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How do you know when you've met "the one?"

  1. readmylips profile image60
    readmylipsposted 3 years ago

    How do you know when you've met "the one?"


  2. erorantes profile image52
    erorantesposted 3 years ago

    You keep going on . Until, you  attach to each other. Then, you can not stop living apart from each other. You have to like each other the same way. You need to like the same things. You need to be in love with no restrictions.  You will know when the time comes, and you meet the right person for you. Some people, do not like to wait. As a result, they create a mess for themselves.

  3. AngelaO profile image60
    AngelaOposted 3 years ago

    I think many people see 'the one' as some miraculous being that ticks every single box from tall dark and handsome, all the way to caring, listener and idolises you, with several hundred expectations in between.

    Obviously this is totally unrealistic but were told that 'the one' will come. When people hit a road block in their relationships, due to whatever problem that's occured, they're quick to assume that the grass is greener, only to realise that it's certainly not the case...afterwards.

    Everybody has faults and characteristics that we might not favour, it's about dealing with them amicably and learning to move forward together. Nobody is perfect, the grass is greener relationship only comes with a new set of faults and flaws.

    In my opinion, you've found your person when you find somebody who is  willing to hear, own their 'stufff', grow with you and try new ways. So many problems could be solved if we were all willing to hear, without getting defensive, which only causes arguments.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    Everyone tends to have their own "mate selection" process or list of criteria. Only you know what traits you're looking for/want in a mate.
    "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
    - Oscar Wilde
    The goal is to find someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the relationship as you, naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things, and last but not least there is a mutual depth of love and desire for one another.
    In order for him/her to be "the one" they would have to see (you) as being "the one".  At the very least a "soul mate" is someone who actually wants to be with the (real) you and vice versa!
    “Love isn’t finding a perfect person. It’s seeing an imperfect person perfectly.” – Sam Keen