No respect for liars. It takes a special person to present a life completely con

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   realtalk247posted 10 years ago

   No respect for liars. It takes a special person to present a life completely contrary to the truth.
   
   Liar liar pants on fire. In a society that focuses so much on presentation there are so many people scrambling to present themselves to be something they are not.  You know people that basically lie to lie, there is no truth in them. 
   Have you ever exposed a liar for who they are?  I live to put the look on someone's face when I acknowledge they are presenting themselves in a way that isn't true and it's unnecessary.   
   What have you done to expose a liar for who they are? How did you do it? 
   Do you lose respect for people who lie to you? Do you date people who are not truthful?
   
   

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   You said:
   "I (live) to put the look on someone's face when I acknowledge they are presenting themselves in a way that isn't true and it's unnecessary." What an odd way to get a thrill.
   Why not simply cut them out of your life. I wouldn't get "pumped up" or "live" for the opportunity. Eventually it always comes back to you.
   Each of us (chooses) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.
   We get to (choose) who we spend our time with!
   At some point we have to re-evaluate our mate/friend selection criteria if we keep associating with liars or unscrupulous people over and over again. When we change our circumstances change.

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      realtalk247posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Good point dashingscorpio. We do have to re-evaluate mate/friend selection criteria.  It just seems that over the past decade the world has changed so much.  From Catfish to the "me too" interaction with dating one has to stop and say...Wow/Really?

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   fpherj48posted 10 years ago

   realtalk....I'm sorry to say this, but your comment about relishing the look on someone's face when you call them out on a lie, is telling.  However it tells me more about you than it does any liar.
   I need to ask you how careful you are to be certain that some person, any person is not telling the truth, or the whole truth and nothing but the truth?
   A person may be repeating something he/she believes to be true although the majority of others knows it is not.  This would make this person you feel is a liar, in fact mistaken, misinformed or misguided...who knows for sure?
   It is an undeniable fact of life....a reality of human nature:  People lie.  Huge lies, little lies, lies to save face, lies to save feelings and/or pain....but at some point, in some way or another, ALL humans lie.
   Do you write letters to all Sci-Fi fiction writers to call them out on a book full of lies?  Or does it please you to see someone physically abused because he/she said something untrue to protect a friend from danger?
   One of the biggest lies in life is "self-righteousness."  Do some research, I think you may find some interesting information.
   Do I condone lying?  Absolutely not.  No more or less than I could condone stealing, cheating or bullying.  Living in society, we know these faults and much more exist...everywhere.  Tolerance, compassion and forgiveness enter in for any sense of peace & happiness.
   I WILL of course, confront a liar if there is imminent danger, or they are gambling with someone's very life.  Other than that, it is enough to know that I am aware.  The liar must work on this issue within himself.   Having said all of this, please know I speak of our personal lives.
   When we are speaking of public figures, Politicians whose words effect millions, lies are deplorable and yes, should (and usually are) exposed.
   How some random person "presents him/herself" is of no concern to me.  For me to be the authenticity police is at best disingenuous and at worst a waste of my valuable time.

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      fpherj48posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      rt...U are smart enough & alert enough to know what to discern. "Dating" will find U looking within. Never ignore red flags. Fondness can push Ur radar aside. The more open & honest U R..the less others will try to deceive you. "Lies" are sig

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   realtalk247posted 10 years ago

   fpherj48 ,
   
   Thank you for your comment. I thought it was interesting to say that making it clear to communicate with truth is more revealing about me. People lie, that's true but speaking of being raised in a different time lying is not a good character trait.  As far as "revealing about me" I try to communicate in truth. For me it's important to live a life where I can respect the person I view in front of the mirror.
   
   Glad to know you don't condone lying.  Self-righteousness? Interesting. (NOT)
   Even though you don't condone lying and recognize (as I do as well) we all have faults, it just seems sad that some people feel a need to falsely present themselves.  As far as a revealing statement, if you lie easily about who you are it seems to either say one of three things:
   (1) You attempt to present yourself in a way to manipulate others to get something you desire.
   (2) You are aware that you fall short of your own expectations in life so you reinvent yourself through words. 
   (3) Character flaw.  Trust-worthiness is in question.
   
   How people present themselves is of no concern to you-that's great.  I guess I'm thinking in a world where people are unhappy, committing suicide, and self-medicating-it's a breathe of fresh air to communicate without pretense. When I'm trying to get to know you (particularly in a dating situation which was what I considered when posting this comment), I really want to know you not who you are pretending to be. Disappointing.
   
   This comment was posted as a fun way to determine how people feel about the truth and human interaction.  My post was short therefore it didn't waste valuable time.
   
   Be blessed. Thank you for the comment fpherj48.Your response is revealing as well.

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      fpherj48posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Of course your Q is not a "waste of time," or I'd have not commented. Letting Liars play their games is a waste of time.  When deceit & facades show up too often, we need to know to move on. Avoid the falling rock. YES, it IS sad. It's also human

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