What is marriage material?
Im only 21 right now but I would like to understand if it me or are guys my age just not ready to settle down into having serious relationships?
Hey SilentMagenta i found this question interesting because i found myself asking myself the same question. Im 21 years of age of well and feel im ready to settle down and start a family . Honestly though i can say its because i have a lot of pain in past relationships and tired of the same cat and mouse games . Im not saying the same applies to you or maybe we relate on that as well . I will say its not all guys that are not ready to settle some woman aren't ready as well some women feel like its all about knowing how to cook and clean and care for the kids now you could be just talking about a serious dating relationships but i feel if more women set up the steps of getting to know a man , becoming friends , casual dating , then a serious approach afterwards will find the ones that are willing to settle because they will see that theres a journey needng to be accomplished before they find the love in it and will be able to decide if the journey is willing to take . Us women sometimes let some men find a physical connection in us than more of an emotional because we have these sexual needs we feel will succeed in keeping or getting a man . I feel that man feel like hey if it is all been received without the worship why should i continue to commit . Than at our age its all about who has the most money, shoes , cars because women are focused on judging a man on his looks and his finances instead of saying i can finance myself and wont to get a man based on his personality. So i say focus on yourself fall in love with yourself settle within a career and your family and in return the love of a man will settle upon you .
My problem is all of my exs were players or liers. We become friend and then they all say the same stupid thing "Wait til I'm ready to settle down" foolishness. I agree with your response and will take that into my next move on life.
Okay well it could have been then wanting to get theirselves together as well , but im glad i could help.
Marriage material I think differs between genders
For a women, marriage material is a female:
That don't treat or expect men to be an ATM machine
Realize that quality is better than quantity
Can look pass looks and see someone for who they are, and not what they have to offer financially or sexually
For men, marriage material is a male:
That treat women with value and not as a sex object, trophy or a notch in their belt
Realize that quality is better than quantity
Can look pass looks and see someone for who they are, and not what they have to offer sexually or financially
Overall marriage material for both genders is someone who is
Self-sufficient (can make their own money, can depend on themselves if they have to such as cooking, cleaning, doing laundry)
Responsible (doesn't shy away from responsibility, responsible with money)
Confident (not insecure, have learned to accept their flaws)
They are happy and don't need someone or material things to be happy
Learn to keep their ego in check and to admit to their mistakes
The ability to compromise and focus on the greater good of the relationship
Resilient (can overcome hardships, struggles, challenges without crumbling)
Realistic and Optimistic (this world is hard!)
I agree that guys your age are not ready to settle down (no one 21 years old should settle down!!!)
To be honest I don't think men (and women!) are ready to settle down until they are in their late 20s- early 30s. Enjoy yourself now and try not to focus on serious relationships/trying to settle down. Work on you!!!
I agree. My age group is pressured (specially girls) to try to be in a serious relationship. You see others in a relationship happy and in love. Most my age group have kids and some are even married. If your not in a relationship your either
Stuck up or a loose. But the advice given I agree and understand enjoying my life right now is for the best.
Marriage material is someone that won't constantly hurt their partner with words. And they certainly won't want to be a person that likes doing revenge and malice intent aimed at their partner.
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