If an ex contacted you after breaking up 8 months ago,would you answer or ignore

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  1. Stacie L profile image91
    Stacie Lposted 3 years ago

    If an ex contacted you after breaking up 8 months ago,would you answer or ignore it?

    If the breakup was amicable with no drama, and you were contacted twice by email and snail mail to 'talk", would you be willing to or ignore it?

  2. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    It would depend on two things:
    1. Where I am in my relationship status
    2. Who initiated the breakup
    It's rare for a couple to have an  "amicable breakup" especially if there was a deep profound love on one their parts. I've never seen two people wake up one day and say together:
    "Lets end our relationship!"
    Usually someone is hurt or brokenhearted.
    If the hurt party was me I'm not sure if 8 months would be long enough for me to welcome them into my life as "platonic friend" making small talk about our lives and so on.  Amicable just means the person with the broken heart quietly accepted the facts instead of going psycho or seeking revenge. It's not that they're internally fine.
    Being a man I know it's not uncommon for guys to reach out to old exes from time to time to test the waters to find out if they could hookup. Some guys really believe;
    "Once I've been there I can always get back in."
    Reaching out to an ex who is receptive for them is an ego stroke.

    1. Stacie L profile image91
      Stacie Lposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, there are cases of amicable breakups. especially in a long distance relationship and both parties realize it's not working.
      That's a good point of why a man would reach out--to stroke his ego.

    2. profile image0
      Stargrrlposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      You always make the best points, D!

  3. qeyler profile image65
    qeylerposted 3 years ago

    Depends on more than one feature.  It depends on the nature of the break up, depends on 'closure'.   It is 'all you' at this point.  You don't need to care about his feelings or being nice or any of the usual 'social' amenities...it is all you.

    You might want want to do;  "Oh hi!  How ya doin?"  which proves he doesn't meant a thing to you now.

    1. Stacie L profile image91
      Stacie Lposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, once people break up, you don't need to take care of their feelings, as long as you don't go out of your way to be hurtful.

  4. Edward J. Palumbo profile image90
    Edward J. Palumboposted 3 years ago

    The answer is probably as complicated as the nature of the relationship and the breakup. If it's a matter of a relocation (one or the other moves), then I'd be interested in their progress and enjoy an update, especially if we've maintained contact after the move. If the breakup was based in a transgression, I would respond by wishing them well (?) but would not pursue continued discussion.

  5. suzettenaples profile image90
    suzettenaplesposted 3 years ago

    Communication is important.  I would talk with the person no matter what my relationship status was at the time.  It never hurts to talk.

    1. Stacie L profile image91
      Stacie Lposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      I'm not sure agree that it never hurts to talk.


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