There's a little short story about this. I can't post it in its entirety, but Google "Nails in the Fence" to see it. The basic idea is that, yes, while you can forgive someone who betrayed you, there will always be permanent damage to the relationship. No matter what happens after you "fix" the problem, the scars will always be there.
That it true about the scars. But as I think about an experienced of getting a scar when I was a young one, I did not forget the one scar that brought more pain, but did I hold and baby that scar not allowing it to heal, did I stop the other important things in life just because of the wound and scar, no I played and continue to focus on what I could do in fun and allowed healing.In a grown ups life yes years will makes us older , but we still grow and continue our own journey toward
Maturity, stages of life will take us where we have never been, wisdom can be found and
walk beside us in our Journey. There are the old and wise we can learn from them.
Leave the past behind , and reach for the future that help you heal and learn from the experience, but do not let it cripple you,
Because there is always better ahead.
It is hard, i can understand when my brother and sister in laws betrayed my hubby, he can't forgive them until now
Sometime that is healing for self, forgiving others.
Mt 5:24 leave your gift there in front of the altar, and go away; first make your peace with your brother, and then, when you have come back, offer up your gift.
We must forgive.
I understand your situation leave the past behind
To forgive means to "let go" and move on.
It's a gift you give yourself by deciding to no longer dwell on something. Forgiveness doesn't mean you have to maintain a relationship with someone. Everyone is entitled to have their own "deal breakers". Forgiveness isn't the same as trusting again.
I have forgiven people who have betrayed me but they are no longer a part of my inner circle. I wished them no ill will and I moved on with my life. To forgive does not mean forget.
To do so would be throwing away a very valuable lesson.
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by Rishad I Habib 2 years ago
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