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Can men and women be friends after initial attraction? Are men more offended wh

  1. realtalk247 profile image70
    realtalk247posted 3 years ago

    Can men and women be friends after initial attraction?  Are men more offended when friend zoned?

    You meet someone and both express romantic interest in each other.He/She doesn't make an effort to date you but you still talk.You decide, hey, obviously this person isn't interested (that way) so you turn 100% friend and they make it clear they don't want that.You feel free to say hello or occasionally ask "hey, what's up/whatcha doing to see if your "friend" wants to hang out.
    Are men more offended than women to be put in the friend zone? Are men offended when a girl initiates hangouts like a buddy?Do men feel especially rejected? Are women equally upset about being in the friend zone?


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  2. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    There is a primary gender difference when it comes to dating.
    Men for the most part only ask women out on dates whom they (are) romantically or sexually interested in.
    Women on the other hand will say "yes" to going out with men whom they have NO romantic or sexual in!  It's sounded like fun.
    It's a fallacy for women to believe most men love to spend their time and hard earned money on women just for the fun of it!
    There is a reason why he asked (you) out as opposed to the woman with the missing teeth, pigeon toed walk, and crossed eyes!
    A lot of men however react cowardly when a woman indicates  she is only interested in friendship after the date. Instead of moving on they pretend that friendship is what they want as well. All the time they're hoping for an romantic opening down the line.
    Thus the journey to the "friend zone" begins.
    It would be interesting to see how many (male) platonic best friends would (turn down the opportunity to have sex) with their female "friends". "We can't do that! You're like a sister to me!"
    My guess is very few women will hear that line coming from their male friends. A lot of guys accept friendship as a consolation prize! smile

    1. realtalk247 profile image70
      realtalk247posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Question/scenario: If a man has an interest in the woman but does nothing to act on it and gets placed in the friend zone that's his fault. Men are only friends if they agree to be. If you call saying"baby girl how was your day." Lead=no friend zone.

    2. dashingscorpio profile image88
      dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      In this day and age men are looking for women to meet them half way. They want to know there is a "mutual interest". Subtle flirting however has become a "lost art". Fear of rejection plays a large role for why men end up in the "Friend Zone".

  3. M. T. Dremer profile image95
    M. T. Dremerposted 3 years ago

    No, they can't be friends. The man will always secretly harbor those romantic feelings and hope that one day the girl realizes she loves him too. There is a video on youtube somewhere of a guy asking girls on college campuses this question. They all say they have male friends, then admit that all of those male friends would be involved with them romantically if she gave the go-ahead.

    I do believe there are certain scenarios where men and women can be friends, but it's a narrow field of professional relationships, family members, and spouses of existing friends. And, even in all those cases, it would be weird for just the two of you to hang out.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image88
      dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      "They all say they have male friends, then admit that all of those male friends would be involved with them romantically if she gave the go-ahead." Very true!
      If a guy asked her out he's attracted to her!  They're "friends" not by (his) choice.

    2. realtalk247 profile image70
      realtalk247posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Dashing Scorpio and M.T.Dremer, what if he didn't ask her out. What if he asked her to "hang out." then that's a friend zone green light as well. If you met hanging-out socializing and you don't make the date intimate and specific to her-friend zoned

    3. dashingscorpio profile image88
      dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      "Hang out" is rarely used with a (new) person. If it's only you and him "hanging out" rather than with a group of friends odds are  it's an "unofficial date" especially if he's paying. Also the conversation during the activity offers a clues.

    4. M. T. Dremer profile image95
      M. T. Dremerposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Chances are 'hanging out' is a test to see if there is interest. If she says yes, then there is an opening. A young, single man, will rarely, if ever, start a new relationship with a woman his age that he doesn't hope will turn romantic.

 
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