If you are an only child, would you ever date, enter into a relationship with, a

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  1. gmwilliams profile image86
    gmwilliamsposted 3 years ago

    If you are an only child, would you ever date, enter into a relationship with, and/or marry a

    person from a large family(6 or more children per family) or do you prefer to date, enter into a relationship with, and/or marry another only child  with whom you would have much more in common?  There is a vastly different sociocultural and psychological familial dynamic in small families as opposed to large families.  People from small families(1-2 children per family) value the higher human needs; they possess a high sense of individualism. People from large families(6-more children per family) place emphasis on the rudimentary needs; they place little or no value on themselves.

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  2. lisavollrath profile image95
    lisavollrathposted 3 years ago

    I'm an only, and an introvert. I've been in relationships with people who have large families, and I find them overwhelming and intrusive. I simply can't handle large groups of people and compulsory attendance at family gatherings. It's too much.

    I wouldn't necessarily avoid a relationship with another only child, but I don't know if that would be successful, either. I like my own space, and my own things, and not being accountable to anyone. At this point, the best relationship for me is none.

    1. gmwilliams profile image86
      gmwilliamsposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Exactly Lisa, I also find them overwhelming & intrusive.You are SO RIGHT on that part, Lisa. They think in groups instead of individuals. They simply can't stand to be alone.They are always SOCIAL!. I prefer my own space &my OWN company, than

    2. lisavollrath profile image95
      lisavollrathposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Mostly, I don't need all the space filled. My friends are people who are comfortable with long periods of silence. I find the larger the family, the less likely that there will be any silence. I can't take that lack of space.

    3. gmwilliams profile image86
      gmwilliamsposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Definitely,there's no space,privacy,nor silence in large families.They live very congested, being used in living in the open.I find it unnerving. I LOVE my privacy & space.My mother, from a VERY large family of 10, learned to appreciate privacy.

  3. gmwilliams profile image86
    gmwilliamsposted 3 years ago

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    NO WAY! People from large families have a different perspective, mindset, consciousness, psychology & outlook than people who are only children.  They are more hardscrabble and basic.They also are preoccupied with the more rudimentary aspects of life while only children are more attuned to the higher aspects of life. People from large families do not value cultural nor intellectual activities, preferring more basic activities. Only children are quite comfortable participating in cultural & intellectual activities. They also have a poverty & scarcity consciousness while only children are very ambitious. I have dealt with people from large families & they are different from me as night is from day. 

    They are very basic,instinctive people.They have no concept of privacy, living totally in the open.They don't care about the future,living totally in the present.They have no normal family relationship with their parents like only children have.They raise themselves & each other.They exist in their particular universe. They think in groups & have absolutely no concept of the individual.They are very clannish & are suspicious,even distrustful of outsiders while only children are more welcoming of outsiders.They are very parochial & very insular people. Again,I have dealt with those from large families & they exemplify such traits.They prefer to stay among themselves which is quite claustrophobic.It's very unwise for an only child to ever date, enter into a relationship with, &/or marry a person from a large family.There would be a cultural clash of epic proportions.

    People from large families don't understand the only child's need to be alone and privacy. Privacy doesn't exist in the vocabulary of people from large families.  Only children are used to the better things of life while people from large families are happy living in a poverty state of mind or near it. The only child will be put LAST as their siblings ALWAYS come first, even before the spouse and their own children while only children will put their spouse and children first.

    People from large families have a deep seated prejudice against only children because the latter had more opportunities & advantages they had. Because they had a hardscrabble, impoverished upbringing, they consider only children spoilt. It's a very bad bet for an only child to ever enter into any type of relationship with them. It is better overall to enter into relationships w/another only child where there is a commonality .

  4. Jeannieinabottle profile image90
    Jeannieinabottleposted 3 years ago

    I am an only child, but I never allowed that to stop me from dating anyone I liked.  I dated men from small families and large families, and both were fine.  I don't think it has a lot to do with the personality of the person.  My mother was 1 of 12 children and my father was 1 of 8 children.  They are both pretty well-adjusted.

  5. AMFredenburg profile image75
    AMFredenburgposted 3 years ago

    I'm just not sure this is true. I have a friend who is one of six children, and she and all of her siblings are fully actualized individuals with a moral and ethical center and valued interconnections within the family. They do "family" better than anyone I know. It depends on how the parents approach child-rearing.

 
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