How do you apologize to someone for making the same mistake you've made many times before?
The person isn't even on speaking terms with you. And the apology will be the umpteenth one for transgressions that you previously promised would not reoccur.
Be as sincere as possible and try your very best not to do it again.
I like to know this too? If someone gives a good answer, I will try it on someone that is not talking to me when I try calling tomorrow. I let everyone know how it turns out. We will call it experiment #598.
There is actually a quiz on apology languages and how to apologize differently depending on what apology language the other person prefers. And you can do an apology language quiz. I didn't know there were different ways to apologize and that the different words matter to different people.
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/resource/ … nt-enough/
Why bother? Actions speak louder than words!
Stop doing whatever it is. This person may eventually hear that you've changed. Even if they don't that is the price we pay sometimes for hurting and disappointing people over and over again. There's a valuable lesson to be learned either way. It only takes a second to destroy trust that took years to build.
People who hurt others over and over again are generally immature and have no concept of thinking about how their actions might harm others. Essentially they're (selfish) people who only "live in the moment". Love shouldn't hurt. Oscar Wilde said:
"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
Clearly if someone is hurting you, betraying you, or even lying to you over and over again then it's safe to say they don't believe you are "special". Each of us is responsible for our own happiness.
At some point one has to cut toxic people out of their life.
Maybe the apology has nothing do with betrayal. Many gray areas involoving this question, but you made a great point concerning toxic people.
luvtoowrite, You may be right but given that the question is under (gender relations) - "Relationship Problems and Advice" It's a good chance that it involves lying, cheating, or some form of betrayal that's not living up to one's expectations.
I actually just left the cap off the toothpaste one too many times. Just kidding Funny, I'm sitting here in a restaurant while Fiona Apple's song Criminal plays in the background. A perfect soundtrack for this little thread.
by Elena 7 years ago
Do you apologise to people, even if you are NOT in the wrong – just for peace sake?I do sometimes, to avoid any stress but I don’t want people thinking I’m a soft touch.
by Theocharis V 9 years ago
What is more important in life, a) to apologise or b) to say thank you?
by Apostle Jack 10 years ago
How do you apologize to people,or do you?
by Greg Schweizer 4 years ago
Why does everyone expect an apology for something said?When somewhat outrageous things are said, why do people expect an apology? once something is said it is out there and an apology isn't going to change the way that person felt at the time. Especially the media will harp on those words even if...
by Writer Fox 6 years ago
For all of the people who complained about unanswered emails and unpublished articles on Squidoo, Seth just posted on his blog about apologies:http://sethgodin.typepad.com/seths_blog … ology.htmlSince he doesn't allow comments on his blog, you may comment here.
by Jacqui 6 years ago
If you were wrong, would you admit it?In discussions on HP or in life if you wish - if you were wrong, particularly in a discussion where you and another normally disagree. Would you admit it and apologise or go on with the facade? If you were the person apologised to - would you lord it over them...
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