How you can maintain the relation ship of your father and husband?

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   devisreeposted 10 years ago

   How you can maintain the relation ship of your father and husband?
   
   Do you ever been in a situation  when you are caught between your aged father and husband ?How can we overcome this situation in a healthy way?

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   Without knowing any details of the "situation" it's difficult for anyone to provide suggestions for a resolution.
   However if it's simply a matter of them not liking one another overall then you pretty much made your choice when you decided to marry your husband. Ultimately he and any children you have with him are your "immediate family" now. Very few people would choose to divorce a spouse they love simply because their father dislikes him.
   If this were the other way around with a husband caught between his wife and his mother the vast majority of people would say he should side with his wife.
   Life is a (personal) journey.
   Each of us gets to (choose) our own friends, lovers, and spouse.
   We had no say who are parents would be.
   Ideally your father and husband could set aside their differences and be cordial to one another whenever they have to be in the same place. If they can't reach an agreement to do that you may have to plan on visiting your dad alone.
   You can't make two people like one another!
   Relax and (let them) resolve their issues.

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      devisreeposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you dashingscorpio for going through my question  and commenting.

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   Dr Pran Ranganposted 10 years ago

   This is a common situation, which majority of women have to face some time or other in their life. It is common to observe that we mostly do not accept people as they are. Acceptance of others as they are is the first requirement to foster healthy relationships with others. Firstly, the women should accept both unconditionally - father and husband - with their differences because no two persons have many similarities. If she does so, half of her problem is solved because she will be able to understand the situation non judgmentally. She is the bridge between two men in her life. If the bridge is strong, she will be able to make both of them cross over to meet and resolve the issues.
   
   Moreover, she can make them understand that both have to accept each other for the sake of the growth of their relationship. The role of the women is too important for overcoming a difficult situation in the relationship between her father and husband.

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      devisreeposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you Dr Pran Rangan for your valuable comment.As you said  acceptance of others is the requirement of a healthy relationship.

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