How to move on if you are still inlove with your long distance boyfriend?

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   Evelynn Buenoposted 9 years ago

   How to move on if you are still inlove with your long distance boyfriend?
   
   I have this guy whom I love with all my heart and we are in a long distance relationship then he suddenly ignores me in facebook . He see me online and didnt even bother to answer my messages. What should I do?

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   Cooleene102527posted 9 years ago

   Hi Evelyn Bueno! This is just my advise on your problem. For me, if the talking and reaching out for him dosn't work and all your effort seems worthless, I think you should give yourself and him time and space. At the mean time try to make yourself busy for a while. Try baking,cooking,going to church, or going to gym ,make yourself fit,not just physically but also mentally fit. In that way you will not think too much, and ease the pain. Then when the time comes that you two get a chance to talk , be prepaired on his explainations and decissions. Be understanding to him. And if your relationship doesn't work , stay strong. There is no timeline on mending broken heart, but I can assure you, God has a plan for you. Maybe that guy wasn't the right man for you, and God will give you the right man, at the right time. Have faith! Cheer up !

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   Evelynn Buenoposted 9 years ago

   Yes Coleene. That is what im doing now. And thanks.

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      Cooleene102527posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Welcome evelyn.

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      Evelynn Buenoposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Same w/ the last two months that we broke up then he came back then again hes doing this no communication thing then we have this pinky promise that we will be forever and he will get me when i graduated in college that will be 2 years from now.

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   dashingscorpioposted 9 years ago

   In order for him to be "the one" he would have to see you as being "the one". At the very least a (soul-mate) is someone who (wants) to be in contact with you!
   Actions speak louder than words. You can't make no one love you the way you want to be love. It's up to you to choose someone who already is the kind of person you want to be with.
   Oscar Wilde once said:
   "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
   If your boyfriend ignores you and doesn't bother to answer your messages clearly he no longer thinks you're "special". Move on.
   1. Accept your relationship or marriage is over
   This is the most difficult step of all. It requires one to remove their "rose colored glasses" and stop "romanticizing" the past. Odds are you have "conveniently forgotten" things you disliked and major disagreements you had. It wasn't all sunshine and rainbows.
   
   Closure is often a term bantered around after breakups and divorces. However needing your ex to do or say something before you can move on is not empowering yourself! There is nothing your ex can say that would make you feel better about having your heart broken. The reason why one person ends a relationship with you could be the very reason why the next person falls madly in love with you. It makes no sense to attempt to change for your ex. Theoretically getting closure sounds like a good thing but in reality waiting around for closure is giving power to your ex to determine when you can start taking steps to move on with your life.
   2. Put things in perspective
   As I stated earlier; In order for (him) to be "the one" he would have to see (you) as being "the one"! At the very least a "soul mate" is someone who actually wants to be with you! That rules him out as being "the one".
   3. Make room in your life for someone new.
   This means putting away any old photos, cards, and other mementos you may have around you.
   Your future lies ahead of you and not behind you.
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      mothersofnationsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      So well said!

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      Evelynn Buenoposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I cant do that he is not even breaking up with me and i know he loves me i just dnt know whats happening with him

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      dashingscorpioposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Evelynn Bueno, There is something called "The Fade-Away Breakup". It's when someone gradually pulls away or disappears. See below. http://dashingscorpio.hubpages.com/hub/ … in-General

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