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Do you believe in love at first sight?

  1. bs31 profile image60
    bs31posted 2 years ago

    Do you believe in love at first sight?

  2. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 2 years ago

    No. I believe in lust or infatuation at first sight.
    However it's not until you've spent time with someone and have gotten to (know them) that you actually fall in love.
    Having said that it's not unusual to be enamored with someone early on and once the relationship evolves one reflects back and states they were "in love" the moment they laid eyes on them.
    The reality is if that individual had opened their mouth and said something you found offensive or revealed a negative personality trait upon meeting them then your initial attraction would have faded fast.
    Love at first sight simply means the person turned out to be what you (hoped they would be) after your initial infatuation with their appearance. It's a statement of reflection made in "hindsight".
    No one walks up to a complete stranger and says; "I love you!"

    1. bs31 profile image60
      bs31posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      I agree. I think lot of people nowdays consider the attraction as love. Real love one who loves his/her soul not outer beauty still it's tough to overcome with that

  3. word55 profile image73
    word55posted 2 years ago

    I like dashingscorpio's answer. There is no such thing as love at first. You just admire what you see and is interested with a hot pursuit to get to know there person.

  4. PurvisBobbi44 profile image80
    PurvisBobbi44posted 2 years ago

    One can have great chemistry and be attracted to someone when meeting for the first time, but one’s love for another has to grow from getting to know the person.

    It takes time for interaction between two people---to know if this person is compatible and someone you want to spend more time with. Love like the movie by Janette Oke—“Love Comes Softly”---sometimes and without a parade.

    1. bs31 profile image60
      bs31posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      I agree. do you think a possibility of love between two without a much interaction or talk? like someone you know that always good to you,eye contacts and adore you but may be never express the feelings(may be shyness or circumstances)

  5. Billie Kelpin profile image88
    Billie Kelpinposted 2 years ago

    I believe that what we call "love at first sight" is actually based on YEARS of subconscious analysis of behavior in people we love who are in our lives or have been in our lives.  We have made mental notes, not even realizing it, of physical characteristics, speech patterns, non-verbal communication, linguistic expression, intelligence, characteristics of kindness and empathy, even religious leanings that are recognizable in a very few minutes, especially by people who are naturally intuitive. It's no surprise that our spouse has characteristics of a mother, a father, an aunt, and uncle, a friend whom we love or have loved.  We associate those characteristics with the personality of the individual and recognize them in another quickly.  Many times, the physical characteristics of an individual correlate to his or her personality.  If you walk through a store with a baby that is exceptionally cute, watch the reaction of the people who meet this child.  All positive reaction goes into shaping of the personality.  But recognizing physical characteristics and relating them to personality is one aspect.  I believe that the whole process entails a more complicated process. All of our observations are subtly recorded in our neural pathways and we bring that information with us to our first encounter with a new person.
    So yes, I do believe in love at first sight.  It can happen with friendships as well.  There are some people that you know you are compatible with after only a few mintues.  Again, it's all based, I believe, on subconscious recording and classifying of complicated observations and analysis that we make on a daily basis.

    1. bs31 profile image60
      bs31posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      I like your answer

  6. Dr Billy Kidd profile image92
    Dr Billy Kiddposted 2 years ago

    There's love at first sight and it nothing worth believing in. It lasts up to 18 months. The the hormones change and you wake up with a stranger in your bed.
    That's because you have thought obsessively that this person is "the One."

    So, if during that time you haven't become friends, or feel like family, you cannot move into the second state of being in-love. That is where you get excited when seeing your partner--the pleasure area in the brain actually responds. And you can kick back like friends together and no hold grudges. But few people who fall in love at first sight move forward with the relationship So they never discover this.. They like the 18 months of bliss and then blame their partner for the problems and move on.