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When a 19 year old asks you whether or not to marry at that age, whats the right

  1. kabugalewis profile image60
    kabugalewisposted 5 years ago

    When a 19 year old asks you whether or not to marry at that age, whats the right answer

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    Mohammad Wasimposted 5 years ago

    Marriage is possible in this age but we have to know that the young age marriage can sustain longer or not. Love does not mean to marry only. I will prefer to keep relationship and awaiting for the right time. What is the right time? One has to complete education and do job or business to manage expenditures of his daily life.
    Then it will be the very suitable time to marry and it brings charm in the life of marriage couples .
    As far I know. When a financial problem  comes in the family. The situation will be aggrieved slowly. It can be damaged the marital life. The love never be stay in original form. Children also become the part of love.  Love has to be shared. . Life becomes the part of struggle. For fun ,you can not marry in such a small age.

    1. ketage profile image81
      ketageposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I would tell them there is still a lot of time to decide what they want to do with their future, and to think about it carefully, Get engaged by all means if you want, but hold off the wedding. 19 is way too young in my opinion.

  3. MissJamieD profile image73
    MissJamieDposted 5 years ago

    Omg. My ex and I got married when he was 19 and I was 20. In my experience, not a good idea. It depends on the people, but we certainly were not ready. Although we stayed married for 15 years and had three beautiful kids, the entire marriage was crap. We stayed because we thought it was morally correct for the children but then learned that that is a  huge mistake too. The kids only suffer if you're miserable together, it's not a good thing. Without having kids right away, it'd probably be a little easier, but usually when people are that young, they don't realize that having kids isn't the best idea yet so it ends up happening anyways. After college would be my best opinion on when to get married and start thinking of a family. You don't want to be stuck in dead-end jobs that most 19 and 20 year olds have. Of course you can go back to school but babies and kids take a lot of your time and you owe them that. It's feesible, but better to wait until you're on your feet.

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    JThomp42posted 5 years ago

    It really depends on the individuals marrying. They must be very mature, and ready for what married life is all about. Believe me, the honeymoon is over quickly.

  5. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago

    I don't think it's so much about what to say as it is what to ask. What is the plan after the wedding day? Do you have a career path established that will provide for a home and family? What will happen if you don't get married until age 25?
    Essentially you want to find out what is motivating the decision to get married so young. You also want to make sure they have figured out the actual cost of responsibilities such as mortgage, utilities, car notes, health insurance, and if children will be a part of the plan there many other considerations including daycare. I probably would not raise doubts about their love or their mate.
    The goal is to have them do some serious "introspective" thinking to determine whether they are ready to trade their youth for a boat load of responsibilities. Are they getting married for the (right) reasons? Awhile back I wrote a hub titled 5 Reasons Why Men Should Not Get Married. (These reasons would also apply to women). http://dashingscorpio.hubpages.com/hub/ … et-Married

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    Old Empresarioposted 5 years ago

    I'd die of shock because I've never known a 19-year-old to ask anyone for advice.

  7. lburmaster profile image84
    lburmasterposted 5 years ago

    Show her other couples that got married at 18 and 19 and 20. They tend to be grumpy, bicker a lot, and have tons of money troubles. They barely or didn't finish their degrees. It's really depressing and is one of the reasons why I waited until graduating with my bachelors.

  8. KellyG05030 profile image72
    KellyG05030posted 5 years ago

    I was 20 years old when I met my husband who was 19 at the time.  He turned 20 one month before we married.  I met him while on vacation with my family when he was in the Navy.  We were married 3 months later and have never looked back.  We just celebrated our 18th wedding anniversary, have a 14-year-old and a 10-year-old who are the light of our lives, and we still feel like we're on our honeymoon most days.  We have faith in each other, faith in our love, and faith in God.  We've already started planning our 20th anniversary next year - a cruise with our children where we will renew our vows.  I believe 90% of our family members thought we were marrying because we were pregnant, but that was not the case.  Just about everyone told us it was a bad idea, but we talked it over and knew we were doing the right thing.  We have our ups and downs like any couple, but we're willing to talk things out and work on our relationship together.  It's not always the age that matters but the mentality towards relationships and marriage.  We knew we'd be in it for the long haul, and we make it work!

  9. kellyanne828 profile image84
    kellyanne828posted 5 years ago

    My husband and I got married when we were 19 and its great! We are both going to school and I love the fact that we get to grow up together.  I think its definitely a matter of maturity and being ready to make a commitment to someone, not so much age. I know people who are waited until they were older until they got married and their marriage didn't last very long.

  10. Express10 profile image87
    Express10posted 5 years ago

    The right answer would probably be let's wait a few years. You may not imagine the changes that you both will go through especially if either of you will be going away to college here in the states or abroad. I had a guy propose to me when I was just 21. Even then I knew it was a bad idea and I knew that I just wasn't ready to make a lifetime commitment. Marriage at a very young age really seems to be an invitation for an eventual divorce.

  11. lorddraven2000 profile image92
    lorddraven2000posted 5 years ago

    I got married at the ripe old age of 18. I was still in schiool and the girl I married was perfect, until we got married. Than we realized we were just not mature enough to make such a committment work. I would tell them to live life a little longer.

  12. lostdogrwd profile image61
    lostdogrwdposted 5 years ago

    good luck and wish you two well.  but if the asking, to me they not ready . but there a lot of young couple who marry young and last for there lives