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Do you believe in Love at First sight? Or in second sight?

  1. kingphilipIV profile image60
    kingphilipIVposted 5 years ago

    Do you believe in Love at First sight? Or in second sight?

  2. jacobkuttyta profile image75
    jacobkuttytaposted 5 years ago

    I do believe not only in love at first sight, second sight ... but also at the last sight.

  3. Virgo908 profile image82
    Virgo908posted 5 years ago

    What could be thought of as love at first sight would be "attraction at first sight" -- love needs time to develop and knowing the person a bit more helps...

    1. debbiepinkston profile image82
      debbiepinkstonposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Exactly!  Many marriages end in divorce with people who claim to have loved at first sight.  They might have thought "Wow! I want to marry that woman" because of her exterior beauty, but that quickly takes a backseat to the person's personality.

  4. stricktlydating profile image81
    stricktlydatingposted 5 years ago

    Yes! I believe in both!  Love at first sight - When you see someone and you know you just adore them!  And second sight - You know you just adore them once you get to know them.

  5. LauraGT profile image92
    LauraGTposted 5 years ago

    I believe in "luv" at first sight, but "love" takes a little longer.  Sometimes luv and love can be found in the same person, but that doesn't necessarily mean they are the same thing!  Unfortunately, it means people think it does! Love requires actually knowing someone, caring deeply about them, and sharing mutual affection, respect, friendship, and attraction.

  6. Deepak Chaturvedi profile image72
    Deepak Chaturvediposted 5 years ago

    Yes, I believe love at first sight.That thing you could feel someone for someone.

  7. peeples profile image94
    peeplesposted 5 years ago

    No, it is impossible to love something you know nothing about. Lust at first sight, yes. Love at first sight, no.

  8. Ellandriel profile image75
    Ellandrielposted 5 years ago

    I believe in a big connection, in feelings that somehow we always known the person.
    Not by seeing her.
    But when spending a few hours we don't want to leave and we keep thinking about him, yes, I believe.

    Happened to me.

  9. greeneryday profile image78
    greenerydayposted 5 years ago

    Anything is possible, the first, second, third, fourth, and so on, love comes in an unexpected patterns, so better be prepared and don't be afraid to embrace love, as it is the most wonderful thing anyone should have.

  10. karthikkash profile image88
    karthikkashposted 5 years ago

    I don't believe in love at first sight. Most times what we think as love, is actually just attraction/infatuation. Yes, we may think of that person for a while, we may "feel" that connection and we may miss them. But what happens if you don't see them for a long time? Does it still remain the same? That may be a good measure to find out if it is love or not. There are lot of things that come into play when you are truly in love with someone. Do you really feel all that when you meet someone the first time? Do you really feel that you want to spend your entire life with them? Do you really feel that you will accept them for what they are? Even if there is a small doubt, that means it is not love.

    Also, two of the key ingredients of love are understanding and trust. No relationship can last without these two. And I don't think either of these can be gained as soon as you see someone. It needs time to develop.

    Love in second sight.. Possible. If you have really spent quality time with that person  when you met first time.

  11. soconfident profile image83
    soconfidentposted 5 years ago

    No really thats just attraction. Once you get to know a person then you'll be able to tell.

  12. jennshealthstore profile image90
    jennshealthstoreposted 5 years ago

    I think that sometimes we just know and could feel a strong connection with somebody the first time we meet them. We can feel very attracted to a person at first sight a strong chemistry at first sight, but love, real love comes with accepting a person for good and for bad, knowing and trusting a person. That cannot happen in an instant. Of course feeling that connection could cause the relationship to grow to that point, and like I said, you can meet a person and say I know this a person I could love, but of course that will come with time.

  13. epigramman profile image69
    epigrammanposted 5 years ago

    ..yes I had this feeling both times when I saw her sitting there in her dress with her beautiful smile - and it has continued everytime I lay my eyes upon her since that first day ...... lake erie time 9:09am ontario canada

  14. Insane Mundane profile image60
    Insane Mundaneposted 5 years ago

    How can you "love" something you don't know?  Love is something that grows over time...  Many folks mistake "love" for infatuation, attraction and good ol' sheer lust!  Which all of these things are fine, but if I replace those words with 'love' then I'd be loving all kinds of babes that I don't even know; get real...  Ha!

  15. anupma profile image80
    anupmaposted 5 years ago

    For me, if you really love someone, then you see and fall again in love with him/her. Of course the person is same.

  16. divacratus profile image76
    divacratusposted 5 years ago

    In several sights smile It takes a lot of meetings to fall in love with a person.. for me at least..

  17. jellygator profile image92
    jellygatorposted 5 years ago

    I think people throw this phrase around a lot, but it's misleading. I do know that I experienced a strong and unusual connection to my husband the first time I met him. I was nearing 40 years old and had never found myself feeling immediately bonded to someone or tongue-tied around a man ever before. When he turned me down for a date, I went on to date others, but that... "something"... was a continuous sense that all was good, that he would never harm me, and that I was on his mind even if he wasn't showing me.

    It's hard for me to call that lust.

    So I've concluded that LAFS is possible but extremely rare.

    1. Insane Mundane profile image60
      Insane Mundaneposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I think people throw the word 'love' around a lot, and don't even know what it is.  It's always funny to hear how deeply somebody is in love with "something," then to hear them tell "it" how much hate they actually have.  Yep, there is always luck!

  18. sandus profile image67
    sandusposted 5 years ago

    no i am not.. its not love, it is only an attraction to the opposite sex

  19. Rosana Modugno profile image84
    Rosana Modugnoposted 5 years ago

    Yes.  And I was a skeptic until it happened to me. 

    I had just started working at this company and saw him walking by, we looked at each other and whatever it was, gripped me and never let me go. 

    It was as though I knew everything about him.  Even his name sounded familiar to me.  When we were finally introduced and he shook my hand, I felt an incredible rush that only intensified when we got together. 

    I too thought this is just infatuation or lust but when we separated for a year, I went on with my life and he went on with his, there was never one day or night that he was not in my thoughts.  The pain of not seeing him was incredible.  I found it very difficult just to smile sometimes.  But we never lost contact and he always felt so close. 

    Finally one day, he showed up at my door unexpectedly and when he told me he had felt the same way, I knew whatever this was, was not lust or infatuation, we at this point become very good friends but it reached another level. 

    If this is not love, then it needs another word because I never felt this way for anyone in my life and I am no spring chicken.

    1. debbiepinkston profile image82
      debbiepinkstonposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for sharing your story, I'm curious to know how many years you have been together now?

    2. Deepak Chaturvedi profile image72
      Deepak Chaturvediposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I liked your story try to keep that candle lighting as you love each other by God grace and according to His wish.May your love alive till your last breath!

    3. kingphilipIV profile image60
      kingphilipIVposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for sharing your story to us my friend.. smile

  20. alphagirl profile image80
    alphagirlposted 5 years ago

    Yes and NO. I think much depends on what you are drawn to about that person.
    It may just be a fleeting moment, something about what you see is causing you to go aflutter. Sometimes it is instinct. I think it is possible. Good luck.

  21. Marketing Merit profile image97
    Marketing Meritposted 5 years ago

    I believe in lust at first sight...true love takes a little longer! wink

  22. Johnjfernando profile image60
    Johnjfernandoposted 5 years ago

    I never really had the personal experience myself, so I'd lean towards no. But, quite a few have said yes in a recent survey that was done by a Univerisity in the U.S.

  23. DaveysRecipeRead profile image60
    DaveysRecipeReadposted 5 years ago

    LauraGT hit the nail directly on it's head with her answer. Why say more? You can't love who or what you don't really know.
    And knowing just who that person is who you think you love can really only happen over the course of time. But why not enjoy the ride in all of it's phases without giving any phase a certain label? Even puppy love can be fun, can't it?

  24. debbiepinkston profile image82
    debbiepinkstonposted 5 years ago

    I have heard people talk about love at first sight....but I'm thinking they are actually referring to "attraction" at first sight.  Love requires us to really know the heart of the person, to know how they view life, how they treat others, what their goals are, and how they feel about things.  I don't think we could know this much about a person upon first seeing them.  It takes time and a lot of communication!

  25. carolp profile image80
    carolpposted 5 years ago

    I believe in Love at First sight because it happened to me. I have written a hub about it and it is based on my experience.

  26. AnnaCia profile image82
    AnnaCiaposted 5 years ago

    Not love at first sight, not even second.  Attraction could begin early as we know each other, but love is a strong feeling.

  27. Globetrekkermel profile image78
    Globetrekkermelposted 5 years ago

    Now that I am older, I don't believe in love at first sight. When I was younger, maybe I believed in love at first sight which is normal as you are very idealistic but when you get older , you  see the reality of it over time and your  your perception change.