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Nearing the end of a decade can be a challenge for most but who thought cheating

  1. realtalk247 profile image70
    realtalk247posted 3 years ago

    Nearing the end of a decade can be a challenge for most but who thought cheating would result?

    Yahoo reported:
    A new study published in Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences has found that people when they’re 29, 39, 49, or 59, tend to be more likely to cheat on their significant others or pick up jogging.

    Why do you think this happens?

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  2. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    New decades are much like "new years" only multiplied.
    People tend to view new years and new decades as an opportunity for a "fresh start". They become goal oriented.
    Cheating in my opinion has less to do with a person's age and everything to do with what is either going in their relationship/marriage or how they feel about themselves. The goal of any cheater is to "hold onto" all that is "good" in their primary relationship while addressing their other "needs" on the side.
    Cheaters opt to stay in relationships/marriages rather than breakup or run down to the courthouse to file for divorces especially if it's not all (bad). They want that 20% to add to the 80% they already have.
    A new decade may be the impetus for them to make a decision to no longer go without whatever they deem to be {missing} in their lives.
    Awhile back I asked this question on HP: "Is sexual incompatibility enough of a reason to end a relationship/marriage?"
    Approximately 90% of the people said "NO". 
    However I bet if I had asked: "Would you rather your mate leave you or cheat on you?" most people would have said they'd want their mate to leave!
    Essentially it's the same question only asked in reverse. It takes courage to walk away and start anew with no one waiting in the wings. People who cheat see it as a better "option" than walking away from everything. They don't want to replace one relationship with another. Their goal is to "compliment" what they already have.

    1. realtalk247 profile image70
      realtalk247posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      :It takes courage to walk away and start anew with no one waiting in the wings."  That's the opportunity to learn, heal, and develop personally. It's unhealthy to jump into relationships w/o healing. Dating while involved/married shows you are a liar

    2. dashingscorpio profile image86
      dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      I agree. Too often though people get depressed during the "in between" gap of relationships. This leads them to engaging in "impulsive behavior" to dull the pain with one-night stands, alcohol, drugs,  & other things to escape the pain of growth.

 
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