Accept that everyone is different and that you can't control the thoughts and actions of anyone else. A common thread of decency and niceties that you'd extend a stranger go hand and hand with those who you don't like. Depending on the involvement of that person in life, more or less effort may be warranted to maintain a civil "working" relationship. And when all else fails, turn what you don't like into gratitude for the people in your life who have the qualities that you do like.
usually I just grit my teeth and bare with it. if it is a person that isn't healthy to my lifestyle I drop them like a bad habit, FAST!!!! sometimes, you have to break through the pre conditioned shell we all enjoy walking around in, and just LUNGE FORTH and attack a demon that is in your way - not physically, though.
There are always going to be people in our lives we don't like and just don't want to deal with. You haven't specified if they are a close friend or a colleague?
If you can, just try not to be near them. If you are in a situation where you have to see them a lot, just take a lot of deep breaths in their presence. Try not to make bitter or sarcastic remarks near them as it lowers you in the eyes of others.
1. Define what kind of people you don't like. Be specific.
Short fat people that smell.
Friends who do nothing but envy you.
Frankly, I am joking, but you cannot deal with generalizations. You need specifics.
2. Then find a way. Read a book. Take it as an opportunity to find out and learn how to deal with particular people or particular traits. It is always 50-50. It is never only them, it is them and you.
If you do something different, then either you will not be bothered anymore or the other party might adjust.
It's too hard to give such a general advice. It is funny, though, that people that we don't like usually constitute the majority.
Surely things like that won't help : "I regard you with an indifference closely bordering on aversion." (Robert Louis Stevenson)
Sometimes you have to work with someone you don't like. It is best to be nice so as not to create a situation where you take blame for something you aren't responsible for.
Avoid the person as much as possible. Disarm them by always be polite and nice to them. This will always leave you with the upper hand and respect from others. It will make the "bad" person seem even worse than they may be.
What goes around comes around. They will get their due some day.
Time will pass and you will have them out of your life sooner or latter.
There are a lot of jerks and idiots in the world. You just have to live with it and move on. Be the best person you know how to be.
It depends on how close they are to you.
- if far distant, don't bother. Take them off from your mind.
- if not too close, keep a distance. Their thoughts may trouble you, but try to brush them aside.
- if quite close and you are not supposed to ditch them, try to keep talking to them. Be frank and outright as to why you are not really able to see eye to eye with them. Think of indirect ways through which you can still re-establish cordiality to a workable level.
If the person whom you dont like, likes you,then there should be no problem in managing that! He/she will get you through your gestures!
If he/she also don't like you...stay away, drop him/her!
Avoid facing him/her if he/she means nothing to you !
And sorry but you haven't specified if he/she is a close friend or a colleague?
Detach from the situation and don't talk to them very much. ANd who cares what they think or say, just get what you want outta them
I'm an easy going happy person, so I tend to like everyone I meet and take them as good people until they prove themselves otherwise. Then I just avoid them if I could. I don't want to be in the company of people I don't like if I could help it. I don't want to be aggravated, I heard it gives you wrinkles.. and I just hate wrinkles. I hope this helps.
Have a nice day,
I try to avoid them as much as I can and I only talk to them when it's necessary. There are only two people in this category for me since I tend to like everyone. I need very strong reasons to dislike a person.
I don't talk much to people I'm not comfortable with. I treat people the way I get treated. As long as they treat me right, I might as well change my mind and like them if that's the case.
It's easy to tell when I don't like someone, my answers or conversations are very brief. I try to keep away from any type of confrontation or even going places where they hang out.
At times you can't ignore and then the rude giant comes out and let's them know.
You don't deal with them, and if you have to have to have to, just behave like an adult for whatever the reason and move right along after you're done.
If its a colleague.. you keep it business.. no small talk.
If its an acquaintance.. keep away.
If its a relative.. keep it short and sweet.
I agree with ButchNews. I had a situation at work where my new boss was not very pleasant and made herself out to be the good guy by being totally fake.
So even though I was personally hurt I tried to find something in common with her so that when I could not avoid her that I could switch to small talk about the common interest we had. Thankfully it wasn't too much longer until she moved on to another location to manage somewhere else. Though I do feel sorry for her new employees.
I try to like everyone, so if I don't like someone I will serve them. I find that by giving meaningful service to somebody I gain a greater love for them.
the famous cold shoulder but if you don't want to be mean then just avoid any situation you can come across with them.
The real question is: Do you want to make yourself laugh, or be a good person?
If you would like to take encounters with a person you don't like and be a good person, then you should do the opposite of any impulses you have. You should be polite, friendly, treat them as if they were you. And of course, you should always want to treat someone as awesome as yourself in a grand manner. Initially this tries your patience to absolutely no end,but eventually it has potential to pay off. The person you don't like is never really offended, and you should end up being a more patient and accepting person.
Now, if you wanted to turn someone you don't like into pure entertainment at their expense, it is FAR easier. The answer is simple: Sarcasm.
Sarcasm is a beautiful art, a type of humor that smart people use. Usually, at the expense of not-so-smart people. Now, in many cases, you probably don't like someone because they operate with less brain power than a bag of rocks that has a leak. So, besides little things like "conscience" and "morals", there is no reason not to use such a person for your own amusement.
For any Scrubs fans out there, Dr. Cox is a pristine example of sarcasm for people that are not too well liked. The hilarity that ensues is normally enough justification for any guilt that may be felt. So basically, just be a clever jerk and use the person you don't like as your metaphysical prop.
But, that's if you don't want to be a good person. I'm not gonna say what you SHOULD do, these are simply methods of HOW to deal with such people.
I tell them, "Hey! I just don't like you."
Then I offer suggestions as to how they might be more likable:
"If I had your money, and you had a lump on your head . . ."
I guess determine why you don't like them in the first place is a good start. If they violate your principals and values, I suggest you avoid them as much as possible, as they will just frustrate you. But if you have to work side by side with them, then you need to bring your concerns to the forefront and let them know how you feel - at least you spoke your mind and tried to make a difference.
Best way to solve the problem is to face the problem. The person with whom we don't wanna deal, we must talk to him about his annoying attitude/behavior etc.. in extremely polite sense. I am dam sure, this will help.
Deal with someone you don't like the way you would want them to deal with you if they didn't like you. Apply the Golden Rule. You may not get good treatment in return but then you have a clear conscious and know that you yourself did what was good. And if the other person is doing things to cause dislike by others then may the consequences of their actions fall upon their own head.
tell them directly that there's something that what they did to me that makes me feel not like them
If it is a co-worker in my department, I keep things on a friendly level and try to get along. Any other time or place, I simply do what I can to distance myself from them. If speaking with them is unavoidable,I keep it short, matter of fact and move on.
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