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Do you show jealous feelings when others improve on their lives?

  1. DDE profile image24
    DDEposted 4 years ago

    Do you  show jealous feelings when others  improve on their lives?

    When people grow and progress and make changes to succeed do you become jealous of their success?

  2. Sparklea profile image75
    Sparkleaposted 4 years ago

    No.  I respect them. 

    That being said, when I was working at a state institution for the mentally retarded I saw a lot of people get undeserved promotions.

    When you work for the state, there are unions involved.  Everyone has to take a test to become a certain grade number which affect the person's salary.

    For example I was a Grade 5 Stenographer.  I took a state test to be eligible for a Grade 9. Sr. Stenographer.  I passed it, and I was able to get on a 'list' when a state opening occurred.

    When a job opening came up, I was interviewed to get the Grade 9 promotion.  HOWEVER the person who had the highest grade in the test, and applied, got the job.  This person could be a whiz with tests but have a terrible personality and be lazy, plus a time abuser.  But THE UNION rule was that she got the job.

    When I had a second opportunity to be interviewed for a Grade 9 position, before my interview, a woman came up to me and said she, too, was applying for the job and she would get the job because she was at the top of the list.  She had a terrible reputation in the facility.

    This was a great test of my faith.  I said nothing.  Turns out, she declined the interview and the second in line was offered the job and she turned it down.  That left ME and I obtained the position.  I was thrilled, and I stayed in my job until I resigned from working.

    All of the above I consider to be unfair.  To get a promotion IS a sign of success.  BUT to get it according to state "rules" is just unfair. 

    I saw a gal hired for a new grade 5 position and then get promoted within a year to a Grade 13...where others who were eligible and  had been working there for 25 years were turned down because of the test grades.

    Therefore to answer your question more accurately, I applaud people who make changes to succeed, and progress, like my husband who works over 60 hours a week, never abuses his time, and just received a promotion and raise.  NO jealousy. 

    To sum it up, it's a jungle out there and many do deserve success, but when it's handed to them, like Justin Bieber and Miley Cyrus, I don't get jealous.  I get disgusted.  Blessings, Sparklea

    1. DDE profile image24
      DDEposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Interesting insight to jealousy you got me thinking about your situation and jealousy. Thank you

  3. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    Never. I look for clues on how I may do the same. Personally knowing someone who has overcome challenges to succeed is inspirational.

    1. DDE profile image24
      DDEposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for the valuable anwser.