It's no good marrying simply because 'you're lonely.'   You could well be just as lonely in marriage.   

    To me, I would say compatibility, friendship, mutual interests and the willingness to be a friend, lover husband or wife and to let the other be AS THEY ARE not how you might later like them to be when the initial novellty of being together wears off, is probably what is most important.   'Being in love' is a need.   Loving is something else again.   And sometimes this only develops over time.   

    How long we're willing to 'hang in there' and stick by those marriage vows is what is important.   How long before you make that commitment depends entirely upon the individuals concerned.

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    sheilamyersposted 4 years ago

    It depends on the couple. I wouldn't tell anyone to rush into a proposal only a week or two after meeting someone, but I also don't think it always takes months or years. How much time does the couple spend together each day? How much do they actually share about each other when they talk? I think they need know the person at a much deeper level than just their favorite type of pie and that they both like to watch the same TV shows. How long it takes to know the person depends on how open and honest the two people are with each other.