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What can be done to stop teachers from getting involved romantically with studen

  1. peeples profile image94
    peeplesposted 5 years ago

    What can be done to stop teachers from getting involved romantically with students?

    I have seen 3 cases this week of teachers having sexual relations with their high school and middle school students. What can be done to stop this from happening?

  2. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago

    Nothing.
    There are already laws on the books and we don't want employers or the government installing cameras in our homes, cars, or following us wherever we go as citizens. Our only option is to enforce the law when we catch teachers breaking it.
    Having said that it is important to acknowledge that we also can't stop students from having romantic crushes on teachers either. We can try a 16 year old as an (adult) for crimes they commit but if they (choose) to have sex they are considered too young to give "consent". Both the teacher and the student should know why they are at school.

    1. peeples profile image94
      peeplesposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Yes but is a 13 year old really capable of making a rational choice about a crush? Also why aren't teachers punished more? Woman teachers typically get off with probation and loss of job.

    2. dashingscorpio profile image86
      dashingscorpioposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Punishments vary from state to state. There is a double standard when it comes to sex. Males are viewed as predators taking advantage of girls. While teenage boys are thought to (want) sex. We've tried 13 year olds as "adults" for murder. Rational?

    3. Cantuhearmescream profile image81
      Cantuhearmescreamposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I think that it is common for kids to have crushes on adults, I did with many male teachers, at a young age too. BUT, I knew it was silly crush-stuff and I would've been devastated had a teacher given me "special attention" Kids should know what's ok

  3. Cantuhearmescream profile image81
    Cantuhearmescreamposted 5 years ago

    peeples,
    This is such an important topic and major problem. I have been asking the same question since all of the massive media coverage and made for TV movie about Mary Kay Letourneau in 1997. Obviously there are psychological issues when an adult, especially an adult in the caregiver/educator field has the capacity to develop intimate feelings for a child. I am sickened everyday by news stories about all kinds of people in positions of power molesting or having some kind of inappropriate sexual relationship with a child, for all intents and purposes I will refer to a child as anyone under the age of 18. These are figures that we expect to protect and guide our children, particularly school teachers! I think that there should be some kind of psychological evaluations required prior to becoming employed in a school district and I think that there should be stiffer laws/punishments, such as life in prison without the possibility of parole for such an offense. I think that there should be zero tolerance or forgiveness when something like this occurs; there is no such thing as “I messed up” when it comes to compromising a child’s innocence. These acts forever ruin a child and the families; it is a tragedy.
    I think part of the problem is that there is not the same kind of relationship between student and teacher as there once was. Teachers were expected/required to wear suits and dresses, not dressing like the students; every day is casual Friday. The respect factor is also dying out. Children do not have the same kind of respect for their elders today that they used to. Students oftentimes feel like they are entitled and equal to their teachers. This is not the case; teachers should have a superior role to a student. We need to un-level the playing field and draw the line between students and teachers.
    It’s a shame to think that we should have to watch so carefully, but I also think that extracurricular activities, afterschool help, field trips, clubs, groups etc. should be monitored. Sometimes teachers and students spend a lot of time outside of school time together and the teacher-student role begins to diminish.
    Great question!

    1. dashingscorpio profile image86
      dashingscorpioposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      You made an excellent point regarding respect. Most adults now days are introduced to children by their first name. The use of Mr. and Ms. was an instant respect buffer. A 12 year old calling you by your first name vs Ms./Mr. is a different mindset.

    2. Cantuhearmescream profile image81
      Cantuhearmescreamposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      dashingscorpio,
      Absolutely, I have noticed a huge change in how children address their elders today. No more sir and ma'aam or yes mother and yes father. Or how about...Mr. Steve and Miss Stacey?

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    JThomp42posted 5 years ago

    Unfortunately nothing. This is such a horrible way to exploit a child's mind. Yes, they are still children, even though they think they know it all. And amazingly, I have seen more women do this than men. It's a double standard. This is disgusting behavior, but also a double standard. If a man does it he is thought of as a cruel pervert, women aren't as likely to be looked upon so harsh. Although wrong is WRONG. This is just another moral issue that has shown how our morals are disintegrating.

    1. KellyG05030 profile image71
      KellyG05030posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I couldn't agree with you more!!  I also agree with you about men being thought of differently as compared to women in this same situation.  It is EXACTLY the same situation, whether the teacher is a male or female, yet society sees it differently.

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      JThomp42posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Yes they do Kelly. Thank you.

    3. Cantuhearmescream profile image81
      Cantuhearmescreamposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      JThomp42,
      I think the world is less intimidated by a woman having relations with a child than a man. As far as I'm concerned wrong is wrong and sick is sick; punishment should be the same.

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      JThomp42posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Absolutely Cant.

  5. KellyG05030 profile image71
    KellyG05030posted 5 years ago

    I have a major pet peeve relating to this topic - I think it is grossly unprofessional for teachers to "friend" students on Facebook.  I completely understand that there are teachers who want their students to feel like they can come to them for assistance, but keep it in school.  Find ways to connect with the students in school and not through social media sites.  Teachers are in schools to ensure that our kids are learning, not to be their best friends.  I think schools should have very, very strict language in their teachers' contracts regarding things like connecting with students on social media sites, emailing to personal email accounts, attending non-school related functions/functions that are not arranged by the school that would not require prior parent authorization.  Teachers need to be the responsible party here.  There are children out there who have hard lives and not the best upbringing; they are just not equipped to make responsible decisions.  Think about it.  If a child has no loving structure at home and is then approached by a teacher about a relationship, that is a recipe for disaster.  That child is going to become so attached and desiring of any kind of relationship that brings love into his/her life.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image86
      dashingscorpioposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      When I was in school we never thought of teachers as being real humans. lol. It was always a shock to see one at a grocery store or driving around town. I can't imagine being Facebook (friends). If anything we tried to avoid adults socially!

    2. Cantuhearmescream profile image81
      Cantuhearmescreamposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I agree. I think schools should have a policy against teachers having students on their social media profiles as friends. That is a line that shouldn't be drawn. We don't need students to know how teachers are spending their free time, too personal.

  6. ahorseback profile image78
    ahorsebackposted 5 years ago

    Has everything to do with moral decline  in our culture since the sixties ,  Impulse control on a personal level  and moral  accountability , And like it or not , laws that have a real bite to them !

  7. ParadigmEnacted profile image73
    ParadigmEnactedposted 5 years ago

    Nothing! If teachers are all ugly then it makes it less likely that the students will want any, but those ugly teachers will always want some. And if drugs are involved they'll get what they want.

 
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