Do you believe in Love at first sight?

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  1. dejajolie profile image61
    dejajolieposted 14 years ago

    Is there such a thing as love at first sight? In the media and in 'real' life I hear about people getting married after only months of dating and hear phrases being thrown around like "as soon as I saw them I knew". Do you believe in this, or if this has been your experience I would love to hear.

    1. advisor4qb profile image77
      advisor4qbposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I did.  Until now.  Now I know it is simply a case of romantic obsession that usually leads to heartache.

      The one I fell the hardest for that broke my heart the most?  We destroy each other every time we reunite.  Those days are over for me.

      I am more likely to "fall" for someone who would love to lift me up!

      1. dejajolie profile image61
        dejajolieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        Funny you should say that, a friend of mine shared with me that her Therapist told her if you meet someone and at first sight they make your heart jump and palms sweat, and you feel you are on fire, run, because it will most likely burn in flames and be a disaster........

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      Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      No offense to anyone here, but anyone who tells you that love in first sight is true, is full of s****!  The reason why i say this is because love in first sight only happens in movies.  and most cases where people allegedly claim it happens to them usually end in breaking up, because they didn't know what they were getting into.

      love at first sight is basically a plot device used in movies and tv shows to try to save time and story development.  however, its not to be taken seriously, as that crap never works in real life.  most of the time in real life, when people claim to have fallen in love at first sight, its usually due to lust or infatuation of how that person makes them feel without actually knowing them.  Besides if that were the case, you might as well say that every school boy crush is really unrequited love if you stop to think about it.

      love is basically about trial and error basically.  most people usually have to go through a lot of crappy relationships in life until they meet someone that they're most compatible with.  Seldom few are lucky enough to meet the person right off the bat in life.  Love is also rare too because most people seldom find love, even couples that are together, doesn't mean they love each other.  thats why you have some men/women get abused in relationships, that claim to be in love, but they're merely dilluding themselves.  you think if they're lover really loved them, they would do anything to make their abused partner misereable?  thats why love is so special as its so rare.

      my theory on love is that it starts off with mutual infatuation.  it can either start off as friendship or two people that find each mutually attractive on some level.  It's from there as the two get to know each other that their feeling evolve into love. sure, you won't always get along at time, but if you really love someone, you'll learn to accept them for who they are.  thats what i believe love is.

      1. Shadesbreath profile image77
        Shadesbreathposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        You said "usually" which is not the same as always. If something only happens infrequently, that does not mean it does not exist.  Compared to sunrises and sunsets, stars appearing in the sky and bugs flying by, rainbows usually don't happen either. They do, however, exist.

        "Never" is also incorrect.  I knew when I saw my wife 21 years ago she was for me, and still is.

        How do you know what happens "most of the time in real life?" There are 6 billion people on this planet.  You are but one of them. While I understand what you are doing when you write that rhetorically (trying to establish the existence of a trend), you can't do that in a coversation like this.  You have no more idea what happens "most of the time" for those 6 billion people than I do, or anyone else. Your evidence is anecdotal at best.

        You are absolutely correct.  However, this in no way negates the reality of love at first sight.

        The only thing you are doing different here is giving preference to one word over another because you believe it's the way you see it (which is fine). You insist that it's infatuation at first sight and becomes love.  I'm saying that in the cases where it lasts, it could just have easily have been love at first sight, and time proved it.  In cases where it fails, it was only infatuation.  Love at first sight works; infatuation at first sight doesn't.

        1. Black Lilly profile image61
          Black Lillyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Excuse me, but there's a hole in your logic. And not a single one. Actually, your logic on the subject looks like fishnet.
          1. as you said, love at first sight happens INFREQUENTLY.
          2. it does, however, exist (haven't seen a martian yet, but people say they exist - some of them were even kidnapped, etc.)
          3. there are 6 bilion people on the planet. So how the hell do YOU know what happens "most of the time in real life"? Done a mass survey or what? Your "evidence", questionably based on yourself only, is more than an anecdote.
          4. YOU met YOUR wife, she swept you off your feet and so on. And of course you did not feel lust or infatuation, only pure love when you saw her... oh how nice. Are you a saint?
          5. One word preference over the other (infatuation vs. love)? In cases where it lasts, it's love, in cases where not - it's infatuation, that's what you say? And that's a very convenient approach - how do you distinguish which is which? What about one-sided love? What about attraction on the whole - would you say it's love from the first minute? What if I immagine love SHOULD start from some degree of physical attraction/infatuation/lust? What about the fact that there is no infatuation for me would mean there is no love?

          These are two different attitudes, yours being a minority. If you read this thread, you'll find even more of them.

          1. Shadesbreath profile image77
            Shadesbreathposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Yep. Topic of this thread being "Do you believe in Love at first sight?"  Infrequently = it exists. Thank you for agreeing.

            You just allowed that it exists infrequently, now you appear to making some sort of red herring argument about aliens.

            While my "evidence" is, "more than anecdote" true, I am convinced that's not what you really meant to say despite what you actually wrote.  So, scroll up and you'll see what I actually I wrote:

            You have no more idea what happens "most of the time" for those 6 billion people than I do, or anyone else.

            While I do love your enthusiasm, you really should read what people write before you respond, otherwise you undermine your over-arching point with glaring sloppiness like that.

            Where did I say I had some sort of detached, out-of-body love that existed entirely outside of my corporeal humanity?  Not sure where you came up with that one. Furthermore, are you saying that saints have different biology than regular humans?

            I believe I did distinguish which is which.  Infatuation, a temporary attraction, does not last because by the very nature of being temporary it is, uh, temporary.  Love, being typically understood as a more powerful and compelling and "real" thing, endures.  I believe my statement was pretty forthright, particularly when kept in the context of the conversation in which it was made, that being the belief in "love at first sight."

            All interesting topics, to be sure, but none of them really relevant to a discussion about love at first sight. Love is a complicated thing, the existence of thousands of years of art and literature grappling with its myriad mysteries and manifestations clearly proves it to be so.  No sense muddying up a very clearly pointed conversation about one particular manifestation of love, love at first sight, with all those un-related, albeit also fun to examine, nuances of love.

            I'm not sure what this means, so I'll just smile and nod politely.

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          Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

          wow, you took piece by piece of my post and disected it like that huh?  lol.  i don't know if i should reply or just feel honored that you took this much effort to respond to me.  lol

    3. TammyK profile image57
      TammyKposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I do not believe in love at first sight.  you can be attracted to what they look like, get caught up in their conversation after you firts meet them.  but to love someone i have found you have to know this person, because you never know what or who you are getting involved with until you get to know them well

    4. RedPeony profile image60
      RedPeonyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, I do believe love at first sight. Moreover, I am falling in love at first sight of a man's online profile without physically first "date".

    5. salt profile image59
      saltposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      they say it is really an anxiety attack, not to be taken as real.. there may really be true spiritual links between people and this may be what they label love at first site, but generally, its a bit too much champagne, alot of desire and the siting of an appropriate mating partner... lol ( in david attenborough speak)

    6. dohn121 profile image78
      dohn121posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I don't think any of us skeptics believe in it unless of course it happens to us cool

    7. tkirsc1977 profile image54
      tkirsc1977posted 14 years agoin reply to this


    8. Omariah profile image57
      Omariahposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I believe in love at first sight because it happended to me.  I meet my husband while on holiday abroad.  Our eyes met and we both knew.  we got married 4 months later having only spending the last three days of my holiday together.  the wedding was magic and we've been married nearly 2 years now. He seems to just get me.  We don't argue and are comfortable to just sit quietly in each others company.  Others may not agree that it was love at first sight but I know what I felt and it was very cosmic.

    9. AEvans profile image70
      AEvansposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Absolutely! My husband and I have been together 15 years and we were married after 6 weeks, I knew he was the one, I can't explain it but I knew it! smile

    10. pylos26 profile image69
      pylos26posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah...I do...found a ten dollar bill...and it was definitely love at first sight.

    11. itcoll profile image60
      itcollposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      ya i definitely do.But it is not just the sight but also their know,looks are just temporary but its their attitude that will impress me.attitude+impressive looks=higher gravity.

    12. Navywife6 profile image61
      Navywife6posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      yep I sure do, and I have a husband of almost 18 years and 4 kids to support this.  I saw my husband sitting in the ampitheater at Kent State University-E. Liverpool Campus in 1991,and I melted.  I KNEW right then and there he was the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.  I was actually engaged to a man before I met my husband, and although he was a great guy, he wasn't THE GUY.  I saw my husband sitting there reading and w/o talking to him just KNEW.  He isn't the man I live with...he is the man I can't live with out....he is truly the love of my life, and even today when I look at him, I see the man I turned to jelly over all those years ago.  Thanks for reminding me to be grateful for this today smile

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      cosetteposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      only in the movies.

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      L. Andrew Marrposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      No, it doesn't exist.

      I have a couple of mates who make me feel sick because they've known their girlfriends for a couple of weeks and they say they're madly in love.

      I went out with my ex-girlfriend from 8 months and I never said I loved her. One of my mates lectured me about this - he said he didn't understand because he loved his girlfriend the second he set eyes on her.

      I wanted to puke.

      1. LovesAparadise23 profile image60
        LovesAparadise23posted 14 years agoin reply to this

        You feel this way because you haven't had someone who shakes things up for you come into your life. But believe me that when you do, you'll know you will love this person not because they're great in bed or because they're awesome kissers but because when you're with that person you feel like you are the most important thing in that persons life and you get shortness of breath, believe me, you will know!

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      TheZEDManposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I ONLY believe in love at first sight.

      Before I ever experienced it, I never thought of it, I thought all you do is pick someone who's attractive that seems reasonable to date, but gosh was I wrong.

      After I met my first REAL love, I immediately fell in love.  I didn't feel it when talking on the internet or after seeing her pictures on the computer.  In fact before I met her face to face, I was considering her just as a good friend and as a second choice; BOY WAS I WRONG.

      It was in the first second of eye contact when I met her face to face that I became overwhelmed with emotion.  I saw the most beautiful woman I've ever seen before, and I felt a feeling that no matter who else comes that this is the girl I want to be with.  Not only did I love her, but she loved me.  She had the most beautiful face and eyes, although she looked good in her pictures, she looked like a goddess in real life.  Also, every time I looked at her eyes, they looked somehow different as if they were a surreal entity that could penetrate into my soul.

      Well, as you can see just thinking about an instance of love at first sight makes you feel.  I didn't feel this way about anyone before, and I even forgot what anyone I dated before her was like.

      I have had this experience only twice since, and even though there are many attractive women, they are nothing in comparison with true love.  In fact after having true love, you don't even care about other women unless you have that rush of love for them, too, because you know without it a life with them would be unfulfilling.

      I believe people don't grow on you, only mold does, and that even doesn't happen until after you die.  In my eyes, you either love someone from the start or you are just settling for a lesser relationship.  Don't get me wrong a lesser relationship can work, but in comparison to true love, it's like comparing a girl who looks kinda cute in school to a god sent angel who your only purpose on this world is to love and cherish each day with.

      Love needs time?  No, if I don't love you from the start, I'm never gonna love you much.  It's like you can train your mind to like a food that you sort of can eat, but it will never be like eating your favorite meal prepared by the best chef in the universe with the freshest ingredients (mmmmm, I loooove food).

      Love at first sight definitely exists, those that think it doesn't only have never experienced it.

      Just because you haven't seen it doesn't mean it doesn't exist wink

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      afsheen110posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      love at first sight is true

    17. Army Infantry Mom profile image60
      Army Infantry Momposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Why sure I do,..I knew Id marry my husband the first time I met him. Infact the first night I met him he stayed the night (I know sounds bad) The second night he stayed too. The third night he went home and packed. The fourth night he was moved in. Now almost 18 years later,..Hes still the one for me.

      1. dejajolie profile image61
        dejajolieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        Awww rare, but True I see!

      2. LovesAparadise23 profile image60
        LovesAparadise23posted 14 years agoin reply to this

        Lucky smile
        I wish I was lucky enough to meet someone who fell crazy in love with me..... I don't want a fairy tale, I want a real life tale with some of the moments from some fairy tales <3

    18. emzgill profile image59
      emzgillposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I wish that i did believe in love at first sight but i don't.  The man that i am with and have been for four years is a great guy but it wasn't love at first sight.  When i first saw him i thought that he was attractive with beautiful blue eyes but it wasn't love. For me it isn't love until i have gotten to know the person and found out everything about them.  Then you learn to love the good and the bad about a person.  I honestly believe that it is impossible to love at first sight but that it is actually lust at first sight

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        Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

        well put

    19. Rod Marsden profile image68
      Rod Marsdenposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I used to believe in love at first sight and maybe I still do. There was a redhead I met first day at college in 1980. I think that was love at first sight.

      Trust is the issue and the ability to follow your own insticts. We tend to lose both with experience. We tend to get more guarded as we get older and love at first sight then doesn't stand a chance. Love, however, can still get through the traps you set for it. The last woman I was keen on knew about that sort of thing and we managed to meet half way on the battelfield discovering we were both basically doing the same things and wanting the same things.

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      Pacal Votanposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      A believe in it, if first sight means first impression. Although, I have never experienced it.

    21. Kristie91 profile image58
      Kristie91posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I wouldn't say it's exactly love at first sight. That would be better identified as lust. But I do believe that if it's really meant to be you can fall in love in some one with in the first half an hour of hanging out with someone. I believe that when meeting some one, that's when you decide if you love that person or not. Romantically or in any other way.

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      Melboy89posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Ok, when i'm doing my research about"Love at first sight", i come across this forum, this is my first post.

      i am also the vitim of this "disaster" and 21 yo_male.

      I dont wanna lecture anyone here, just wanna express myself big_smile

      "love at first sight": "god" choose the other half for you
      "normal love": you choose the otherhalf for yourself

      Love: to see other"soul" as a "soul mate", not a"physical mate".
      Then learn to accept"soul mate's flaws" and cheer"soul mate's perfection"

      Since most of individuals on earth have 70% perfection and 30%flaws in their personality.
      So, tell me how you gonna chose one to love!


      True love: you can pick anyone opposite sex and give your love to her/him equally.

      The truth:
      - No, she's so fat,ugly,so thin, so stupid......,no, he's not handsome,short, so poor,homeless,broken,......
      - Broke up, divorced,..., too many too count.

      you start a relationship with alot of"standards" and "requirements"

      I start a relaitonship,simply cause i've been chosen by"god", if my girl happened to be ugly disabled person, i would still love her.

      1. Sa Toya profile image81
        Sa Toyaposted 14 years agoin reply to this
    23. Qualah 927 profile image59
      Qualah 927posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I believe love has no timeline or clock that say it should happen in over a certain amount of time. If love at first sight happens to you, hold on and enjoy the ride. But please make sure that you are getting the same love in return, because if you aren't then you need to let go and move on.

    24. Bredavies profile image60
      Bredaviesposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Kind of..I do beileve that you can have a really strong feeling when you first look at someone and it might be love. smile

    25. christy scalia profile image61
      christy scaliaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I do believe in love at first sight. I met my husband 5 years ago, in a bar of all places. I never went to bars looking for anything but to have fun and dance. It was a week after Valentines Day. I had been single for over a year. My girlfriend and I decided to go out. We was having a really good time dancing and not paying any attention to guys there. I left the dance floor for a drink and as I'm walking back to our table, something made me stop dead in my trakes. I had no idea what it was. I turned and looked to my left and saw him standing there. About the time I looked into his eyes, his eyes met mine. At that moment I had the strangest feeling come over me. It was nothing that I had ever felt before. I didn't go to him and he didn't come to me. The whole night we just couldn't take our eyes off of each other. Every now and then we would give each other a smile and then laugh. As the night was coming to an end he finally came up to me and asked my name. I was nervous about giving him my number but had to take the chance. My girlfriend came up and when I turned back introduce them he was gone. She had ran him off.
      I thought about him every second of every day for weeks. I wondered if he had thought about me to. It was a couple weeks later and I'm getting ready for bed, when my phone rang. It was him! We talked til 4 in the morning. From that moment on you could not get us away from each other. We knew we were sole mates. We have been married for six years this July 16th and have a beautiful 5 year old together. We still look at each other the way we did the first night we ever saw each other.

    26. Mr Nice profile image75
      Mr Niceposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      ♥♥♥ It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone,
      an hour to like someone and a day to love someone
      but takes a lifetime to forget someone. ♥♥♥

    27. mazicbox2009 profile image54
      mazicbox2009posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Now if I've never seen this person, but got to really know them, for example on EP. Then love at first sight, is physically possible, only because I've already seen them with my heart. Otherwise it's just lust.

    28. Jisblessed profile image65
      Jisblessedposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, I believe in love at first sight. I also believe that there is a force working in the universe that bring some people together. Everything isn't by chance. The force I'm speaking of is the Love of God.

      I have experienced love at first sight. Until it happened I didn't believe in it but I wondered about it. But now, I know a definete yes. There is love at first sight. But whether we cherrish and nuture it is another story.

    29. Diskobolos profile image56
      Diskobolosposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      It takes time for our emotions to grow and become love, so it's not possible to feel it at first sight. I do believe in strong chemistry that is possible at first sight and that makes us to desire that person passionately.

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      Ghost32posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      "By the numbers", here's my experience covering 7 marriages (but, thankfully, only 6 divorces):

      #1.  Met on a blind date.  Love came slowly, as I'd been "burned" and thought I was being cautious.  8 year marriage.

      #2.  Love BEFORE first sight.  I did astrology charts at the time, had done hers, noticed powerful compatibility between hers and mine, and set out to take her away from her husband.  7 year marriage, still close friends.

      #3.  Not first sight, but married within a month of meeting.  3 year marriage, toughest go of the lot.

      #4.  DEFINITELY love (or at least I was stunned and committed) at first sight.  She was framed in the doorway to her apartment, hosting a church potluck, wearing a calf length, filmy white dress.  Only married 1 year but still connected; see each other in dreams sometimes.  Still consider her absolutely awesome.

      #5.  LOOKS GOOD TO ME at first a singles dance where most people there were over the hill or clearly desperate.  The most incredible blue eyes on the planet.  6 year marriage, 20 year business relationship, did lose contact when that ended and she no longer received a check every month.  Wrote one helluva love song for her titled This Moment Beyond Time, based on that first evening of dancing, before seeing her a second time.

      #6.  Love at SECOND sight.  Wasn't sure the first time  around; realized this was one where we could do well any time both of us were on our game but could also nose-dive into disagreement any time we were being "simply human".  4 year marriage, still welcome to go out for  dinner any time I'm in her town.

      #7.  LOOKED POSSIBLE at first sight.  Knew I was in that town to "connect" with somebody to help them--an intuitive and/or spiritual thing--and she was the first one I'd seen that seemed as if she MIGHT "be the one".  Turned out she was.  In our 14th year together now, still hooked at the hip, a Till Death Do Us Temporarily Part thing.

    31. tony0724 profile image60
      tony0724posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I absolutely believe in love at first sight ! The first gal I met after high school when we made eye contact I nearly had a stroke ! We were together many years. Sometimes you just know

    32. pisean282311 profile image61
      pisean282311posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      after 10 love at first sight experience , i believe it is true!!!!!!!!...on serious notes we have scientific reports of google love at first sight and read that..

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      Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      my expierence is.....99 percent of "love at first sight" things dont last. When I met my husband, I was 17, and I "just knew"....turnsout your not really all that grownup at 17

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      liferocksblogposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I personally don't believe in it.  Sure the idea of it sounds wonderful and romantic and I'm sure there are people all over the world trying to tell themselves that the "knew as soon as they saw her/him that they were the one."  Infatatuion at first site, sure.  An instant spark and chemistry, absolutely.  But not love..You've got to at least wait 6-8 months when all the lubby dubby stuff wears off to know if you could really be with that person long term..


      Life Rocks

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      motherofthreeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I met a guy over the phone when I was a teenager.  We got along so well that we talked for 4 months straight and we did not even know what we looked like.  I met him and fell in double love instantly, I thought that God had rewarded me.  We had a daughter together and now have a grand baby. We broke up in between but are now together again.  I believe in love at first sight but sometimes it can be attraction and not love.  I believe in my case that we bonded on the phone and we were delighted to know that our insides matched our outsides.

  2. Black Lilly profile image61
    Black Lillyposted 14 years ago

    I don't believe that, though it's very nice concept we dream about, thus considerably exploited by media.

    I believe in lust at first three sights (you have to look at that person at least a few times, don't you?), but this is it.

  3. Wonder_Woman profile image58
    Wonder_Womanposted 14 years ago

    i wouldnt say.. love per say but attraction definitely, when i first saw my current bf i remember it in slow motion, it was like wow.... i remember it clearly, 7 years later from that day, we have been dating for 5. lol got what i wanted

    1. dejajolie profile image61
      dejajolieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Similar experience twice I saw and was instantly attracted to two ex-boyfriends so much to the point where I initiated the conversations each time. It wasn't just their looks, although they are both attractive it was more...I said to my friends, "I'm going to date him" I dated both for several years to date they were the most stress-free, fun, intense and effort less relationships I ever had. Problem is they ended, not on bad terms just did (both situations the guys weren't 'ready' for anything serious). They are still single, we still keep in contact and I think about them often. So was this love?

      1. Wonder_Woman profile image58
        Wonder_Womanposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        I think their are different types of love

  4. Jonathan Janco profile image60
    Jonathan Jancoposted 14 years ago

    Never believed in it until I experienced it:)

    1. dejajolie profile image61
      dejajolieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Oh don't leave me hangin' tell me more.....

      1. Jonathan Janco profile image60
        Jonathan Jancoposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        Twice. They even looked a little bit alike . . . a lot alike, actually. Strange. Both made me feel the same way when I first saw them. Cold sweats, stomach in the throat and all that. Thought it was just attraction at first, but in each case those feelings just got stronger as time went on. In the earlier case, I liked her more and more the more I knew about her. A fictional version of her even made it to my book. In the later case, I liked her less and less the more I knew of her to the point where I really detested her, yet my heart still aches to this day when I see her.
        Damn that love at first sight!

        1. dejajolie profile image61
          dejajolieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Wow, ok and as I stated it 'love, or lust' at first site happened to me twice as well...I have been comparing everyone since then to 'that feeling' nothing has compared.

  5. kezan98 profile image60
    kezan98posted 14 years ago

    I've never believed in love at first sight but definitely an instant attraction and a need to get to know the other person.

    But then maybe Jonathan Janco is right - you need to experience it to believe it.

  6. ediggity profile image59
    ediggityposted 14 years ago

    Yes, there is love at first sight.

    1. unclesam profile image61
      unclesamposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      only in films!

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        Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

        finally someone else that agrees with me here.

  7. tantrum profile image59
    tantrumposted 14 years ago

    I believe in infatuation  at first sight

    Loves comes later. Or not.

  8. Bard of Ely profile image79
    Bard of Elyposted 14 years ago

    I used to yes!

    1. dejajolie profile image61
      dejajolieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Used to? sounds like an interesting story behind that...

  9. spiritactor profile image60
    spiritactorposted 14 years ago

    I believe in it in these terms: An inexplicable attraction of mutual energies happens-- but it depends on your mind-set at the time as to how your imagination plays on it. If you're actively looking for love or open to BE loved at the time, you'll probably experience it as "Cupid's arrow." If you're looking for a good friend, you'll probably experience it as a "soul mate" thing.

    Whatever your mind-set, I believe it's an experiencing of an attraction that feels like it had no beginning and no end, it happens without expectations; and is a connection that runs all through you and sparks your imagination-- not about what COULD be but what IS right now. Thoughts of sex may or may not come into play-- but an open sense of comfort or ease does.

    Ever feel that?

    1. dejajolie profile image61
      dejajolieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I think so, I guess because neither of them lasted wasn't sure if that qualified as love....hope it happens again soon..wink

    2. advisor4qb profile image77
      advisor4qbposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      THAT is exactly what I want to find, or to have find ME!

  10. Fr FtBll Fnz profile image59
    Fr FtBll Fnzposted 14 years ago


  11. dave272727 profile image60
    dave272727posted 14 years ago

    Not so much love at first sight, but you can sense a connection from first sight.  It could just be mutual attraction, lust, or whatever.

  12. bukan profile image61
    bukanposted 14 years ago

    Yes, there is a thing Love at first sight, the experienced person can only believe those things. smile

  13. aefrancisco profile image61
    aefranciscoposted 14 years ago

    I don't believe in love at first sight... maybe attraction but not love.

  14. Wease profile image60
    Weaseposted 14 years ago

    Not sure if it was love at first sight but I knew that I never wanted to let him go.

    1. prettydarkhorse profile image61
      prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      MAYBE LUST at first SIGHT

      just kidding, never had that feeling...but with Daniel Day Lewis, love at first ....hmmm

  15. profile image0
    Justine76posted 14 years ago

    When I met my husband, I was attracted to him, stomach flops and all. As I got to know him, I fell in love with him. I remeber I was walking with him one day, (I really was the girl next door..)we were talking and we were really good friends, we had never mentioned "liking" each other that way...(I was 17 btw), and as he was leaving me at my house, I looked at him and thought to myself, Im going to marry him some day. He joined the army after high school, I went off to do other things, we lost touch with each other, then 5 years later we reconnected, and have now been married for 10 years.

    1. prettydarkhorse profile image61
      prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      sweet justine, hmmm

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        Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this


    2. advisor4qb profile image77
      advisor4qbposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      That is the sweetest story!  You are very lucky in this day and time to have been able to find someone just right for you that you are happy with.  Awesome!

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        Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

        Thanks, I do feel lucky. Of course, it is real life, and its not all rainbows, ya know? But I am thankfull to have found him. We like our "story."  smile

    3. dejajolie profile image61
      dejajolieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      That's a great story!

    4. TammyK profile image57
      TammyKposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      YES!!!!  I agree with all the others who said it is a good love story.  It's nice to have met someone you once shared something with, and be able to meet them again and pick up where you left off.  And it's even better when they come to you single, as he seemed to have done.

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        Justine76posted 14 years agoin reply to this

        thanks. I like my story. To  better answer the question...LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT....
        mine wasnt. i was interested in him and over time came to love him. I guess, you can feel all kinds of things at first sight, the question didnt say anything about it lasting forever...

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    ralwusposted 14 years ago

    Yes! It happens.

    1. Sally's Trove profile image79
      Sally's Troveposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, it does.

  17. Hanna Bambina profile image60
    Hanna Bambinaposted 14 years ago

    no no and thrice no! How can you fall in love with someone if you don't even know what that person is like , their flaws their strengths their weaknessess; all you know is that they're stupid enought to fall in love at first sight.

  18. beautyrose profile image60
    beautyroseposted 14 years ago

    funny those love at first sight are common when we were young then but it can still happen though i'm hoping to the single one's and not to the married one's or else broken homes will be many. Wink*

  19. Harvey Stelman profile image61
    Harvey Stelmanposted 14 years ago

    You don't fall in love at first sight; what do you know about the person? It takes time to know what love is.

    1. TammyK profile image57
      TammyKposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      i agree

  20. redemption86 profile image60
    redemption86posted 14 years ago

    I do belive in love at first sight, to a degree. my partner and I have known each other for over 7 years but have only just got together reacently. After spending much time apart there has always been a strong attraction between us from the moment we first met. although i was unkind at first it was perhaps just a mask to hide. years later we became reunited and it was his turn to be unkind! Now after 7 years we have finally got together. What Im trying to say is that I think that you know as soon as you meet someone and that your feelings come out in different ways. I would not change anything at all, ie i wouldnt have liked us to have got together in the past because to be honest we probally wouldnt be together now. And I think that it is fate that has kept us apart for so long and then brought us together when we where both at the right stage in our lives!

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    lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

    without question - there are no coincidences, and few of us are lucky if it happens, like me big_smile

    1. dejajolie profile image61
      dejajolieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      That's great, I too believe everything happens as it was suppose to, fate or otherwise...perhaps Love falls into this category as well.

  22. jobister profile image60
    jobisterposted 14 years ago

    No I do not. In fact to me it is Infatuation at first sight, love is more complicated than that. People tend to mix infatuation with love and that is dangerous. Love takes time to evolve and once it does it is true. But clearly to me it is not love at first sight.

  23. K Partin profile image60
    K Partinposted 14 years ago

    Yup! I did 39 years ago and still do... smile

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      sneakorocksolidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Me too! 34yrs!

      1. dejajolie profile image61
        dejajolieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        Guess the test worked for you, lol

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          sneakorocksolidposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          My wifes a hitter!(she punches like a butterfly) If I pulled that out she would do her bset to beat me sense less!

          1. dejajolie profile image61
            dejajolieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            lol I bet

  24. pioneer_writer5 profile image55
    pioneer_writer5posted 14 years ago

    It did not happen that way for me, but I do know someone that has been married 50 years that it did happen to.

  25. trish1048 profile image68
    trish1048posted 14 years ago

    I don't believe in love at first sight.  Like others have mentioned, it is more likely an intense physical attraction.    True love does not happen instantly. Just MHO.

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    sneakorocksolidposted 14 years ago

    No, the second sight yes. First sight all real men should examine the goods, take measurements, do the Charmin test and have her fill out an indepth survey of what she's willing to do for cruises, jewelry and visiting her family. If it all checks out then you can fall in love.

  27. ThePartyAnimal profile image61
    ThePartyAnimalposted 14 years ago

    I totally believe - it happened to me and still with my husband going on 20+ years

  28. thirdmillenium profile image59
    thirdmilleniumposted 14 years ago

    Believe? Lord, I practice it to the hilt!  Like a hundred times and counting

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    PashaSposted 14 years ago

    I believe in lust at first sight.

    1. profile image0
      mtsi1098posted 14 years agoin reply to this are the dreams? smile

    2. Cagsil profile image70
      Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      This will always and forever happen. It's natural instinct of man and woman, when extremely attracted to one particular individual.

      lol lol

  30. Cagsil profile image70
    Cagsilposted 14 years ago

    Do you believe in Love at first sight?

    I do think that it is possible, because I think anything is possible.

    Does it happen? Sure, since it is possible. It could possibly happen even more than once. Because, if an event, even a random one, will likely happen again, and again.

    So, that's my take.

  31. Elena. profile image84
    Elena.posted 14 years ago

    The title of this thread caught my eye...

    I've never doubted about the possibility of love at first sight, I'm slightly more cautious and doubtful about the possibility of love at sustained sight...

    1. dejajolie profile image61
      dejajolieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      @ sustained sight....yeah that's probably the more difficult

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    shazwellynposted 14 years ago

    Love at first sight has happened twice for me.  It felt something spiritual x

  33. Johnathan David profile image59
    Johnathan Davidposted 14 years ago

    I'm not sure if believing in it or not actually matters. The truth is that the heart is an unpredictable thing sometimes and Love is even more so.  If there really is something like love at first sight, then I wouldn't be surprised. But then again, I'm quite the romantic, so maybe I'm a little biased here.  But nevertheless, rarely does everything in life go as we plan or even believe, so I'm open to the many possibilities.

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    Leta Sposted 14 years ago

    LOL.  Shadesbreath!  Are you messing with the lovelorn?

    wink  Bad brain.

    1. Shadesbreath profile image77
      Shadesbreathposted 14 years agoin reply to this


      I'm bored, too lazy to write anything of use, too hungover for humor, and too uninspired for profundity or the semblance thereof. So, here I be, sniping at whatever rhetorical targets I can find in hopes that a muse will find me or the sickly-film of last night's indulgence will give way to the thirst for more.

      Nice to see you lurking about the HubPages hallways still.

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        Leta Sposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        Always full of profundity and humor, smile. lol

        Yes, I work and I lurk...around here, still.  That's what the life of regular jobs seems to be suited to...sometimes.  So, yeah, I know what you are saying.

  35. mega1 profile image78
    mega1posted 14 years ago

    It appears, that what I really believe in is "Love at First Fight!"

  36. Sauvignon profile image61
    Sauvignonposted 14 years ago

    I've dated.  I was married for five years. I dated again. Good stuff and lots of interest and attraction.  I don't know if this exists or if i will go to my grave searching for it.

    I want heart racing, palms sweating, libido throbbing, eyes dilating, can't get in a sane thought around thoughts of 'him', can't keep hands off each other, stare at each other for hours in perfect contentment, take a bullet for each other kind of thing. Some will call that lust, some just plain nuts.  I want to feel something more.

    Damn movies- makes you dream of more. roll

    1. dejajolie profile image61
      dejajolieposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I've had that Twice and I'll take THAT again, not sure if it was love/lust but it felt GREAT

  37. profile image0
    Leta Sposted 14 years ago

    Uh, the above would make it impossible to function in any other arena.  I cannot imagine going to one's grave searching for it.  I think that would be all one would accomplish their whole life.

  38. Sauvignon profile image61
    Sauvignonposted 14 years ago

    Definite points of truth in that comment but so worth it if found.

  39. xiao_kang profile image60
    xiao_kangposted 14 years ago

    For me, I lusted intensely at first sight, beyond the point of your everyday lust. I mean, I couldn't truly love him because I didn't even know him but I was attracted to the point that I was overwhelmed. I wanted him physically, I wanted and longed for him emotionally,but most of all I knew I would have him. I saw us together, loving each other. I remember that moment like it was yesterday.
    As it turned out, i did have him. He doesn't love me like I love him and many times my love for him was more of a kind hatred. He's hurt me, we've struggled...but we still love eachother and endure after 4 years.
    Love at first sight? Sure, if it wasn't love then it was some sort of preminition of our future love.

  40. Himitsu Shugisha profile image69
    Himitsu Shugishaposted 14 years ago

    Like many have written here, I believe that you can love the way someone looks at first sight, but if anyone has ever truly loved or been in love with someone they know that it takes getting to know that person before true emotions begin to take shape.

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    Stevennix2001posted 14 years ago


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    BIKTMIAposted 14 years ago

    Hello, great question. Yes,  I think there is a such aspect of strong attraction at first sight.  Love,  if you expound on it conversate and spend time all in one meeting its rare but I'm sure it has been done some where in the world. I view love rather deeply in my views. Drawn to maybe at first sight more likely.

  43. Luciendasky profile image59
    Luciendaskyposted 14 years ago

    I used to say no... adamantly. But when my boyfriend and I met, he fell in love with me at first sight.

    However, he thought I had a boyfriend (which I didn't) and so he didn't ask me out for a year and a half and we just stayed friends...

    I thought he liked me from the time we met, but was too shy to ask him out - lol

    Luckily, he finally discovered I didn't have a boyfriend lol...

  44. profile image0
    Stevennix2001posted 14 years ago


  45. profile image0
    WayneAnsellposted 14 years ago

    Fell in love with my wonderful wife at 1st sight over 5 years ago. I love her more evry day!

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    Stevennix2001posted 14 years ago


    at the risk of sounding like a jerk, I wanted to ask you a few questions about your flawed logic, in the belief of love at first sight.

    Did you propose to your wife after your first date, since you knew you were in love with her from the start?  and was it first sight for her too?  if it was, then i can presume she said yes when you did, huh?

    Plus, if you had a teenage daughter, that brought home a drug dealer for a boyfriend, and told you it was love at first sight.  How are you going to argue with her on that, since you, yourself said you think love at first sight exist.  Which leads me to believe you'll probably have told her that story of you and your wife before that said incident.  therefore, i would like to hear you dispute it my friend.  sorry if i sound like a smart ass here, but i was just curious.

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      WayneAnsellposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Do you have a teenage daughter? Because I have an extremely intelligent one who knows the difference between making good decisions and bad ones. I don't have to worry about her bringing home a drug dealer boyfriend. Love at first sight has nothing to do with your arguement. Falling in love at first sight doesn't mean you make stupid rash decisions. It's a beautiful thing.

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        Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this

        yes, but you fail to forget that not all teenage girls are as smart as your daughter.  plus, the question wasn't directed at you sir.  it was directed at someone else to answer as he claimed earlier to be such a huge expert on the subject.  Plus, this topic is on whether or not love at first sight exists, and i was merely responding to Shadesbreath answer to my previous post.  please if your going to criticize me, then at least have the common decency to read EVERYTHING i say in the forum before you start to debate me.

        1. Shadesbreath profile image77
          Shadesbreathposted 14 years agoin reply to this

          Asking questions does not make you sound like a jerk.  Making comments like the following...

          ... does have the potential to make you come off like a jerk, however.  I never claimed to be an expert.  This post asked "Do you believe in Love at first sight" and I chimed in my two cents, and defended my position.  No claims of expertise were made, that is a fiction created by whatever psychology you have going on that has you projecting that sort of an attitude on other people.  It is said that we see others as we see ourselves.  That particular axiom rings true often.

          To your question...

          You are a master of red herrings and non-sequitur.  Love at first sight (if it exists) does not require an immediate marriage proposal as an essential and definitive component.

          You call yourself a jerk and a smartass, or seem to think I will take you for one if you ask questions.  I don't.  I only point out the fallacies behind the questions with which you so aggressively leap upon my opinions pertaining to the belief posed by this forum.  This particular argument you make, about my hypothetical teenage daughter, is a red herring.  The existence or non-existence of "love at first sight" has nothing to do with the opinions of parents or onlookers.  There either IS love at first sight or there is not.  Whether I like the fellow or not has nothing to do with it. If that love between them is real, then it will overcome all obstacles, including parental dissaproval.

          And, in closing, to your statement a few days ago...

          I'm glad you decided to reply.  It would be sad if you were that stunned that someone took you seriously.

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            Stevennix2001posted 14 years agoin reply to this


            well to be fair, when i said you claimed to be such a huge expert on relationships, i was saying that to a guy that decided to be a smart ass to me when i tried to debate your opinion.  he thought it was cute to try to start an arguement with me, so i was trying to defend myself and tell him to butt out because i was originally making a rebuttle to you previous comment to my opinion.  therefore i apologize to you shadesbreath if i offended you, but i merely said that out of anger at the other person, and not at you.  however, i am very offended you would take that out of context, but thats another story that i will not get into.  however, i do respect your opinion sole heartedly.  i just don't agree with it at all, and find your belief to be highly illogical.

            1. Shadesbreath profile image77
              Shadesbreathposted 14 years agoin reply to this

              Fair enough.  Belief on the part of one person is often seen as highly illogical on the part of others, so I think we can get along just fine with an understanding like that.  smile

  47. profile image0
    Stevennix2001posted 14 years ago


  48. wsp2469 profile image60
    wsp2469posted 14 years ago

    The REAL question is does the person you fall in love with at first sight believe in it?

    1. The Rope profile image60
      The Ropeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Yes and it was mutual.  I just last week lost the love of my life after 25 years of amazing love.  Neither of us would have turned back the clock.

      1. cheaptrick profile image74
        cheaptrickposted 14 years agoin reply to this

        You have my heart felt sympathy Rope.I'm sorry to say the loss is only diminished by time.I hope your memories afford you some comfort..

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    lyricsingrayposted 14 years ago

    100% totally yes! And more than once for sure big_smile

  50. blaise25 profile image73
    blaise25posted 14 years ago

    YES absolutely! ;p

    "As soon as your eyes meet, then everything happens from then on, just proves that you had been right in that first moment...when you suddenly realized you had been incomplete and now you're whole."


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