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Should a man help out in the kitchen or with other chores around the house?

  1. Barine Sambaris profile image74
    Barine Sambarisposted 4 years ago

    Should a man help out in the kitchen or with other chores around the house?

    Studies have shown that most women are displeased with their husbands because the said husbands do not help with household chores no matter how little, leaving everything to  the wife.

  2. Benjimester profile image95
    Benjimesterposted 4 years ago

    Cooking is fun.  I don't know why men always try to stay out of the kitchen.

    1. Barine Sambaris profile image74
      Barine Sambarisposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Most times they think it's a woman's thing.

  3. FatFreddysCat profile image99
    FatFreddysCatposted 4 years ago

    When you get married, helping out your spouse with household stuff is part of the deal. I never bought into the idea that certain things are "her job."

    My wife and I both work full time, so if we didn't help each other out in the kitchen and with the chores, we would be hungry and living in filth!!

    1. Barine Sambaris profile image74
      Barine Sambarisposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      It's nice to know that there are still men out there who appreciate and encourage their wives by doing household chores. I know of a family where the both spouses work full time, but the man leaves all the house hold chores to his wife.

  4. lburmaster profile image82
    lburmasterposted 4 years ago

    They don't? If anyone cooks, it's my husband. I'll poison someone with my cooking so he knows I shouldn't be in the kitchen except for cleaning. He often sweeps the floor or bleaches the bathroom and always watches over the garden.

    1. Barine Sambaris profile image74
      Barine Sambarisposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      You have a good husband, always remember that. Many women would kill to have  a husband who can let them get away with 'not cooking'.

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    Motown2Chitownposted 4 years ago

    I don't care who it is, if a person lives in a house, they have a responsibility to care for the household.  My husband cooks every day.  I hate to cook.  I clean the kitchen.  He hates it.  I'm the only one in the house who cleans the bathroom, but everyone runs the vacuum, dusts, etc.

    1. profile image49
      karm78posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      i agree with you completely

  6. duffsmom profile image61
    duffsmomposted 4 years ago

    I think everyone is responsible for a successful household and how those chores are divided up are personal choices.  For us, I wanted to be home for the kids, so it made sense for me to do the bulk of the house work as I was home and he worked long hours.

    Now that we are both retired, he is a tremendous help around the house. It has never been a matter of gender roles for us, but convenience.

    What I object to is when both husband and wife are both working long hours and the woman still is expected to do the house work. I think I would strike in situation.

  7. rexy profile image65
    rexyposted 4 years ago

    No matter how much you try but some men will refuse to do so.... l think they are the ones that are used to the pampering from their mothers..... it is very unfair when they refuse to do so... and it could be that he is the breadwinner...therefore he would want to come home to relax and enjoy the food his wife has cooked for him...if she is the housewife than he would think that it is her duty while at home to look after the children and the house....
    On the other hand when both partners are working .. than they kind of square up to helping ...  l think that they should learn to make special dishes at least to treat her and give her a break....

    1. Barine Sambaris profile image74
      Barine Sambarisposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Taking care of a house is a full time job especially if there are kids also to look after. I feel husbands can help out from the love in their heart to help out a stressed wife.

    2. profile image49
      karm78posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I believe both the parents should inculcate in their male children to do chores from a young age, then the habit stays for life.

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    sheilamyersposted 4 years ago

    All I can say is when I meet Mr. Right he'll want to do all of the cooking because I'm the worst cook in the world. The deal will be he'll cook and I'll do all of the other housework.

  9. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    Some women actually don't want men in the kitchen.
    For those women who do want men to help with household chores it's important to remember that they (chose) the man they are with. If having a man who helps clean and cook was a "must have" on their list then they only have themselves to blame for choosing a man who does not partake in those activities.
    Too often women and men get with others believing they can "change" their mate. The only person you can control is yourself. All we do is ask for what we want.
    Generally speaking trying to "change" someone leads to frustration on our part and resentment on the part of our mate. Ultimately everyone is looking to be loved and appreciated for who they are.
    If you go to the grocery store to purchase an apple but buy an onion instead whose fault is that? Do you curse the onion for not being an apple? No! You learn to become a better shopper!
    In the long run if something is that important to you then you are better off finding someone who (already) is doing the things you want from a mate. It's not about what a man should do but rather what type of man a woman should (choose) for herself. Only she knows what she wants and need. Her choice in men is hers!
    There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships. We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have.

    1. Barine Sambaris profile image74
      Barine Sambarisposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Household chores are more tedious and time consuming than they sound, especially if there are kids to look after too. There are things that people did not  envisage when they got married. Maybe the woman thought she could handle it.

  10. profile image49
    karm78posted 4 years ago

    Yes, men should help with the chores around the house. I have to thank my father for this, as he taught me and my siblings from a very young age to do chores around the house, irrespective of gender. He taught by advice and by example. Now, that iam an adult, i appreciate him for inculcating this habit into me, because now that iam living on my own, iam able to maintain myself very well. Iam the envy of many ladies who keep using me as an example to get their men to work around the house. Many ladies find this to be a very attractive quality in a man. My cousins, on the other hand are a different story, from a very young age, they were taught that household chores are for the females only, so now they can't even make a cup of tea or boil an egg.

  11. TJenkins602 profile image61
    TJenkins602posted 4 years ago

    I wouldn't say "should", but I imagine that it would make things a little better.

  12. DDE profile image23
    DDEposted 4 years ago

    It depends traditional men don' eve look in a kitchen so the culture and generation should be taken into consideration. If a man feels comfortable with helping around sure he can or should

  13. Misty Mason profile image61
    Misty Masonposted 9 months ago

    My husband is always joking around with me telling me to get in the kitchen and make him something to eat or to clean the kitchen. But at the same time, he hardly helps with the house work unless it gets so bad and he gets upset so bad that he cant handle it anymore. I was raised by my grandma and she believed that the woman do everything in the household and that the man get a job outside the house. So much has changed since then. When I first got married I was a clean freak and I always had breakfast lunch and dinner ready for my husband. It was because of what I was taught to do but now it is way different. I calmed way down on my cleaning all the time and I cook sometimes if I feel like it and also me and my husband cook together because its a fun thing to do. But still there are three men in my house including my husband, and they sometimes do dishes or any other house work but mostly its me if it ever gets done. It should be equal because sometimes the woman also goes out to get a job and it also used to be that when I got home from work most of the time, I would have to clean the house also after I was tired from working all day. So the answer to your question, it should be equal and everyone do house work to help each other out.