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Why is it wrong to love someone more then you love yourself?

  1. profile image53
    ibeenthinkinposted 3 years ago

    Why is it wrong to love someone more then you love yourself?

    I don't mean your children because I figure that's a given. I mean "love" real love! That feeling that you really don't see living life without your significant other. Not in a suicidal way but just that person enhances or makes your life that much better that you don't see life with them by your side. Why should I feel guilty for living someone this much.  If they inspire you to better yourself and to want to better yourself to keep them and your relationship happy, then why not. Besides that brings another point, I can't control the way I feel for someone.

  2. erorantes profile image50
    erorantesposted 3 years ago

    Some people keep others because it is convenient for them. Real love is the love we feel for others. The person we love have to be special. We reward their good things . A kind action that They did. Going after some one 's  for sharing your life. It is a different feeling. Only you know.The reason why is wrong. It is because  it become an obsession unstead of you a  beautiful relationship.

  3. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    Life is a personal journey.
    You're entitled to do as you please with your life and do not need the approval of others. Having said that the general belief is it (healthier) to love one's self, maintain a high self-esteem, and retain some emotional independence.
    Generally speaking those who don't are prone to being taken advantage of by others or may become suicidal if their mate should betray or leave them. They're less resilient after heartaches.
    People who truly love themselves aren't likely to put up with much crap! They refuse to stay in abusive relationships because they believe they deserve to be treated better. They tend to lead a well balanced life which entails staying connected with friends, family, co-workers, and having their own personal interests/hobbies outside of their relationship. This provides an emotional security safety net.
    Lastly some people's love is borderline obsessive or fatal attraction. These people are so completely invested in their mate that they think about or wonder what their mate is up to 24/7 which can lead to invasion of privacy such as reading their emails, checking their phones, or following them around town. In some instances they are highly jealous, suspicious, or paranoid for no reason. In other instances they are very clingy and almost smother their mate to a point where they're pushing them away. In the worst cases they might become violent if their mate dumps them. "If I can't have you then no one can have you!" or they kill themselves because they can't imagine living without their mate. They ignore the fact there are over 7 billion other people on the planet. Odds are there is more than one "soul mate" for each of us.
    Nevertheless if you're happy and your mate is happy with the way you are that's all that really matters.
    Know yourself, Love yourself, and Trust yourself.

  4. Penny G profile image72
    Penny Gposted 3 years ago

    No, not if it's GOD. You should love him more than anything. To love other people you must love yourself first, and then GOD wants us to Love others as he loves us.