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Can you love someone too much?

  1. Nadia Botes profile image61
    Nadia Botesposted 3 years ago

    Can you love someone too much?

  2. Sri T profile image80
    Sri Tposted 3 years ago

    No. But if it's done it should be with no expectations from the other. Because love only comes from within. No one can feel a love outside of their own inner feeling.

  3. Sia184 profile image59
    Sia184posted 3 years ago

    Maybe not too much if it's reciprocated but sometimes probably more than they deserve.

  4. tsmog profile image82
    tsmogposted 3 years ago

    That is really hard to answer for me of least. [Insert Disclaimer here that this is one view, of which there are as many views as there are individuals on this planet] The bottom line answer for me of least . . . No, you cannot Love someone too much.

    I have discovered Love is both confining and all encompassing IMHO. With people I try to use the wisdom of 'The Four Loves' by C.S. Lewis as a guide. That book can be perplexing and challenging to read at times. The bottom line is it breaks Love into four areas:

    Storage - Affection
    Philia - Friendship
    Eros - Romance
    Agape - Unconditional Love

    Wikipedia does a fair presentation with an easy to read scholastic approach. There are many discoveries made on the web in its regard. A very, very short explanation is it shares there are two components of Love;

    Need Love
    Give Love

    The source of the Give Love when there is a Need Love may be at task while defining which of those 'Four Loves' is at issue. For instance if one has a long distance relationship or even an online relationship the communication and the action for romantic Love regarding 'Need Love' and meeting that with 'Give Love' is at times very challenging. However that essential 'Need Love' exists.

    Meeting that need may mean making a leap of faith to 'Friendship' or possibly a source of 'Unconditional Love' for fulfilling that 'Need Love'. That need is met with 'Give Love' from another resource. Simultaneously that odd feeling that one may have too much love discovers another or others with a need for 'Love'.

    Love is essentially transformed while remaining of form. Transformation occurs through format, expression, communication, and fellowship.

  5. Azela Rose profile image60
    Azela Roseposted 3 years ago

    I don't think that you can love someone too much, but there is a difference between love and infatuation. I have experienced both. If you love someone you want the best for them and put their needs before your own. You want them to be happy more than you want yourself to be happy. Infatuation happens when you are thinking about what you can get out of the relationship. Will he take me on dates? Will he buy me expensive jewelry?

    Love is unconditional, infatuation is conditional. If you love someone you don't withhold your affection from them because they did something to upset you, but infatuation is the opposite.

  6. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    I've only heard of (women) who believe it's possible to "love someone too much." And yet no one would say it's possible for a mother to "love her children too much" nor would anyone say a man "loved his wife and family too much" if he sacrificed his life to hold off intruders.
    Now if being willing to die for someone is not "loving them too much" then everything else pales in comparison!
    Most people who claim to "love too much" are really saying they don't love themselves enough! In fact they may love others MORE than they love themselves! They don't feel their mate loves them enough!
    When you love yourself you have high self-esteem, you have "deal breakers" and "boundaries". You won't stand for being taken advantage of or being abused. You refuse to settle.
    You're aware you always have options because there are lots of men or women who would want someone like you.
    "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
    - Oscar Wilde
    Odds are if someone thinks they "love too much" it means they don't feel (appreciated) in their relationship or they feel as though they're giving more than they're receiving. You have to love yourself enough to walk away from toxic or unhealthy relationships.
    Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.
    If you're unhappy with the choice you've made learn from it and move on. You're responsible for your own happiness! Best wishes!

  7. peachpurple profile image82
    peachpurpleposted 3 years ago

    nope, if you love someone more than yourself, you are sacrificing a lot of things and other people which is not logical.