What do men WANT?

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  1. Paradise7 profile image71
    Paradise7posted 14 years ago

    What do men WANT?

  2. Sasha S profile image66
    Sasha Sposted 14 years ago

    Well, there's the stereotypical answer: beer, sex and cars; but this is often really not the case. Unfortunately, men can be just as complicated as women!

    I'm going to assume the question is 'What do men want from women?' or something along those lines - unless, of course, you're searchind for birthday gifts! Well, I can hardly answer for all of mankind, but personally all I'd want would be a nice girl that I can talk to about anything and everything, that appreciates me for who I am - not what I am - that smiles a lot but is never apprehensive about sharing her problems... oh, and a girl that enjoys hugging! (the same girl, not a 2nd one on the side!)

    Well, I guess that sort of answers the question; the truth is, however macho a guy may seem, deep down what they really want is a stable relationship and somebody they can talk to - despite sometimes putting up 'hard man' fronts to disguise it.

  3. BrianFanslau profile image61
    BrianFanslauposted 14 years ago

    We just want to be equally understood, given leniency for being unresponsive to your emotions sometimes and we simply want to be listened to respected and loved.

    We will gladly return the favor.

  4. TheChosenOne profile image60
    TheChosenOneposted 14 years ago

    real men that are responsible, want what women want which is someone that they can spend there lives with, they have a sensitive side to themselves, but they don't show it like women do, when they love, they love just as hard as women do, but if your talking about what a boy wants it's to party, have many women. there to afraid to settle down,they have to grow into being a man,you have men and then you have boys,it's a difference,some say there men, but not ready for the responsibities that come along with that.

  5. Paradise7 profile image71
    Paradise7posted 14 years ago

    Thanks for the responses...it tells me a lot; it sounds more like men want what women want--someone to talk with, someone to share the moments with, someone to hug, someone to understand them...more than I thought.

    Maybe the problem is reciprocity.  If we want the same things from each other, we have to be willing to GIVE the same things back.

  6. SPARTICUSIAN profile image60
    SPARTICUSIANposted 14 years ago

    They need a good smack in the ear hole and should listen a little more and a little longer to what our creators our beautiful women have to say,it's time for a new direction before us men bugger what is left of our tiny biosphere  MOTHER EARTH. Also men don't bother emailing or swearing at me because deep down in that knuckle we call a head you know I am correct.

  7. dl53acy profile image69
    dl53acyposted 14 years ago

    We're talking about real men, not little boys.  Real men want to be the head, the king, in charge of their households. That means in charge of their wife, and their children. Real men are devoted to their families.  He's the one everybody answers to and respects.  A real man's motivation is his home, how much he makes working, and he's one to watch how his money is spent. They are the decision makers for all involved. They are the directors.  Men want love, commitment, they want to be understood, some want what woman want to be pampered. Men want a loving woman who understands her man and his ambition or her husband's desire in guiding his family towards a successful fruitful life.

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    sneakorocksolidposted 14 years ago

    We want to be needed, we like attention but not too much. We like to think we can handle everything so stroking our ego periodically is nice. We like to laugh and be silly the latter less in public. We want to feel like we're on the same page. When we talk we like to know our relationship is fun, secret and unique.

  9. hublim profile image69
    hublimposted 14 years ago

    Men want to be happy, truly content.

    It’s a very broad question; no two men are the same so each will find contentment and happiness in their own unique ways.

    If you mean what do men want from a women, then I would say they want a companion who enriches their life and makes their pursuit of happiness ever more fulfilling. We want to be understood and giving encouragement to pursue their passions in life.

  10. H P Roychoudhury profile image43
    H P Roychoudhuryposted 14 years ago

    What do men WANT? It is a broad question. As such there may be diversity in the answer too. A man in general wants happiness in life, happiness in the enjoyment of life with social works, political works, sports activity or any thing of this which gives pleasure of individual’s liking and above all with a suitable life partner to share the joy and sorrow in the way of life.

  11. gusripper profile image39
    gusripperposted 14 years ago

    Money ,women, a bottle and some good friends

  12. profile image32
    sonkishposted 14 years ago

    I recently read a book on human sexuality based on psycology.

    I was surprised that the wants of men and women are similar.  Men tend to express it but it takes longer for women.

    There were lots of other things the book discussed.  Men are very imaginative when comes to how a women should look (I understood why 80% of the shop is filled with women dresses).

  13. patful profile image61
    patfulposted 14 years ago

    Cruising through the responses to this question was quite an education. Women like to THINK they know what men want, but sometimes they're clueless.
    You gentlemen who were kind enough to share your thoughts made it clear that your wants are similar, in some ways at least, to women's wants--but the two genders often have separate ways of expressing it.
    In my own opinion (and experience) the Cinderella story messed up the heads of a lot of females raised in the U.S. (I can't speak for other countries.)
    We want you guys to be tall, handsome, and rich--owners of a castle somewhere--and ready to sweep us up onto your white horse and take us off to eternal bliss.
    As brides, we glow our way through the wedding, expecting the castle and the anticipated pampering to begin any moment now. What we later learn is that Saturday, Sunday, and Monday night football are terribly important to our princes. (I have to admit that I'm a football addict, too, so this isn't a problem for me.)
    Instead of whispering sweet nothings in our ears, our princes are popping open a beer can and waving their fists in the air when Favorite Team scores a touchdown.
    Men (well, in my observation) are interested in facts, figures, statistics, real life stuff. Women are interested in the intangibles--romance, gifts, compliments from our men, those "little moments" that mean a lot.
    What men and women probably need is some honest, straightforward talk with each other on "What makes me happy and how you can achieve that."  For example, he walks in the door after work, and she wants to tell him all the problems of the day. He's not ready for that yet. Or, she says to him, "How do I look in this dress?" and he says (honestly), "Well, you could use a few pounds."
    Their honest dialogue might include,"Look, give me some space when I get home from work. I need some downtime before I take on the family problems." She could say, "When I ask you how I look, tell me I look fine. I don't care if you're lying. I just want to know that you think I'm okay."
    All this "what makes men happy" dialogue (and I do appreciate it) is lost on those who stopped growing at age 14 and merely want the next woman who can meet their needs. A serious, mature, committed relationship is not on their priority list.
    But to those of you who expressed what makes you tick, thanks.

  14. tomshere profile image61
    tomshereposted 14 years ago

    In a man woman relationship?

    Appreciation and the encouragement and opportunity to love.

    Everything grows from there.

  15. questiongirl profile image60
    questiongirlposted 14 years ago

    One thing that constantly amazes me is how varied people can be in the ways they perceive themselves, situations, other people, and life in general. 

    It is easy enough to accept that men’s and women’s brains are tuned differently: conventional wisdom suggests that most men are tuned in to logic, reason, and facts, while most women are tuned in more to feelings, emotions, and social interactions.

    But beyond stereotypes and the typical man-woman divide, I am frequently flabbergasted at the variation in the ways people think. Sometimes I am amazed at how my own friends—girls, like me—could handle a situation so differently than I would, or at choices they make that I would never consider.

    And I’m not just talking about things that stand out, like blaringly different lifestyles, but stupid little things like buying DVDs instead of dinner three nights a week, or spending an entire paycheck on new shoes, or cancelling a vacation because there wasn’t a gym in the hotel.

    On the surface it is baffling how people could want such different things, but the truth is we all want the same thing: happiness, just like Hublim said.

    I find happiness in bottled water and Starbucks lattes, which kills my husband because he thinks both are wasteful and unnecessary (and because he does not find happiness in these things, it is hard for him to understand how much I feel I am sacrificing by giving them up).  We compromised by getting an espresso maker and a Britta pitcher so that I could make my own lattes and clean, tasteless water. Now we are both happy.

    People’s differences all come down to their priorities—the things they place at the tops of their lists to do, to buy, to eat, to wear, to say, and on, and on. Jill might not be able to understand why Jack values beer or football or farting, and Jack might not understand why Jill values Sex in the City, but if they are open and honest and understand that these things make the other happy, they ought to be able to overlook their differences on occasion and work toward their common goal. 

    If you truly cannot accept someone’s differences, either he/she is not the person for you, or you should reevaluate your attitude. If someone can’t accept yours, you should reevaluate the relationship.

  16. profile image0
    Tech Stud(ly)posted 14 years ago

    Men generally want 4 basic psychological needs: freedom, fun, power, and belonging.

    They want the freedom to do what they want without being bogged down by a lot of responsibility or guilt. Obviously they have to be responsible and do things that need to be done, but they do need an occasional break to do what they like.

    Fun is something everyone needs, but men vary in the type they want. For some, it is to fix up an old classic muscle car, for some it is to spend an afternoon watching football, for some it is taking their significant other and just doing things that both parties enjoy.

    Power is the big thing that men want. Part of it is testosterone, part of it is competition, plain and simple. The more you have the better you feel. Although this may be sad, it is true with many men. (not all)

    Belonging is something that men probably wouldn't say they want, but something they definitely need. They may seem to want to look macho and strong as a brick wall, but in all reality, they want someone to come home to who loves them and who would rather spend a day with them than anyone else. They want friends who support them and have similar interests, and they want to be successful in their social ventures.

  17. monicaelayne profile image59
    monicaelayneposted 14 years ago

    I can only speak for my man.  He thrives on encouragement, spontaneity, sincerity, and laughter. Men like a silly, sweet, put together life, sprinkled with good times, bad times, and everything inbetween.  I don't think are too different than women, we all want to be loved and feel like we are needed by one another.

  18. Dark knight rides profile image60
    Dark knight ridesposted 14 years ago

    A beer, preferably something dark and rich. A good cup of coffee would be nice. Oh and bacon. mmmm...bacon.

  19. profile image0
    reeltaulkposted 14 years ago

    what kind of question is this?  Does your life existance consist of service.  What is it that you want.  Never settle or be desperate for anything.  When you know what you want you will be able to supply anyone with the needs as well as wants without it being a burden or research for you!

    Vonda G. Nelson

  20. profile image0
    kaceybabeposted 14 years ago

    god in my experience ... its normally sex! lol

    haha this is becoming a popular answer.

  21. profile image53
    PMARTINposted 9 years ago

    A woman that is ok with being a woman..not focused on the "battle of the sexes". Be a "lady" so I can be a "gentleman".


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