Are there more reasons to get married now than before?

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   Sundeep Katariaposted 10 years ago

   Are there more reasons to get married now than before?
   
   Being married is considered to be old-fashioned nowadays. Young people prefer to stay officially unattached find and avoid the matrimony. Is this concept changing now?

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   In all honesty most young people aren't mature enough, mentally prepared, or financially stable enough to enter into marriage.
   However in the end the vast majority of people do end up getting married at least once before they die. One report I read awhile back indicated in the U.S. that 85% of men have been married at least once by age 44. Of the 15% who had not odds are some of them were gay. Now that "marriage equality" laws are sweeping the nation I would suspect that 85% number will eventually reach 90-95%.
   The concept of marriage may change but the tradition is ingrained enough in society that most people either want to or open to having the experience at least once before they die. One man's opinion!

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   Lori P.posted 10 years ago

   Recent polls show that more young people are opting not to marry. For practical purposes, marriage has lost many benefits it once provided. Marriage ensured a two-parent family to raise children. It offered financial protection for the wife, and a secured sexual partner for the man. Marriage also allowed for combined assets (dowry, land, inheritance), including the joining of two different families and the political power associated with that.
   
   And then, there were the religious reasons to marry. Sex outside marriage is considered a sin by some. Marriage was deemed a necessary responsibility for both man and woman in order to procreate.
   
   Today, only the religious cling to these antiquated notions. Most young people who are non-religious find marriage has too many risks and downsides. And yet, they may still marry out of the sheer romantic notion that marriage seems to declare their loyalty and devotion to one and only one person. Our hearts will always yearn for this even when our heads get in the way.

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      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I'm willing to bet by age 45 most of those young people will have been married at least once if not more. I believe young people are simply delaying marriage. In the end most people end up getting married at some point in life.

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   fpherj48posted 10 years ago

   Sundeep.....I can only offer my own opinion, combined with what we all can clearly observe occurring in the country today (limiting my information to the U.S.) 
   I'm afraid my immediate response to your question as you have worded it, is.....It appears evident to me that there are "fewer" reasons to marry than in the past.
   Quite honestly Sundeep, only 2 decades ago, I would have been saddened by the notion of couples choosing to have a committed relationship, live together, even have children, without including marriage.
   Now I must admit that I can fully understand the reluctance of couples to go the traditional, legal route and sign on the bottom line.
   Staggering divorce statistics, while we are seldom privy to the long list of reasons, it is not a stretch to see that "Marriage" itself..as the Institution...is perceived as barely a ghost of it's original concept/meaning.  This issue alone could be the topic of a debate to end all debates.  I know I'd sign on.  If for no other reason than to come to an acceptable conclusion in terms of this current slant on marriage.
   IMHO..."Old-fashioned" has little to do with the decisions being made in this 21st. Century.  I feel this is perhaps more of an unintended revolution by our young adults, for the ultimate purpose of "Change and transition".....and creating their OWN.   
   All we really need to do is take a long, serious look around....take time to listen and literally exchange ideas, questions and concepts with the younger generation.  The true story is there.

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   Old-Empresarioposted 10 years ago

   Not really, but men do tend to feel a social obligation to marry their girlfriend if she becomes pregnant and chooses to keep the baby.

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      fpherj48posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      O-E.......a "social" obligation??  Women can only HOPE you didn't mean to use the term, "social" in making your comment......!

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      Old-Empresarioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Yes; and I'm sure you don't speak for all women. Many men (and women) in the US still marry out of a sense of social responsibility.

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      fpherj48posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Right. U must be correct. "Social OBLIGATION" is much more gallant & sincere than morality, ethics, responsibility, maturity, decency,  paternity ..or for love of the woman &  child. I'm sorry. so SWEET of the man to feel OBLIGATED, Socially.

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