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I'm 20. Am I too old to still be living with my parents?

  1. profile image57
    funnyvidzposted 3 years ago

    I'm 20. Am I too old to still be living with my parents?

    I'm 20, a junior in college, and I still live at home with my parents because I can't afford to live on my own. I tried to pay my parents rent because I feel bad freeloading, but they told me that helping around the house and with my younger siblings (ages: 8, 11, and 15) is all they expect of me. Usually I try to make dinner at least 4 nights a week, keep the house tide (vaccuum, sweep, dust, etc.) and take the youger two to school. My 15 year old brother prefers to walk. I don't mind helping out my parents and I get along great with them, but I feel like I'm getting too old


  2. chaitanyasaivb profile image76
    chaitanyasaivbposted 3 years ago

    First of all, I would like to appreciate the responsibilities, you have taken, as the elder member of your family, next to your parents. You might have been trying to help your parents. Its a good idea. But, your parents, don't want to add some more burden to your life, apart from your studies. So, Finish off your studies first. Then, search for some job, and you can take care of your parents .

  3. Diana Lee profile image84
    Diana Leeposted 3 years ago

    I'm sure your parents are not in any hurry for you to leave or they would tell you so. You are not to old to stay home.  I'm glad you are helping them with chores. Households run more smoothly when everyone chips in.

  4. Link10103 profile image75
    Link10103posted 3 years ago

    Find a roomate to live with, either an apartment which is usually cheaper, or rent a house from a landlord.

    Thats what im trying to do in the next few months

  5. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    If you are a full-time college student then being at home is not considered being a "freeloader" in the eyes of most parents.
    They'd rather you not have to worry about paying bills and focus on your studies. You only have one more year until graduation.
    Even if you were away at college and lived in a dormitory on campus by extension your permanent residence would still be considered your parent's address. In most instances your parents would be paying for your dorm, tuition, and books. And yet students living under those circumstances do not see themselves as being "freeloaders".
    Essentially by living at home and going to college you are probably saving your parents thousands of dollars over the course of acquiring your degree!
    Once you graduate and find a job will be the ideal time to find your own apartment. There's no need to add stress. Best wishes!

  6. Besarien profile image86
    Besarienposted 3 years ago

    If you get on at home you may as well finish your degree before taking on the stress of finding a new place and moving. Concentrate on your studies and put away a little money when you can for a down payment on a house of your own. If you can avoid renting at all, you will save a bundle of money with no return beyond not sleeping on the street that month. Paying a mortgage is like paying rent but after a while you have a house free and clear to show for it.

    You may decide to take in housemates to help you pay the mortgage on your house. If so make sure you write up a contract- for a set amount of time like three months, renewable at the discretion of both parties. That way if one proves to be a terrible housemate you can easily get rid of that person in favor of someone who is good-natured and thoughtful.

  7. freecampingaussie profile image61
    freecampingaussieposted 3 years ago

    By the age of 20 I was married with a daughter living in another country from my parents. My 3 daughters left home before that age as well so to me it seems strange . However if it works out and you are paying your way it could work out for a while . I would be trying to work out being more independent when you can.

    1. freecampingaussie profile image61
      freecampingaussieposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Might pay to delete your passport details so no one uses them.Could cause you a lot of problems ...

  8. jhendor profile image79
    jhendorposted 3 years ago

    you are not.........i believe it is better to endure "unnecessary" parental pressure than leaving with "bad influence" friends

  9. Calypso02 profile image61
    Calypso02posted 3 years ago

    You know you're ready to move out when you look around the house and realize that nothing in it belongs to you--you didn't buy anything.  That is how I knew I was ready to leave.  It sounds like your family will miss having you around, and there is a certain joy to not have so many bills to pay.  But Link gave some good advice--find someone with whom to share an apartment.  Or rent a room in someone's house.