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Diffucult situation to deal with.

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    Isabella079posted 3 years ago

    Diffucult situation to deal with.

    My boyfriend's baby mama is coming to spend xmas at his house while i'm not around at first I thought I ll see them but just realised I will be away. I am just nit happy with the idea of them being together in the same house, at first I thought my boyfriend said she has accomodation problems but he has changed the story he said she is coming over so the child can spend time with him. I asked him how long they re staying he said he doesn't know. He always reassures me that there is nothing going on between them it's over should I buy his story. I am so paranoid pliz help with ideas.

  2. Robert the Bruce profile image61
    Robert the Bruceposted 3 years ago

    I know this is a tough decision, but no...I would not buy this story. If he really cared for you, he would consider how this awkward situation was making you feel. Let's see, you'll be away and his former lover will be staying in the same house with him, night and day. You know what is going to happen!

    I find it hard to believe that this woman has no other place to stay than with her ex. Has your boyfriend ever cheated on you before?

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      Isabella079posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      @Robert not that i know if he has cheated,and yes they will be staying in the same house God knows how many wks they will stay he is not aware. At first he said they ve accomodation issues now his saying i need to spend time with the baby im confused

  3. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    Each of us is entitled to have our own "deal breakers".
    His "baby momma" is always going to be in his life in one form or another. Another reality is the only person you can control is yourself.
    Whether you like it or not his ex and his child are coming over.
    If you don't trust your man you should end the relationship. That's the only "power" you have. On the other hand if you truly believe it's YOU that is being "paranoid" or insecure then you don't want to make that (his) problem. At some point that type of behavior will push anyone away. You either trust him or you don't.
    Maybe your concern is not with (his) intentions but hers. Your fears may be she'll have a chance to make him feel like they're a family. She may even jump in the shower with him or do whatever.
    Do you believe he would turn his ex down for sex?
    Always be honest with yourself. If something doesn't feel right to you then it's probably not right for you. Never ignore "red flags".
    Know yourself, love yourself, trust yourself.