Is staying married together because of the kids a viable solution?
Even though the incompatibility between both can become intolerable at times.
This is a very interesting question, and I think It is very dependent on the individual kids in question. My parents divorced when I was five and It affected me positivly verses tuhem staking together. This is on the account of my dad's drug use. On the other hand a family can be on the fritz for a multitude of reasons. Each and every situation is as difficult to analyze as the next. It really boils down to the situation and the kid. I would say that being in two separaet housholds that are somewhat happy and true is alot better than being in a single household that is miserable but hiding behind a facade of bliss that the kid will always see through.
yes, because your maridge is a very big impresion on your kids. Your kids learn from you. If you dont respect you marridge and try to solve your problems, your kids might learn the same thing
From experience, I would say yes. In my own marriage, I had considered divorce, but decided for the kids sake, I would try to work it out. Turns out to be the best decision I ever made. Yesterday, we celebrated our 31st anniversary. Had I left when I wanted to, I would not have experienced some great things, and would probably have caused undue stress and placed my children, who definitely didn't deserve it, into uncomfortable situations. Sometimes you do have to think of others above your own feelings. As time went on, I realized that things weren't so bad after all.
I agree with mshunt, I remember a time when my own parents were going throught a rough time and my mom was fed up, and dad was overworked, but they stuck through it, and a couple of weeks ago, my dad confided in my husband that mom said she was very happy now that us kids were out of the house and he doesn't have to work so hard. They spend so much more time together. Of course every situation was different. But if it is not a toxic environment for the kids, I'd say stick it out. You fell in love for a reason, try to remember that.
Because 50% of first marriages and 63% of 2nd marriages end in divorce, what really needs to be examined is how to resolve the issues that cause us to do the same thing over and over...hoping for different results. I found this video http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xdqu6s … ndo_people that explains what's behind the bigger picture.
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by Julie Grimes 7 years ago
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staying married for the sake of the children, do parents become unhappy and then kids grow up with that?
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