How do you contend with jealousy (the insecure, overbearing kind)?

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  1. hollyschulz profile image56
    hollyschulzposted 9 years ago

    How do you contend with jealousy (the insecure, overbearing kind)?

    Jealousy's a big problem, whether combating it internally or externally.  On my weak days, I've yet to figure out how to win this battle.

  2. stricktlydating profile image82
    stricktlydatingposted 9 years ago

    On your weak days, just try your best to keep your jealousy private - take some alone time to sort through your feelings, and do whatever you need to do to work through those feelings - cry, scream or write down your feelings, take a relaxing bath etc.  Stay away from your mobile phone and texting in the heat of the moment, because you don't want to regret anything you say or do once those gelous feelings have subsided.  And remember to be kind to your self-confidence - Tell yourself positive thougts such as "I am beautiful and wonderful, and I really have nothing to be jealous about".

    Best wishes.

  3. AgingtoPerfection profile image57
    AgingtoPerfectionposted 9 years ago

    I think the answer lies in facing yourself and finding out why you feel jealous and insecure.  If enough people have rejected us, we begin to "assume" others will, and they usually do, for we have already rejected ourselves through the perception we have of ouselves.

    If you pick people in your life that try to control you or aren't kind to you, then there will also be a continuing internal feeling of being unimportant and you then become jealous of other people because you feel insecure and perhaps don't feel you measure up.

    Loving yourself is always the key to having the confidence you need to accept nothing less than the best for youself.  You then won't have to feel jealous or insecure, for you know who you are and what you have to offer.

    I used to feel the way you say you do now.

    But, I now believe in a God who loves me and who I have accepted in my heart, and this has transformed me into a woman who finally knows what love is, and this gives me a confidence and a strength to no longer make wrong choices which leave me feeling insecure or jealous.

    "In the fear of the Lord is STRONG confidence."

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    reeltaulkposted 8 years ago

    Dismiss them out of your life slowly but surely.  Anyone who has had to deal with a situation as such knows that it is very draining.

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    Women as Objectsposted 8 years ago

    Jealousy is a horrible feeling.  Often our jealousy comes from our own insecurity or lack of attention from our partner.  It is important that our partner encourages us and gives us the attention that we desire so we aren't jealous of other women.

  6. krushizm profile image61
    krushizmposted 8 years ago

    if they don't want you they don't want you. if a man or women is your rib then and only then will they stay. you must find your rib , when you do you will see that this is the man or women that you are suppose to be with. i had a wife for nine years in had to learn this the hard way. not money . not gold, not looks, or good  sex will keep them. thats the way god wants it to be. i rather wait for my rib to come then to play myself in get hurt.  jealousy will not work it best to leave before somebody feeling get hurt or somebody get hurt phyiscally.

  7. Angelladywriter profile image52
    Angelladywriterposted 8 years ago

    Jealousy is difficult to contend with. The best way I have discovered to deal with it, is to still treat the person that is acting jealous toward you kindly. This leaves them in a confused state as to what is going on in your mind. By responding with a complaint about jealousy, you put yourself within their hands to treat you any way they would like. They are in control and can continue to demonstrate these jealous acts. Remember kindness  and love is always better than jealousy and envy. Love and kindness is easier to express. We are not created to demonstrate negative qualities that is why things like jealousy and envy are not normal for us. They cause us to much pain and suffering whereas love and kindness make us feel good.


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