Is people still romantically in love after having kids?
The relationship seems to be all about the kids.
I never had or wanted children but I've heard those that do state once they have them the kids come first! More often than not women usually feel stronger about that "rule" then men do.
Some women secretly prefer being a mother over being a wife!
Couples have to truly be dedicated to making time for themselves to maintain a romantic connection. Some folks refuse to hire sitters.
It's not unheard of for some parents to put their all into their children and once they have an "empty nest" they realize they're not emotionally or romantically invested in one another anymore.
It's easier to maintain a fire than it is to reignite a spark!
Maintaining romance after children is not impossible.
A couple just needs to make it a "priority".
I have three children and very much romantically in love with my husband still. Granted with kids being romantic takes a bit more work and planning. We get the kids to be watched so we can have a night out once a month. We have time together after the kids go to bed every night. We find something we both want to watch and curl up on the couch together. Often we have a few beers after the kids are in bed. We make each other a priority. We make time even when there is none, even if that means we stay up later and get less sleep.
It is very much possible to be in love after kids!
Totally agree with peeples, keeping a loving relationship after kids may need some planning and postponing and work, but is totally possible.
Kids are a joy, and if the couple lives parenthood positively, all the sacrifices are bearable.
It gets easier when you have family nearby willing to babysit - you can have dates without spending a fortune for babysitter and getting out - you can actually say in .
Anyway my answer is yes, the romance after kids is possible (I even wrote a hub about it) but it's not easy peasy. It requires dedication.
And if there are already problems within the couple, having kids makes it harder.
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