Would you remain friends with someone that took things from your home?

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  1. Stacie L profile image91
    Stacie Lposted 4 years ago

    Would you remain friends with someone that took things from your home?

    If you entrusted a friend to watch your home while you were away and found out that they took some items ,would you remain friends? When confronted, they didn't think it was a big deal since you were not using them.

  2. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    I would choose not to remain "friends' with someone I cannot trust. I'd never let them watch my home or be around my belongings.

  3. Edward J. Palumbo profile image90
    Edward J. Palumboposted 4 years ago

    All good friendships are rooted in trust. No is no latitude for theft in friendship. If I've entrusted someone with my home and that trust was violated by theft, I would retrieve those items and that relationship would end. My belongings are mine to use or set aside until I use them again; it is not someone else's decision whether the item is "expendable" or not. If they wanted or admired it, they may ask and, in friendship, I may give it to them, but anything taken without my permission is stolen, and I don't react tolerantly to that.

    1. Stacie L profile image91
      Stacie Lposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Yes I agree;its an issue of trust.When trust is broken;it's difficult to mend.

  4. brakel2 profile image75
    brakel2posted 4 years ago

    I might if the person had a real issue, and I could get them back. Someone I know had a friend whom she suspected of taking items but could never prove it. They remained friends with a cool relationship. In general, I would not remain friends with that person, even if they said you were not using it. That is a poor excuse for stealing items from a friend. I like trustworthy friends, and most folks probably feel the same.

    1. Stacie L profile image91
      Stacie Lposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I think that they may have some issues as you said. I like trustworthy friends and they are getting scarce today.

  5. peachpurple profile image81
    peachpurpleposted 4 years ago

    depends, if best or close friends, I would tell them to return my things and then keep my things when they visit, still keep in touch

  6. realtalk247 profile image67
    realtalk247posted 4 years ago

    Heck no.  If I trust you and you violate my trust you are displaying bad character.

    1. Stacie L profile image91
      Stacie Lposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      What if this friend had an impulse control problem?

    2. realtalk247 profile image67
      realtalk247posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Stacie L, That sounds like an excuse. If the friend has an impulse control problem that I would have one too. I would impulsively remove them from my life and take control of being around someone with better morals and character.

  7. profile image47
    Nick Poulopoulosposted 4 years ago

    Absolutely not. A "friend" who steals from you is someone that you can no longer call a friend. Also the fact that they did not think it was a big deal just goes to show that they are not aware of their own faults and bad decisions. Over the weekend I had a party, someone who I have called my best friend and said he was like a brother to me stole from me. He took over 30 thousand dollars worth of merchandise. He went through all of the jewelry boxes in the house and emptied out all of them, took electronics from wherever he could find them, and just about anything else that he might have liked or thought had value. He did this while everyone was around, he just apparently would sneak off for a minute or two and start emptying things into a backpack and did that all night long. Someone who was driving him home noticed an item I said was missing and let me know so the police arrested him and found him with some of the stolen goods but plenty of them are still missing. Hell, he went through peoples wallets and took credit and debit cards from any of them that he could get access to. Went to his house the next day to pick up something I had left there and somewhat confronted him about all of this stealing. He literally acted like he had done nothing wrong, like nothing had happened, and wasn't understanding why I was so angry and disappointed with him. I will never speak to him again after this because the level of betrayal is beyond comprehension for anyone who knows him. He couldn't even come up with a reason why he did it, just that he was going to pawn anything he could for money. So the fact that someone I called a friend committed such a terrible act means that he is not actually a friend. It seems like you are in the same boat, if someone you call a friend takes things from you they betrayed you, they broke a trust which you had with them and depending on how badly they've hurt you decides if it can be repaired. Trust is a major foundation on which friendship is built and if you cannot trust somebody how can you be friends with them? In situations where trust has been broken that means that friendship is broken. Someone who would steal from a friend is someone who is toxic and needs to be cut off and out of your life. Obviously if this person was watching your house you trusted them a lot and they would be a close friend but taking stuff is something that just destroys anything between you. End everything with this person so it doesn't happen again.

    1. Stacie L profile image91
      Stacie Lposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Well, that's quite a story!
      That "friend" sounds like a criminal who may have seen you as an easy target. I hope you are more careful in the future.


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