Why do people say that friends are the family we chose? Do you agree or disagree

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  1. deecoleworld profile image82
    deecoleworldposted 3 years ago

    Why do people say that friends are the family we chose? Do you agree or disagree with this idea?

    Why do people say that a best friend or even friends are the family we chose? Do you agree or disagree with this statement?

  2. Aniket Lawand profile image73
    Aniket Lawandposted 3 years ago

    It is very simple, have you ever heard birds of the same feather....
    Well it is simple thought that leads to everything. We always wish for the friends we want. Our sub-conscious mind is constantly working on the same  and chooses accordingly.
    Over a period of time the dependency on our friends is so high that they are they are everything for us, it is more like family and hence it is said so friends are the family we chose.
    But one thing we need to understand is who is an acquaintance and who is a friend. A acquaintance maybe close enough to know a lot things about us and vice versa but may not be a friend.
    Once this difference is made you will be in a better position to agree.

    1. gmwilliams profile image84
      gmwilliamsposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Rated A+!

    2. Aniket Lawand profile image73
      Aniket Lawandposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      smile

  3. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    It's because no one gets to choose their own family. You're born into it. In fact a lot of people would never have associated with members of their family if they hadn't been related to them in the first place!
    Relationships with friends come about through pure (choice). Our platonic friends become like our siblings from a different mother/father. I agree with the statement!

    1. gmwilliams profile image84
      gmwilliamsposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      EXCELLENT answer by far!

    2. deecoleworld profile image82
      deecoleworldposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      I don't know if I agree with that though ..... that friends are our family

    3. dashingscorpio profile image88
      dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      deecoleworld, It depends on one's definition of a "friend" and how close they are to them. When I lived in California me & my friends celebrated holidays together, partied, shared dreams, loaned money, Best man at weddings, Godfather to children

  4. deecoleworld profile image82
    deecoleworldposted 3 years ago

    I understand the phrase but I don't know if I agree with! We are tied to family by blood and obligation. We aren't bind to our friends; technically there is nothing to hold us to our friends except choice. Friends come and go, family will always be there (even if they are shitty and we don't get along with them) and you can't deny that fact. How can friends be the family we choose? That is a bit unfair to put friends and family in the same category when they are completely different relationships!!!

    1. dashingscorpio profile image88
      dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      You said:"there is nothing to hold us to our friends except (choice)." Maybe one may feel (stuck with crappy family members) or "obligated" but {if} they weren't "family" (you would NOT choose) to be with them! The quote acknowledges this truth!

    2. deecoleworld profile image82
      deecoleworldposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      I can see that .... just find this quote off-putting smile

 
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